Why Getting Your Life Together Is A Struggle, Per Astrology

Why It's So Hard To Get Your Life Together, By Zodiac Sign

You need to get you stuff together, girl.

If life is starting to feel like one bad thing after another, you could probably stand to reevaluate your life. We all go through periods in our lives when we feel like we're totally out of control and out of moves, but it doesn't have to stay that way.

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What's important to remember is that we can't always control everything. When things turn chaotic, it's sometimes better to just acknowledge the chaos and move on. The Universe is willing to give you far too many gifts for you to get hung up on the few that don't work out for you.

When life hands you a whole lot of negativity, it's worth waiting for the one positive thing, no matter how small and insignificant it may seem. Each zodiac sign wants something different out of life. Some of us want good fortune and a successful career, while others want a family and a lot of friends.

But before you can have everything you've ever wanted and more, you have to struggle a bit – we can't all be handed things without proving that we've earned them, right? As sucky as that sounds, so many good things come from the bad.

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Often, it's a test to our strength when we can come out of a bad, chaotic situation ready to succeed. But right now, that's not what you're feeling. Right now, all you can feel is how frustrated and fed up you're getting because you just can't seem to get your life together.

There are a lot of factors that can stop you from living your best life. Some are external, like having people in your life that don't care if you succeed or fail, while others can be internal, like not having the confidence you need to believe in your success.

No matter what factors are making it hard for you to finally get your sh*t together, you can work through them and start living your best life. So, where to start? One good starting place is only investing your time and attention in people who want to see you succeed.

When it comes right down to it, life is way too short to keep the toxic people around. Every single person in your life should be your self-esteem when you have none, your cheerleader when you're feeling down on yourself, and your support when you need reassurance that you're on the right path.

Anyone who doesn't fit the bill doesn't deserve you. When your life seems like it's off the rails, it can be easy to feel like you have to change who you are – hey, if being yourself isn't getting you anywhere, why not be someone else and try that for a change?

Unfortunately, societal norms make us feel like we all have to fit into the same molds to be successful, but that's simply not true. You can set yourself apart from the crowd. 

Do something you're passionate about (instead of what you feel like you should do), and have your sh*t together – these things aren't mutually exclusive.

All in all, getting your life together takes time. And we can't prevent ourselves from making the same mistakes and ending up exactly where we are right now all over again. But you can take small steps to getting your life back on track with the help of astrology.

Before you can begin, you need to understand why you feel so stuck. Here your horoscope as to why it's so hard to get your life together, according to your zodiac sign, per astrology.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Aries, because you have a hard time finishing what you start. You have so many good ideas – and the drive to get things started – but when it comes to actually going through with something or taking the next steps, you lose interest.

Maybe it's because you do things out of impulse or you just never really think things through, but seeing things through to the end isn't your bag.

One thing that might be holding you back from getting your life together is thinking that you have to be in charge the whole time. There's nothing wrong with asking for help or delegating tasks at work, so why is it so taboo IRL?

I know, you like being the boss, but the next time you have to see through what you've started – whether it's a project or a relationship – remember that there are other important players involved, too.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Taurus, because you always seem to have some kind of financial struggle going on. You have the power of the stabilizing bull in your nature, but the temptation to blow your paycheck on a new pair of shoes made of luxurious leather or the newest wearable technology is too great to give up.

I get it, you want to live comfortably, but learning how to be fiscally smart is more important.

If you want to really be an adult – the one you always joke about not being when your rent is due – you need to be active with your finances. Meet with a financial adviser, download a money-saving app, and learn how to make your money work for you.

Taking the backseat on something that's such a big part of your life will only bite you in the ass. Soon, you will be able to afford the luxuries, but right now, it's about getting your life together.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Gemini, because you don't know how to express yourself. Sure, you're the communicator of the zodiac, and you certainly have a lot to say, but when it comes to speaking your truth, you lose your voice.

Perhaps it has something to do with the planetary alignment, but normally-talkative Gemini is almost shy when it comes to speaking up. Don't get me wrong, you are vital when it comes to creating dynamic duos, but you can also be very supplicating when it comes to partnerships.

You're quick to compromise and please your other half, rather than telling them exactly what you want and need out of the relationship. Until you get out of your comfort zone and speak up, you'll always feel a little lost in life.

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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Cancer, because your relationship with your family is holding you back. Whether it's your blood family or your chosen one, you always seem to run into barriers when it comes to leaving the nest and experiencing life.

Cancer is known to be one of the shier zodiac signs, so part of this may be you feeling a little hesitant to move out, be your own person, or detaching from your family. Don't feel like you can't have a close relationship with your family – just know that there's a difference between having a family that supports you and one that holds you back.

It might not even be your family at all. You might feel responsible for your family and create barriers where there are none. Family will always drive us nuts, but it's up to you to find a healthy balance between your personal life and your family life to really succeed.

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Leo, because your journey is a long one. You have big plans for yourself – HUGE plans, in fact – but for one reason or another, you choose to take the scenic route to get there.

That's not to say that once you realize your calling that you should rush into it, but you definitely need to be more self-aware when it comes to making the right decisions. It seems a little fake, but even the most confident Leos were once in your position.

You have a lot that you want too to accomplish, and when it comes to figuring out what to do first, you find yourself either doing everything at once or doing nothing at all.

Getting your life together should be about trusting your process, finding your confidence, and learning to tell people what you want and need, rather than expecting them to just know.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Virgo, because there's way too much chaos in the world for your liking. Look, we can't control everything around us, but you certainly try.

While you might think being a perfectionist is helpful, it can actually hurt your chances of being successful in the long run. What you really need to focus on are the little details that make the big picture so magnificent.

Rather than worrying about whether your life is perfect from every angle, focus on the things that make it perfect. If your job doesn't get you excited every day, find a new one. If your partner isn't making your life better, get rid of him.

If your friends are making you work harder than you have to just to keep in touch, they're not dong you any favors. Get the idea? Once you polish up the smaller details, a bigger sense of perfection will come into view.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Libra, because you have a hard time finding the perfect balance between give and take. This planetary placement for you is all about relationships, and one of your goals in life is to find the perfect partnership.

That said, you can't just wish a perfect relationship into your life – you have to work at it. If you want to get your sh*t together, you need to learn how to set boundaries.

Maybe you find yourself unable to give too much of yourself to a relationship or friendship out of fear, or maybe you give too much of yourself and let people walk all over you.

Either way, setting emotional, mental, and physical boundaries will be your saving grace. You can have it all, Libra, you just need to take the first step.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Scorpio, because you haven't gone through your big transformation yet. You know something in your life is off – you can feel it.

But you either don't know what it is yet or you refuse to acknowledge the thing or person bringing you pain. The only way to advance into the next phase of your life is to suffer and be reborn.

Sounds like heavy stuff, I know. But what it really means is this: Get rid of that toxic friendship. Stop using your appearance as a security blanket and be exactly who you want to be.

Accept that that one thing isn't coming back and move on. Getting your life together is about finding the power within you and letting yourself grow from pain instead of pushing everything down and hoping you can ignore what hurts for as long as possible.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Sagittarius, because you aren't learning. Ever feel like you're having déjà vu? Yeah, that's because you keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

Rather than learning from your past and moving on, you keep running around in the same circles, hoping that something will change eventually.

You are a zodiac sign of learning and growth – don't let your fear of moving on keep you stuck in a rut for the rest of your life. When one door closes, another one always opens.

Getting your life together is as easy as acknowledging that your mistakes are defining parts of you. You shouldn't feel embarrassed of what you've done in the past, but you should feel thankful that you get to move on and try new things in the future.

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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Capricorn, because you haven't found your calling yet. You have so much ambition it's crazy, but it still feels like everything you put your blood, sweat, and tears into falls flat.

Sure, it might be a big success to everyone else, but have you ever accomplished something and just felt meh about it? It's very easy to get stuck in the same routine, but routines will end up being the death of you if you're not careful, Capricorn.

It's important to throw away the rule book on what you think you need to be and open yourself up to new ideas and beliefs, and most importantly, listen to what YOU want out of life.

When it comes time to make your speech after launching your own company or accepting an award in front of millions, don't forget to thank yourself for the work you've done.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Aquarius, because you feel lost right now. There are so many things you want to experience and do, but all you can think about is how totally out of place you feel.

You haven't found your tribe yet, you don't know what your calling is, and while you want to help as many people as possible, you're not really helping yourself in the process. If you want to get your sh*t together, you need to start being selfish.

So many people frown on being selfish because they think that if you aren't lending yourself to others then you aren't doing the right thing. But for you to be able to continue to do the right thing, you need to give yourself what you want and need in life.

Unfortunately, you can't just manifest these things, so it's up to you to stop being passive and start taking control of your happiness.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

It's hard for you to get your life together, Pisces, because you keep making sacrifices for others. You, along with Aquarius, need to learn how to be more selfish right now.

You will always have a compassionate, caring nature about you, but is it really healthy to keep giving pieces of yourself away just to make someone else happy? Of course not!

Start by learning boundaries and, more importantly, learning how to say no without having to give an explanation or excuse. Your time, wants, and needs are just as precious as everyone else's. 

So why are they constantly taking a backseat in your life? If you want to get your life together, you need to set boundaries, learn to put yourself first once in a while, and burn bridges with toxic, soul-sucking people.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.