What Your Ex Deserves To Hear About Himself, According To His Zodiac Sign

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what your ex needs to hear

You wish you could have told them this.

Did you say everything that you needed to say to your ex or were many things left unsaid?

When you’re in the middle of a breakup, you can lose your mind a little. You feel so many emotions like anger, fear, betrayal, and even hopelessness. You can be screaming and shouting and still not feel like you’re being heard. It can be more than challenging to remember everything you want to say.

If you’re fighting with your ex and things get especially nasty, you may say all kinds of horrible things or you might hold yourself back instead, not wanting to hurt them as you’ve been hurt.

And if your breakup is calm and mature, you may still not feel as if it’s the right time to say what you need to say. Years can pass and you both can get into new relationships, but there’s still that thought that buzzes around in your brain about your ex. You wish you had told them and there’s a part of you that wonders if you’ll ever be completely free of them if you still have pent up feelings about them.

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When you and your ex remain friends, you need to consider how important that friendship is and if ranting to your ex about past wrongs will harm it. How crucial to your life is a friendship with your ex?

If it’s not appropriate to contact them and tell them what’s been on your mind, then there are things that you can do to relieve that frustration. Talk to a health care professional or a friend, write in your journal or blog, write them a letter (but under no circumstances send it), or pretend that you’re talking to them.

It's better to get everything out, even if they’re not present to receive it. Once you’ve expressed those feelings or thoughts, you’ll be able to heal. However, it's him that needs to hear what you have to say.

This is what your ex needs to hear, based on his zodiac sign.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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He needs to know that his words can hurt and to think about what he says before he says it. When he says something inappropriate, blunt, or just plain mean, he doesn't seem to realize that even if he didn't mean them to, they hurt. Sure, he's over it practically as soon as the words leave his mouth but that doesn't mean the hurt the person he spoke that way to doesn't have lasting pain from them. 


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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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He needs to know that his possessiveness and jealousy aren't endearing or attractive. No one wants to feel like they're a prisoner in a relationship but that's how he makes people feel. He makes his partner feel as if what they want or say has no bearing on him and that he needs to control them. You didn't enjoy feeling as if your opinions and needs didn't count. If he doesn't start to respect other people's independence he's going to be alone for a long time.


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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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He needs to know that you never knew what you were going to get with him each day. Was he in a good mood or a foul one? You didn't want to make a mistake or take the wrong action in case he exploded. He made you feel nervous and a bit scared and you never felt as if you could completely trust him. When he was feeling good and sociable, he shone like the sun, but when he got dark, you didn't want to be around him.


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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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He needs to know that he's too sensitive. Sure, sensitivity and vulnerability are great qualities to have, especially in a man, but he starts at hypersensitive and goes up from there. He definitely needs to tone down his feels a little — he's not some emo kid, he's a grown up and needs to toughen up, just not enough to turn him into an assh*le.


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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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You felt as if he was dragging you down with his neediness and self-centered attitude. Did everything have to be about him? You know he cared and was interested in your life but he somehow was always able to make it about him and his feelings. You felt as if he used you as a sounding board, someone he could tell everything to and that you'd make everything better, but in the process your needs got lost.


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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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He needs to know that talking smack about other people isn't attractive and that when he was snotty and hypercritical, it didn't make you feel closer to him as if you were sharing secrets, it made you dislike him. You knew he had a good heart, it's just that it was easy to forget when he was so busy criticizing everyone.


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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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He needs to know that it's not okay to flirt with anything with a pulse, let alone have sex with them. His flirty style can come across as charming but he takes it too far. He seems to have no moral compass as far as cheating goes. You never felt like you could leave him alone with anyone without him hitting on them. If he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship, he shouldn't pretend that he does as it's unfair to everyone concerned.


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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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He needs to know that he has anger issues. You think he believes that he has a certain degree of anger like everybody else but that's not true. When he gets angry, he goes out for blood and leaves a path of destruction in his wake. It's startling how quickly he can go from 1 to 100+ on the rage scale. It wouldn't be a bad idea for him to go to some anger management classes and learn how to control his temper.


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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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He needs to know that he's not that hilarious. He has a good sense of humor and can occasionally be funny but the constant joke telling at other people's expense and the need to always be the life of the party is draining. He never knows when to shut up and when not to tell a dick joke. He's like the class clown gone wrong. If he can't ever just be himself, it makes you wonder what it is that he's hiding?


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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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He needs to know that he plays it too safe. You don't think he's dull or boring, just that he gets stuck in a rut far too easily. Everyone needs to break out of their routine every once and a while but he seems too afraid to do that. It's one thing to have the same routine every day but to eat the same things for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? That's unbelievable.


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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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He needs to know that his obsession with proving himself is draining. He never slowed down and it was always about the deal or the what he achieved at work and how he could do better. Having goals is very important but not when those goals get in the way of having a good life. If he did something, the motivation was always about how it would appear to others and if it would help his brand.


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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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He needs to grow up and get his act together. His boyish charm is starting to wear thin and his irresponsible attitude doesn't make him hot, it makes him pathetic. He's a great guy if he'd just demonstrate a little maturity. No more escaping to his dream world. He needs to face up to reality and take care of things before they get out of hand.


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