Finding True Love & Living Happily Ever After In 5 Steps

Love, Self

No magic wands needed! Follow these 5 simple steps to live happily ever after with your true love.

When it comes to love, most people prefer the magic of fairytales, Hollywood movies and romance novels. We want our true love to appear when we’re least expecting it, perhaps on a white horse, to whisk us away to our dream of happily ever after. The good news is that you CAN have true love and live happily ever after with your soul mate! Just don’t hold your breath waiting for it to magically happen. Like everything else in life, if you want a life with true love, you’ll need to take some time to learn the right steps to get there (Just like you need to learn how to waltz before you can dance with the prince).

1. Love Yourself First
The first and perhaps most important step to your happily ever after is to love yourself. Most of us are much harder on ourselves than anyone else ever is. We judge ourselves harshly, compare ourselves to others and feel inadequate. We rarely accept and appreciate ourselves, just the way we are.

The voice in your head telling you that you’re not good enough and you should be better is not helping you. I hear comments from my clients, friends, (and yes, in my own head too) like "I should look younger, I should make more money, I should have an adoring husband, well behaved children and a clean house!"

Notice all the ways you’ve been judging, blaming and shoulding on yourself. How does it feel? Rather than listen to that annoying voice, just observe it, take a deep breath and know that you have a choice about where you focus your attention.

If you refuse to let that voice control you, you get to be in charge of your life! When that annoying voice is quiet, you can pay attention to another part of you that is wise and loving and knows that you are magnificent just the way you are. Listen to this part of you.

Give yourself permission to accept yourself just as you are, extra pounds, warts and all. Yes, you can be on a path to self improvement, but rather than beat yourself up along the way, learn to treat yourself with compassion, forgiveness and care.

Your most important relationship is the one with yourself. If you aren’t treating yourself with love and kindness, it’s unlikely anyone else will.

You can learn how to shift your mindset so your thoughts empower and uplift you (I can help with that). You can nourish your body with healthy rest, nutritious food and exercise. You can nurture your spirit by doing what you love — perhaps walking in nature, singing or dancing. You can learn how to let go of habits, things and people that don’t support and inspire you, and surround yourself with people who uplift you and bring you joy. You’re worth it!

Try on the belief "I love and accept myself." How does it feel? Just imagine what could be possible for you if you feel great about who you are and treat yourself with love and care!

When you are comfortable in your skin and happy with yourself, people will be drawn to you like a magnet and you’ll be well on your way to happily ever after! Keep reading...

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