Women Who Still Captivate Men Well Into Their 60s And Beyond Have These 3 Timeless Traits
Classic qualities that never go out of style.
Konstantin Mishchenko | Unsplash Falling in love is a wonderful feeling. This kind of desire is beautiful, healthy, and very natural. We, women, are loving creatures. We’re connected to our hearts, and we treasure the experience of being loved by a man.
Unfortunately, most women lack the understanding of how to captivate a man and what makes him stay captivated as we grow older. When I was in my 20s, I loved dating. But what I was lacking was a deeper understanding of men, human nature, and how to captivate a man. As I became more mature and grew more comfortable with myself, I learned it usually comes down to a few classic traits.
Women who still captivate men well into their sixties and beyond have these 3 timeless traits:
1. Passion
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At any age, a woman who is deeply passionate about something is charismatic and profoundly attractive to a man. And it doesn’t usually matter what her passion is — it can be playing the cello or collecting Tupperware. He will find it exciting or even mesmerizing to witness her indulging in her passion or talking about something that gives her so much joy, something that she immerses herself in completely.
The reason why so many women get this wrong is that we’re conditioned to be pleasers. When a woman wants to impress a guy, she’ll adopt his passions and activities.
But men see through this, lose attraction, and walk away. So, instead of bending yourself backward to show him that the two of you are alike, express yourself truly and authentically, pour your attention into what you love and what makes your heart sing.
I assure you that he will notice and admire your passion. Passion in this context extends beyond physical attraction to encompass intense emotional intimacy, curiosity for and with each other, and a genuine desire to be deeply connected with a partner. Research has found that when viewed in the context of a healthy relationship, passion can fuel traits highly valued by men for long-term commitment, like emotional intelligence and confidence.
2. Authentic
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Most women deeply desire to be in a relationship; they want to love someone and to be loved in return. To achieve that, they might be willing to sacrifice their views, opinions, and dreams if these are not aligned with the decisions or views of the man they have an eye on.
But what men typically find attractive is a woman who is fiercely committed to what she believes in and who won’t bend to please others. We all need to be open to negotiation and a change of plans from time to time. But if you want him to stay by your side, show him that you have a spine and that you can make choices for yourself.
Research argues that individuals high in authenticity engage in 'being yourself' dating behaviors, such as demonstrating emotional openness, transparency, and availability, and showing their interest and feelings.
3. Feminine
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Our culture encourages women to be successful, independent, and career-driven. We value results, efficiency, fast pace, and hard work. But the essence of a woman is to flow, to be connected to her feelings and her heart, instead of only living in her head.
Women are usually softer than men, more emotional go through cyclical changes aligned with their hormones and feelings. They’re intuitive and not always reasonable. To deny that aspect of a woman is to deny her true nature.
Let go of the need to adhere to society’s standards and show him your feminine essence. Now you know how to captivate a man and what your relationship needs to ensure he will stay in love.
The attraction between genders is often — but not always — based on the polarity between masculine and feminine qualities. The more different we are, the more we attract each other. Men don’t always understand a woman’s complexity and sensitivity, but they’re always mesmerized by it.
Before you head out on your next date, do a bit of soul searching first. Be honest with yourself about who you are, what you’re passionate about, and what you believe in when it comes to love and relationships. Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a knowing smile — a smile of a woman who knows her depth, passion, and authentic beauty.
Find confidence in knowing your worth as a human being. Find the courage to express your true self and your feminine essence to every man you come across. And then that man you want will not be able to take his eyes off of you, at any age.
Helena Nista is an intimacy therapist, coach & Tantra practitioner. She is a certified somatic counselor and intimate educator, as well as a mentor, author, and speaker.
