Unique Traits Of A Scorpio Man In Love And Life

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Those with a Scorpio Sun sign are born between October 23 and November 21. Scorpio is ruled by Mars and Pluto — Mars is the planet of aggression and action, also known as the god of war; Pluto is the planet of transformation and power — meaning they tend to be fiery and passionate (Mars), as well as secretive (Pluto).

Scorpio is a fixed sign, so they tend to adhere to traditions, are a bit rigid, and fight for what they believe in. This water sign is deeply emotional and intuitive and has a wild imagination.

Scorpio men are incredibly passionate individuals who are set in their ways. And though they can be jealous and secretive, they are compassionate and loving, as their close loved ones very well know. Much like Scorpio women, Scorpio men are also mysterious and very sensual, but are vindictive when wronged.

These passionate men are full of heart and soul, but know what they want and will stick to the path they have set for themselves. Independent by nature, he doesn’t like being told that he can’t achieve something, and he definitely doesn’t like being lied to.

His stubbornness serves him well in bringing his ambitions to fruition, and he won’t stop until he gets there. His work ethic is something to be truly envied.

This incredibly complex zodiac sign can be serious, however, so it’s best to not get in his way; otherwise, you face a truly bitter and resentful man. It’s also difficult to convince him of something once he’s made his mind up, as he tends to think in black-and-white terms. But his curious nature and intuition keep him on his toes, always learning new things. And if you’re lucky enough to break through his rough exterior, you’ll find that his wisdom and loyalty are refreshing.

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Scorpio man personality traits

Scorpio’s personality is a perfect balance of ambition, passion and loyalty mixed with jealousy, secrecy, and dominance. Anything this man sets his mind to, he will accomplish; he’s also a bit competitive, which puts him ahead of the game in most cases. Nothing can derail him from achieving what he set out to do, and even if it’s not career-based, Scorpios truly aren’t afraid of the challenges life throws at them.

Despite being go-getters, they have a softer side to their personality once they show their vulnerability. This is one of the most loyal zodiac signs, especially in a romantic relationship. Honesty and trust are of the utmost importance to them, and they treat their partners with respect, affection and warmth. As partners, they devote their heart and soul to the one they love, and remain faithful until the end.

But for those unfortunate enough to see their dark side, Scorpio’s jealousy and possessiveness is enormous and fierce. There’s nothing Scorpio hates more than liars, so if someone breaks their trust or betrays them, they are incredibly resentful, unforgiving, and sure to get their revenge.

Their jealousy can run rampant in relationships if left unchecked, and they can easily become possessive if they think their partner isn’t fully, 100 percent committed. And because they tend to take their time being vulnerable, they are also secretive and quite mysterious, leaving others to wonder what they are really like. They hide their true selves in an effort to protect their emotions, and won’t readily reveal information about themselves.

Scorpio man in love

When Scorpio is searching for a mate, things can get intense. He’s not one to play games or waste time, so if someone isn’t interested, he moves on quickly.

However, if he is interested, things can become fiery, fast. He shows his interest through actions as a way to get a sense of their own personality traits relative to his, meaning he takes his dates to romantic locations. Scorpio men are dominant but can act in two different ways: either he’s open and honest, or he continues to put up a front for fear of getting hurt.

When the Scorpio man falls in love, he’s a truly devoted partner who will commit his entire life to the one he adores. He showers his romantic partner with love, treating them like royalty, intense passion, and, of course, sensuality.

Because he tends to become attached to his partner, he’s all in; should they create cause for concern, he won’t spend a second with someone who doesn’t want him; this also means he will be full of disdain and seek revenge in one way or another.

In a relationship, Scorpio is understanding and loving, but he has a dark side. He’s also prone to jealousy and being possessive, so even if he has a monogamous relationship, he will always be on the lookout for signs of cheating or betrayal. If that happens, expect a severe response sure to cause pain. He wants a mate for life, so a relationship with him is full of care, respect, trust, and loyalty.

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Scorpio man compatibility

In terms of Scorpio compatibility, this sign is most compatible with fellow water signs Cancer and Pisces, as well as earth signs Capricorn and Virgo.

Cancer is emotional, intuitive and passionate, and have the same goals as Scorpio; Pisces is creative and sensitive, and gives Scorpio what they lack; Capricorn is goal-oriented and supports Scorpio emotionally when they need it most; Virgo matches Scorpio’s loyalty and compassion.

Scorpio men are attracted to individuals who are independent, passionate about something, confident, sexual, and mysterious, just like they are. Like attracts like in this case. To get along with Scorpio or attract him, you must be eager to learn and achieve, challenge him, be self-assured, and be able to form an emotional connection.

If you have a Scorpio Sun, be sure to complete your full birth chart (also called a natal chart) for a better sense of your zodiac compatibility. Your Sun sign is only one part of your personality, so it’s best to have the whole picture. You have many more placements in your charts that affect your life and personality, so don’t just focus on your Sun sign alone.

Scorpio man sexuality

Scorpio is easily the most intense and sensual zodiac sign in astrology! Ruled by two planets that control our sexuality and instincts, it’s no wonder the Scorpion of the Zodiac is well worth the hype. This sign brings a high level of energy and passion to the bedroom, and sex with him is powerful and emotional. Sex with a Scorpio man can be tender or truly primal, and though he prefers emotional intimacy to physical intimacy, he wants to satisfy his partner no matter what. In fact, part of that satisfaction for him is giving his partner an experience that bonds them or borders on something spiritual.

Facts about dating a Scorpio man

1. Scorpio men love being right.

No one likes to admit they were wrong about something, and the same goes for Scorpio men. He can sometimes be a know-it-all, but that's only because he doesn't like the hit to his ego. Scorpio can't be right about everything all the time, of course; there will be times when you know something he doesn't, and vice versa. But don't rub it in his face when this happens; instead, use it as an opportunity to teach him something new.

2. Scorpio men are easily jealous.

That hug with your male friend lasted too long, that guy on the street gave you a big smile that felt overly friendly, or you and your male co-worker are too chummy — even though you've told your Scorpio multiple times that you’re just friendly, that doesn’t fly with him. Jealousy is a powerful emotion, and in his eyes, every male you encounter is a potential threat. So, realize and acknowledge that his insecurity in relationships isn't personal to you. Deep down, he may feel he's not good enough in some way. Gently remind him that you have eyes only for him by being a little more affectionate.

3. Friendships are important to Scorpio men.

He's known his best friend since childhood, and some of his other close friends for about just as long. Long-time friendships are important to him because he knows that good friends are hard to come by. He's a loyal and true friend, and he will stick by his friends in good times and bad. Try not to get mad at him if he has to run out in the middle of your latest Netflix binge to go help his buddy. His loyalty and devotion will be there for you, too.

4. Scorpio men aren't afraid of anything.

New challenges excite him. You'll find that he jumps at the chance to try something new. Whether it be skydiving, mountain climbing, or camping alone in the woods for a weekend, nothing scares him. His bravery knows no bounds. Take advantage of this by getting him to try the things that you like. He will appreciate the opportunity to find something new to conquer.

5. A Scorpio man values honesty above all else.

If you can't be honest with a Scorpio man, you can't be in a relationship with him. It sounds brutal, but honesty is one of those things he values in a relationship most. You don't need to reveal all your secrets, but tell him how you really feel about certain things. He thinks honesty is important because it's how he gets to know the real you.

6. A Scorpio man likes to take charge of situations.

Scorpio makes an excellent leader because he can stay calm, cool and collected in stressful situations. His work ethic knows know bounds, and he knows exactly how to deal with any circumstance because he’s already experienced it and found the best solution. He's assertive and dedicated, so people always listen to him.

7. Scorpio men easily make decisions.

Scorpios strongly dislike passive people. He's the kind of person who always knows what he wants and how to get it. He doesn't beat around the bush or just accept things the way they are; he gets right to the point. If you have something to say, speak up. Don't keep your opinions to yourself. He may be intimidating, but you won't offend him.

8. Scorpio men tell you what's on their minds.

He will probably be the first one to say, "I love you." He won't waste any time denying or hiding his feelings for you. Scorpios live to express their emotions, which is good for you, because you'll never have to wonder how he really feels about you. He loves being free from that stereotype that men don't share when they care.

9. A Scorpio man is passionate about everything, especially life.

He's crazy about you, his job, kayaking, hiking, cooking, and building things with his hands. Just like other Scorpios, his passion shows through in everything he loves. Sometimes he can get so caught up in his job or a project that he loses track of time. But you could sit there all day and watch him work because you love the way he invests his heart and soul into everything he's passionate about.

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Scorpio man's relationships


When it comes to his family, Scorpio men are devoted and loyal. He puts family first and does whatever it takes to make sure they are well taken care of. Scorpio puts his time, energy and love into nurturing his family to the best of his abilities.

As a father, Scorpio is protective of his children, but also wants to instill in them a sense of independence and fascination with the world around them. He also wants to raise them as individuals who are respectful, both of people and traditions. And while Scorpio relies on himself, at the end of the day, he knows he’s nothing without his brood.


As friends, Scorpios are incredibly devoted and passionate, making a friendship with them one that’s full of adventure, generosity and loyalty. He’s not one to make friends quickly, so his closest allies are those he’s known for quite some time; he doesn’t open up emotionally to people he’s just met, and it will take some time to win him over.

Still, he does have a large friend circle, though many are simply acquaintances. He’s also weary of letting people in because of his vindictive nature. His friends understand that trust and honesty are the basis of a healthy relationship, and should they go against either, they will be met with anger and bitterness, and most likely cut out for good.

Scorpio man's career

Because they are so independent, in the workplace, Scorpio prefers to work alone, as they are more productive that way; they aren’t great team players, unfortunately. But that doesn’t mean they slack off; rather, they are able to focus on completing tasks and have a strong work ethic. When left to their own devices rather than being micromanaged, they put out work of quality and excellence.

The best careers for Scorpio are those that let his intelligence and hard work shine through. He does best in any career, really, but the best fit for a Scorpio man include psychology, criminology, therapy, medicine, research, journalism, or teaching.

Famous Scorpio Men

Though they are mysterious, these famous Scorpio men are intense and passionate, especially about their career, whether it’s music, acting, or innovating.

Danny DeVito: November 17, 1944

Leonardo DiCaprio: November 11, 1974

Joaquin Phoenix: October 28, 1974

Matthew McConaughey: November 4, 1969

Ryan Reynolds: October 23, 1976

Sean ‘P. Diddy’ Combs: November 4, 1969

Drake: October 24, 1986

Bill Gates: October 28, 1955

Jimmy Kimmel: November 13, 1967

Adam Driver: November 19, 1983

Gerard Butler: November 13, 1969

Ryan Gosling: November 12, 1980

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Tess Griman is a writer whose work focuses on astrology, relationships and pop culture.