Why He Doesn't Want To Cook With You: Gender & Quality Time

A man and woman watch TV.
Love, Self

There are sharp differences between how men and women view "quality time."

Henry* and Elizabeth* have different ideas of what constitutes "quality time" together as a couple. Henry is more apt to spend fall Saturdays tipping back Budweisers and enjoying college football. While Elizabeth, on the other hand, feels that a crisp, autumn weekend is ideal for walking and talking through the park. Sound familiar?

According to YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, even though men and women have pretty similar views on how to reignite attraction in a relationship (for example, both genders say "talking about the relationship" and "going on a date" are the top methods for rekindling the spark), there were some significant differences in what quality-time activities guys and gals thought counted.

Women were more likely to choose activities in which they'd be actively engaged with their mate: things like cooking and traveling together. Men were more likely to choose undertakings where they'd be with their partner, but not necessarily interacting: watching TV, playing with kids or seeing relatives. According to Dr. Helen Fisher, who analyzed the survey's data, this difference shouldn't surprise us. In fact, male/female brains are built to have different ideas of "quality time."

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