8 Blunt Signs A Man Is Strong Enough To Love A Powerful Woman
Not every man is worthy of loving a healthy, independent woman.
Olha Ruskykh | Pexels Strong, independent women are ambitious and bold, and they know exactly what they want in life and love. They don't need a man for protection, financial security, or status. They might prefer sharing their lives with a man who's willing to accept them, but they are fine alone, and that can scare weaker men.
If you're dating or falling in love with a woman like this, understand that they know themselves well, like what works for them and what doesn't. They know what makes them happy and go after it. They also manage their finances successfully on their own.
Here are 8 blunt signs a man is strong enough to love a powerful woman:
1. He can fulfill her need for emotional closeness
A healthy, independent woman will want an emotionally intimate relationship. You will need to do your part in that. This means you both take responsibility for emotional intimacy in the relationship.
For example, you both reach out to the other person to connect and feel close to one another. Emotional intimacy without expectations and initiated by both people is vital for a healthy relationship.
2. He supports her desire for social independence
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A healthy and independent woman with good character traits will have a variety of friends, activities, and possible work events. You need to have your own life, interests, and activities outside of the relationship.
This helps you avoid relying on her to rearrange a packed schedule, or try to find ways to include or exclude you without hurt feelings. The easiest way to support her independence is to be independent yourself, and enjoy the time you make to spend together.
3. He trusts her
An independent woman will spend a good portion of her time away from you. If you have been cheated on in the past or have been unfaithful yourself, then you may question whether she may be cheating. Not everyone cheats.
You need to feel comfortable with your partner and ask her about her history and if she has cheated in the past. If you are the one who has cheated, you are more likely to believe she is cheating, even if this is not the case. An independent woman may not be the right match for you.
This type of woman needs an independent and emotionally secure man to share her life. An independent woman is not going to want to deal with jealousy in a relationship. This will likely be a deal-breaker for her because you have not healed your betrayal trauma from the past.
4. He accepts her goals
This is a big issue to consider and absolutely shapes the lifestyle. Independent women often highly value their careers and may see them as equal to having a family. They may want to continue to advance their career after each child’s birth if children are in the picture. This is an important factor to know about yourself ahead of time regarding whether this fits you.
What does your picture look like? Are you going to be comfortable if she chooses to move forward in her career or even surpasses your career? What if her advancement involves a move out of state or even out of the country?
There is a big difference between having a family where the wife stays at home with the kids versus a career woman who may want it all: a career and a family. What if this means you will need to step up more often to help? Is this OK with you? Will this affect your career?
Her career may mean more to her than money. Some careers involve prestige, which may result in others respecting her career or position more than yours. Are you going to feel secure enough to handle this? Again, this is not about a challenge. It is about what will make you happy.
5. He is comfortable with her financial independence
Again, this goes back to your sense of self and how secure you feel. Men like to feel needed, and finances are often where men can exceed the woman’s financial status. An independent woman will not "need" your money to be comfortable in life.
Also, she would likely be making her own decisions about her finances. Are you going to be OK with this? And what if she makes more money than you? Are you comfortable with this?
6. He has a high level of self-esteem
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She will want a man who is secure in his self-esteem. She will emotionally support you, but will not want to be responsible for you feeling good about yourself. You are responsible for your feelings of self-worth.
7. He respects her feelings about having children
Having children affects your lifestyle together, and how this might affect her career, as well as yours. You both need to agree with this decision because you each will be living this particular life choice. A highly independent woman may choose not to have kids, either because of her desire to focus on her career or because she does not want that lifestyle that includes having kids.
You both need to feel resolved in this decision because it could affect you for life, one way or another.
8. He values her relationship with family and relatives
Some independent women enjoy making time for family, but others do not feel the need. What if your independent woman is not close to her own family and focuses on her career and her mate by choice? She may not feel drawn to family in general and does not seek out either family.
This may come from making a healthy choice rather than an avoidance of a negative family dynamic. What will this be like if you enjoy getting together with your family?
This is not a complete list of the types of personalities independent women have. You may find other factors about their positive qualities to consider before choosing a healthy and independent woman to share your life with.
You need to honestly evaluate these situations and questions before you commit to an independent woman, no matter how enticing her attributes may be.
Susan Saint-Welch, LMFT, is a marriage and family psychotherapist who has been practicing in-person and online in the South Bay of the Los Angeles area for over 20 years. Susan is passionate about helping couples and families learn healthy communication skills.
