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8 Questions To Ask Yourself If You Want True Love That Lasts Forever

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8 Deep Relationship Questions To Ask Yourself When You're Falling In Love & Considering Getting Married
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Is this 'the one'?

When you first start dating and falling in love with your boyfriend, you may not think about how long it would last if he becomes your husband.

But if you want the kind of true love that makes a marriage last forever, there are some deep relationship questions it's important to ask yourself before you even consider getting married.


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So before you decide if you want to get married to your boyfriend, here are 8 deep relationship questions to ask yourself in order to determine if a marriage between you two can last.

1. Is communication easy?

The key to healthy relationships is being able to talk about anything with your boyfriend.

Can you tell your partner when you don’t like something that he does? Or that seeing his mother EVERY Sunday is more than you would like? Or that you really don’t like extra sausage on your pizza? Or that that thing he likes to do in bed is just a little bit much for you?

Without honest communication, relationships cannot be healthy. Truth is the basis of any strong, lasting relationship, so if you can’t tell your partner what you need or what's on your mind, then your relationship is doomed to fail.

Work hard to be honest with your partner about everything in your life so that your relationship can stay healthy.

2. Is the sex fun?

Having a healthy sex life is an important part of every committed relationship.

If your sex life is something that you just put up with, don’t really enjoy, or even dread, then it’s time to act. Think about what is lacking, what could be done differently, and what exactly you need to get the zip back because, without it, your relationship might be in trouble.

Talk to your partner about how you feel and figure out, together, how to make things work for both of you.

3. Are times with family and friends easy?

Having a good connection with your boyfriend’s friends and family is another really important part of a healthy relationship.

Do you enjoy the weekly meals with his family? The dinners out with his friends and their spouses? Cheering for his softball team every Thursday night?

Like it or not, when you're part of a couple, your boyfriend’s previous relationships with friends and family are part of the package. And if you don’t get along with his crowd, it can cause a huge rift since he will want to spend time with all of you - and if he is consistently forced to choose you over another important person in his life, he will resent it.

If you're not there yet, see if there are ways that you can work together to improve those relationships so that they don’t tear you two apart.

4. Do you treat each other with respect, not contempt?

Of course, it’s important to like and love the person with whom you are in a relationship. But what is even more important is that you respect them.

When we first enter into a relationship, we think the person we are with is amazing. Everything that they say or do is just fine. But the longer a relationship continues, the more we get to know our partner. And with familiarity comes contempt.

Do you like the way your partner interacts with people? Do you respect the work that he does? Are you happy with the way he parents your kids?

If yes, yay! Make sure you tell him regularly. People like being told they are doing a good job.

However, if you are in a relationship with someone you can’t respect, for whatever reason, who you regularly are critical of and treat with contempt, then you are in a relationship that won’t last.

Respecting the person you are with, the choices that they make, the values they uphold, and the way they act in the world is an essential part of being happy together and building a healthy relationship.

5. Are you laughing a lot?

Laughter is an aphrodisiac, which is why couples who laugh together often stay more attached, emotionally and physically, then those who don’t.

Do you and your partner laugh together and have fun together, even in times of stress? Do you have inside jokes that only you share?

Make sure that you and your partner enjoy life together. You will be glad you did!


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6. Do you want to spend time together?

This is a big one. Do you and your partner actually make an effort to spend time together? Or do you let other things get in the way?

If you don’t want to spend quality time with your partner and make it a priority, then your relationship is not healthy. Talk to your boyfriend and try to figure out what you can do to get more connected.

7. Do you feel good about yourself?

Feeling good about yourself is critical to your relationship's success. Quite simply, if you don’t feel good about who you are in the world, then you can't have a healthy relationship.

People who are needy or clingy or fraught with insecurities do not make good partners. So, take care of yourself and feel confident in who you are so that you can be a positively contributing half of a healthy relationship.

8. Do you share dreams for the future?

People in healthy relationships share their plans for the future. Together, they think about what tomorrow, next week, next month, and even next year could bring.

They do so because they are invested in being together long-term - and part of being together is making plans for the future. If either one of you isn't interested in talking about the future, then your relationship won't have one.

Relationships are difficult and, if you just let them sail along without paying any attention, then they might very well flounder. So if your answers to these questions indicate that your relationship needs some work, make an effort to fix it as soon as possible so you can build a healthy relationship and lasting love with your boyfriend that could one day lead to marriage.


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Mitzi Bockmann is a Certified Life Coach who works exclusively with women. Let her help you life the life of your dreams. Contact her now via email and get started!

This article was originally published at Let Your Dreams Begin. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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