How A Scorpio Man Falls In Love & Which Zodiac Signs Are His Perfect Match

Photo: pexels
How A Scorpio Man Falls In Love & What's Love Like When Dating This Zodiac Sign
Love, Zodiac

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) is one of the most – if not the most – intense and focused of all the zodiac signs (and not just when it comes to love).

When something (or someone) matters to Scorpio, he can be either fierce, passionate, and loyal, or possessive, obsessive, and jealous.

No matter which way his emotions sway, Scorpio never does what he deems as important halfway.

When Scorpio is in love, he will do just about anything to keep you close.

RELATED: Traits Of The Scorpio Zodiac Sign That Make It The Most Intense Sign In Astrology

Of course, getting to that stage where Scorpio feels like he can be himself around you – including letting you see his vulnerable side – is certainly a long and slow process.

When you first meet Scorpio, he may seem a little standoffish and shy, even if he approaches you first. For him, the first meeting is all about assessing if there could be something between you two in the future.

Scorpio has a tendency to judge people right away, so if you don’t make a good first impression, he may not give you a second chance.

It’s not always personal, though. Scorpio keeps his heart under lock and key, and he doesn’t want to give it to someone who may be careless with it. If he feels like you may break his heart after spending some time with you, he will write you off.

If he thinks that you may be a good match for him, he will start to slowly but surely open up to you. Give him time, though. Scorpio needs to reveal his vulnerable side to you without being rushed or forced.

If his significant other tries to push him to open up or commit before he’s ready, the relationship won’t last. What Scorpio is looking for is to be part of an iconic duo. All of the best couples in history are definitely #RelationshipGoals for him. He wants someone he can be successful with, someone who will rule their kingdom while he rules his, and can help him achieve that power couple status he’s looking for in life. A Scorpio man in love is very non-traditional.

Gender roles and traditional marriage be damned – he is all about writing his own rule book with you. He likes the idea of having equal opportunity to spend with you and by himself.

He is also intensely sexual and romantic and will sweep you off your feet in the bedroom. Your intimate life with him will always be full of surprises and fun. One thing a Scorpio man in love needs from his S.O. is a deep connection that he doesn’t have with anyone else.

RELATED: Which Zodiac Signs Are The Most (And Least) Compatible With Scorpio

You will be the person he comes to when he wants to have a serious conversation with, the one he wants to have endless adventures with, and the one who will hold all his secrets.

Scorpio may be a handful at times, but he knows his worth and won’t let anyone try to minimize who he is.

As intriguing as Scorpio may be to you, there are some zodiac signs that have a better chance of making a relationship work with him than others. Keep reading to find out what love is like when dating a Scorpio man.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries and Scorpio have an undeniable sexual bond. Both zodiac signs are ruled by the passionate planet Mars, which helps keep the bedsheets burning for them. These signs are also highly private, competitive, and slow to trust, which can mean a lot of intense conversations and arguments.

As a fire sign, Aries has much different needs than Scorpio, a water sign. The connection between these two signs needs extra love and care because fire and water don’t always mix well.

As a water sign, Scorpio requires a lot of home visits, quality time, and hanging with friends. As a fire sign, Aries needs a lot of adventure, being social, and changing up their daily routine.

Both may be stubborn and adamant about what’s most important to them in a relationship, but both have the ability to be fluid and do things for the sake of the relationship rather than be selfish.

Expect the Aries-Scorpio pairing to butt heads quite a lot. This odd coupling may work out better than expected or it may lead to a lot of disagreements and not seeing eye-to-eye. With enough self-awareness, it is possible for this pairing to work on some level.

RELATED: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio (As Written By One)

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Opposites most definitely attract when Taurus and Scorpio are paired together. Both signs are highly private, so snuggling up at home and locking the rest of the world out is certainly an ideal way for these two to bond.

Because this couple prefers home life to the chaos of nightlife, it makes it much easier for each zodiac sign to cater to the other’s needs; Scorpio’s need for a safe, vulnerable space and Taurus’ need for security and comfort.

Let’s remember one thing, though: Too much time together is going to be a recipe for disaster. Taurus and Scorpio need to give each other space every once in a while, even if that just means retreating to different rooms in the house. Spending too much time together will lead to a lot of petty criticisms, focusing on each other’s flaws, and generally disliking each other.

It’s not all bad! As an earth sign, Taurus has a way of grounding Scorpio like no one else but must remember not to minimize the things that are most important to Scorpio, like talking about feelings. As a water sign, Scorpio can reassure Taurus that they are loved and wanted, as long as they don’t suffocate them with too many emotions and feelings all the time.

Both Scorpio and Taurus are fixed signs, which means they can both be stubborn and territorial. For this pairing to work, they must remember that it’s them against the problem, not them against each other. This can be a very emotional coupling, but as opposites, a Taurus-Scorpio pairing has the ability to become a soulmate relationship.

RELATED: 20 Quotes That Prove Scorpio Women Are The Queens Of Sass

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Cat-and-mouse games and overwhelming intellectual stimulation may turn off some couples, but it totally works for Gemini and Scorpio. To an outsider, everything that this couple talks about or does with each other looks so intense and private… and to the two actually inside this relationship – it’s exactly that.

No one can truly wrap their head around this relationship like Gemini and Scorpio… even though many try. The one area where these two signs are most likely to clash is keeping up with the games long after making it official.

It’s okay to admit that you have feelings for each other, you know. It doesn’t always have to be a “will they, won’t they” mystery. One thing that may scare this couple away from never making it totally official is the thought that the playfulness and flirtiness between them will go away. Instead, it’s up to them to keep the spark alive.

Gemini is air and Scorpio is water, which is about as opposite as you can get. Gemini will be more likely to embrace change and adventure, while Scorpio will look for comfort and sentimentality. Because these two signs are so different elementally, they will have to learn to appreciate each other’s differences, rather than nit-pick them.

There is a big opportunity for growth for this pairing. If Gemini can embrace Scorpio’s emotional sensitivity, and Scorpio can embrace Gemini’s need for new people and new experiences, this couple has the potential to work like a well-oiled machine. The keyword for these two is compromise.

RELATED: Zodiac Signs That Have Psychic Powers, Ranked From Most To Least

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Talk about kindred spirits! Cancer and Scorpio are both water signs, which means they understand things about each other a lot better than other elements do, and right off the bat too.

While both signs can be wary about letting their guards down and opening up, they feel safe doing it with each other. This relationship is very nurturing and healing, which leads to a lot of open conversation about fears and dreams.

That said, both signs can also be very possessive, sensitive, and proud – which means that if these two don’t give each other the benefit of the doubt every once in a while, there will most likely be a lot of grudges and arguments.

Take this pairing down to its most basic, shared element – water. Water can be tranquil and beautiful when it’s not disturbed, but it can also be tsunami-like and create ultimate destruction. Likewise, this pairing can go off without a hitch, or it can leave a lot of destruction in its wake.

Give each other the space you need to grow and evolve as your own person, but make equal time for quality time together, too. This relationship requires a lot of give and take to master, but it does have a lot of potential for success if Cancer and Scorpio play their cards right.

RELATED: What Is Your Mars Sign — And How It Affects Your Personality And Love Life

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Both Leo and Scorpio have highly magnetic personalities, which can lead to an intensely physical relationship from the time they meet to the time they call it quits. Both see themselves as leaders, which means a lot of power struggles at first.

If these signs can put their pride aside, they can become one of the most powerful couples in astrology, but it will take time. If things don’t work out romantically between Leo and Scorpio, there’s always the potential for business partners or besties.

Fire and water are two elements that need to be combined carefully, so it makes sense that Leo and Scorpio would have such different needs. Scorpio needs comfort and security to feel safe in a relationship, while Leo actually thrives on discomfort and getting out of their comfort zone often.

As both Scorpio and Leo are fixed signs, it’s up to them to put their stubbornness aside to compromise in this relationship. Learn to embrace the challenge of compromise and sacrifice in the name of your relationship, or prepare to say goodbye. If they can’t put their pride aside for love, the Leo-Scorpio pairing will never last.

RELATED: The Ultimate Scorpio Compatibility Guide: Understanding Love & Relationships According To The Zodiac

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

A pairing between Virgo and Scorpio is one that is built on a deeply spiritual, reflective connection between the two signs. Both zodiac signs value communication, friendship, and patience in a relationship, which is exactly how this pairing will last.

While these signs may be private and enjoy having their own lives outside of the relationship, they are one of the best couples for coexisting and vibing on an intimate level together.

However, because these two signs are so deeply in tuned to one another, there’s always the chance that this pairing can turn into an obsessive battle for control when every day isn’t happy-go-lucky for the two of them.

Knowing when to come to each other with questions or problems, and when to turn to their safety nets and support systems, will be a lifelong practice.

That said, this pairing is definitely harmonious. No matter what, Virgo and Scorpio will always have similar values and attitudes about life, which will keep them close. Being friends will be easy for the Virgo-Scorpio pairing; it’s growing as a romantic couple that will take time and effort.

RELATED: What Your Venus Zodiac Sign Says About The Way You Love, Per Astrology

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

When first meeting, Libra and Scorpio will hit it off. These two zodiac signs have similar interests that will help them bond. It’s only when they start to make something real out of their first meeting that things can get challenging.

For starters, Libra is the kind of person who wears their heart on their sleeve. When they have feelings for someone, they aren’t going to hold back from telling that person. Scorpio, on the other hand, isn’t going to be comfortable admitting there’s a definite spark until they know for sure they’re interested in someone.

As an air sign, Libra tends to go with the flow and embrace change in life and love. For Scorpio, a water sign, change isn’t something they’re usually happy with. Scorpio would much rather build a secure relationship with no surprises right off the bat. Learning how to embrace each other’s differences is the only way this pairing will see a real future.

Because Libra and Scorpio are zodiac neighbors, there may seem like more differences than similarities between them. Think of them like two people living next door to each other.

At first glance, all anyone can see are the things that make them different, but with a chance to get to know each other and get past the superficial, you never know what will come from this couple.

RELATED: What Venus In The Seventh House Means Each Zodiac Sign, Per Astrology

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

A Scorpio-Scorpio match is an instant connection. Explosively intimate, deeply connected, and totally secure – this pairing is unlike any other pairing a Scorpio man can have, and it’s obviously because it’s with another Scorpio.

Being in a relationship with someone who is the same zodiac sign as you means that you don’t have to worry about not being understood or loved. Scorpio knows what going on beneath Scorpio’s private exterior better than any other zodiac sign, which only strengthens the bond these two signs have.

It sounds like a dream come true, right? Not so fast. Jumping into a relationship (and into bed) with your zodiac twin means that you’re getting all of the bad that comes with the good. Bad habits, fears, and pet peeves feel as amplified as the good things in this relationship because you’re both dealing with the same things.

There will be ultimate comfort and happiness in this pairing, but it will be up to the Scorpios to know how slow to take things. It will be easy for them to jump straight into something serious and long-term, but too much time spent with your favorite person can lead to resentment.

Setting boundaries and keeping up honest communication will be key for these two as they navigate a match (possibly) made in heaven.

RELATED: 8 Reasons Scorpio Women Are The Best Women To Love

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

A relationship between Sagittarius and Scorpio is never boring, but it can definitely have a “love-hate” feel to it. Both zodiac signs are very intense about what they want in love and life, and it’s hard for them to back down when butting heads with someone who is just as intense.

Sagittarius will have to learn to listen to what Scorpio is saying, and Scorpio will have to let Sagittarius take the wheel every so often.

Sagittarius may want nothing more than to disrupt the world, while Scorpio wants to build a cozy home life and hide away from the world. Sagittarius and Scorpio have the potential to be polar opposites who never get along or each other’s biggest cheerleaders.

Sagittarius is a mutable sign, which means that they are ever-changing – in their thoughts, actions, and needs. It can be hard for anyone to guess what Sagittarius will want next.

But as a water sign, Scorpio is capable of understanding Sagittarius on an emotional level. Likewise, Sagittarius can help Scorpio get out of their shell and understand that embracing who you are isn’t so scary after all.

Because Scorpio and Sagittarius are zodiac neighbors, it can be much easier for them to find fault with each other than be able to embrace the differences. Even if a romance between these two don't last, a friendship or bond through business is still a good possibility.

RELATED: What Venus In The 9th House Means For Your Love Life & Relationships, By Zodiac Sign

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

It might not sound like a good thing to call Capricorn and Scorpio obsessive, but it can actually be a huge compliment. Both zodiac signs are overachievers who tend to sink their hooks into a goal and not let go until they get what they want.

The reason this pairing has a penchant for success is that these zodiac signs greatly admire each other’s need to succeed.

Unfortunately, if both Scorpio and Capricorn have busy schedules keeping them tied to their offices until late at night, it means there is less time to cultivate a romantic relationship. It can be very easy for these two signs to write each other off in the name of furthering their careers. If the relationship is important, it may be in this paring’s best interest to schedule time for each other.

A Scorpio-Capricorn match is ultra-sensitive, compassionate, and caring. It’ll be a challenge at times for these zodiac signs to put their individual needs aside in order to better serve the relationship, but having two go-getters in a relationship may just be a recipe for success.

RELATED: Which Zodiac Signs Are The Most (And Least) Compatible With Capricorn

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius and Scorpio may not make a lot of sense on paper, but there’s a reason some connections just can’t be explained. This pairing transcends logic and reason and can be an endless sea of mystery for those who aren’t in this relationship, but that’s just how these zodiac signs like it.

Scorpio can teach Aquarius how to embrace domestic life in all its unique glory, while Aquarius can teach Scorpio the fun and importance of opening up to new people. While both zodiac signs can be a handful at times, they are well-equipped to handle each other’s quirks and habits.

Where these zodiac signs clash is Scorpio’s inability to trust easily and Aquarius’ endless need for freedom. If there isn’t a constant stream of honest communication, this couple will never last. This will certainly be a challenging relationship, but there’s also great potential for this relationship to be a powerful force.

RELATED: The Person You Are Most Compatible With, Based On Your Moon Sign

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

What do you get when you put two water signs together? Drama, attraction, and addiction. Because both zodiac signs are skilled in reading people better than most other signs, it can be easy for Scorpio and Pisces to cultivate double lives, just to get out from under each other’s microscopes.

Don’t get them wrong: this can be a match that lasts longer than any other match for Scorpio. But it can also come with a lot of struggles and challenges.

Scorpio and Pisces will bond instantly over shared interests and a need for acceptance. The connection these two zodiac signs can make in a short amount of time can become dangerously intense.

It’ll be in their best interest to make sure they have rich lives outside of the relationship, as well.

There will always be an opportunity to learn new things about each other in a Pisces-Scorpio pairing, however, without honest communication, they can quickly turn on each other if they feel like one of them is hiding something from the other.

Obviously, this couple is passionate and intense, and while it may seem stressful at first, Scorpio and Pisces have the ability to foster an unbreakable, lifetime bond with each other as romantic partners or best friends.

RELATED: Facts About The Pisces Horoscope Sign That Explain These Wise, Old Souls Perfectly

Before you go,
subscribe to our newsletter.

Join now for YourTango's trending articles, top expert advice and personal horoscopes delivered straight to your inbox each morning.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes.