Taking Your Intimacy Beyond The Bedroom

Love, Sex

The Importance of Emotional and Psychological Intimacy in a Relationship!


In any couple, being intimate in bed does not fall alone on the physical aspect. Instead, couples should also learn the importance of emotional, as well as psychological intimacy in their relationship. 

What is Intimacy?

Intimacy is all about being emotionally and psychologically close and open to your partner. It is about letting your guard down and allowing your partner to know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about accepting and sharing in the feelings of your partner. It means being there when they need you and to allow them to let their defences down.

What is Emotional Intimacy?

Emotional intimacy is closely associated with women more than men. Women believe that emotional intimacy is very rich and very fulfilling. For most, this does not replace a woman’s need for sex; instead, the need for emotional intimacy is as intense and as important as the physical need. Once that need is fulfilled by their partner and achieved through ‘talk time’, it is then easier for women to move quickly into a ‘sexual mode’.

What is Psychological Intimacy?

This is defined as one’s sense of openness in talking honestly with a partner about their personal thoughts and feelings that are normally not expressed in other relationships. Some factors that shape the quality of a psychological intimacy include major conflicts, conflict management styles of partners, and the couple’s expressions of their physical affection.

Emotional and psychological intimacy goes hand in hand. When you are in a romantic relationship, you rely on your partner for emotional as well as psychological support. It means that you give yourself fully to your partner and that you accept whatever they can offer in return. So what happens when intimacy problems happen? Here are a few things that you can do to help you set aside your fears.

Evaluate your relationship

When you are having intimacy problems with your partner, first decide whether the intimacy issues are general or specific. Talk to your partner if you have some issues that you both need to discuss.

Talk with your partner

Talk with your partner if you have intimacy problems, otherwise, you are not fit to be in any type of relationship. Keep in mind that a healthy and committed relationships are based on trusting each other. If you have intimacy problems, explain what you feel with your partner. Nothing beats having a relationship built from honesty and openness.

See a therapist

Seeing a therapist to deal with your intimacy problems does not necessarily mean you are crazy. Instead, it is the best way to seek a professional’s point of view on their perspectives about intimacy. There are a lot of therapists that have dealt with problems about intimacy all throughout their careers. Seeking for a third-party advice with which you have no emotional connection is practical and beneficial.

Generally speaking, intimacy is not just a form of psychological fad, far from the cries of contemporary couples. Rather, it is based on a deeper biological need.

Intimacy is basically one’s journey in a relationship. You start out in a relationship sensing that you have discovered a new dimension of intimacy. As you go along, you start to discover that emotional and psychological intimacy plays very important roles to keeping a successful partnership. Once you have grasped the fact about how intimacy plays in your relationship, then you are bound for a more fulfilling and rewarding partnership that you have been long wishing for.

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