Jenny Block's Speech At The Poly Pride Rally

Jenny Block's Speech At The Poly Pride Rally
Love, Sex

On October 4, 2008 Jenny Block spoke at the Poly Pride Rally in New York City. The rally was part of Poly Pride Weekend, a gathering for polyamorous people, those who maintain multiple loving relationships at the same time. Jenny is the author of Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage, which all started here, in her essay, Portrait of an Open Marriage.


I've been thinking a lot about what I wanted to say to you today. A lot. You're not an easy crowd, you know. First, you are being treated to an incredible line-up of speakers. I mean the gang's all here—Tristan Taormino, Cunning Minx, Anita Wagner, Nan Wise. Not to mention our fearless leaders Birgitte Philippides and Diana Adams. And second, well, it's Central Park for God sake's New York City. A girl wants to make an impression.

I was asked if I might say a few words about communication and it got me thinking about just how many different kinds of communicating we all do—how we communicate with our partners and within our relationships; how we talk to other people about our relationships (both those who agree or support us and those who do not) and how we communicate with one another, many of us strangers and yet all of us connected. And seeing how the focus of today is really all of those types of communication, I thought I might start off by saying the one thing I want to communicate more than anything and that is—thank you. To all of you.

You represent a community that has welcomed me in and supported me in a way I could have never expected or imagined. And you need all the support you can get when you're sharing your personal life with what feels like the whole universe.

You see, I never set out to be a spokesperson or poster child for polyamory. I'm a writer and what I write about is my life. And so when I was asked to write a book about the fact that I was in an open marriage, I was thrilled. And then, I was terrified.

What will people think, I wondered. Here I am living the life I want, gliding under the radar of most and feeling pretty good about how I was able to be living what many might consider a fringe lifestyle in the middle of a gated community. And that's where the part about communicating with people outside of our relationships and outside of the community who may or not support, condone, tolerate, or accept who and how we love comes in. 

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