Smart Girls Look Sexy For Their Own Damn Selves

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Love, Self

Sexiness should be accessible 24/7.

Somewhere along the road of womanhood, we got lost in this idea that we have to look or dress a certain way to impress a man. 

We want to entice them with our sensuality, and use our appearances to reel them in. That’s why we get all dolled up and go out “hunting,” yes? 

Personally, I vote no on this one. I think a woman should be able to feel sexy at any moments notice, and it shouldn’t have anything to do with whatever man she’s with or whoever she wants to chase. 

You shouldn’t have to wait for the weekend or date night to feel like a million bucks. You should be able to feel that way anytime you want. And not because there’s a man you have to impress — just because you want to. 


When we’re single — and even when we’re in relationships — there’s a danger of falling into a comfort zone. We forget to shave our legs and stop drying our hair. And while it’s totally cool to do this every now and then for the sake of getting shit done, don’t let it go on too long. 

I know when I’m feeling crappy about myself, a quick shower and being able to spend some time getting ready is all I need to feel better. It’s refreshing and rejuvenating to actually take care of myself — which is sadly the first thing to go when I’m busy. 

Don’t let yourself fall to the wayside.

Don’t forget about taking care of yourself. In fact, do it first. Make your first priority every day to feel sexy and watch how your life changes.

You’ll feel more confident at work. You’ll be better able to be present in the moment and there for the people you’ll love. You’ll be more likely do to things you actually want to do. 

You’ll be you, 2.0. 


The old adage “When you look good, you feel good,” deserves more credit than we give it. If we made sure we had the time each day to give ourselves a little ego boost and pick-me-up, we’d be happier, better people. 

Feeling sexy doesn’t have mean tight dresses and heels. It can be a warm bubble bath and a cotton robe. It can be fresh sheets and a glass of wine. 

No matter what you’re doing, just make sure you’re treating yourself.