2 Key Questions You MUST Ask Yourself If You Want To Find Love After 40


Get out of your own way!

Why does it seem so much harder to find a good relationship when you're over 40 than it was ten years or even twenty years before? 

If you've been wondering this, you're not alone.

Fortunately, YourTango Expert Sherri Nickols is here to help! In this video, Nickols offers her best dating tips for middle-aged women. Offering advice based off her book, Sexy And Sparkling After 40, she discusses why it can be so much harder to find a meaningful relationship as a middle-aged woman, and what you can do to make yourself more open to finding a significant other.

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Why is this important? Because dating after 40 is nowhere near the same as dating when you’re younger.

You’re going to have different needs, wants, and desires. And while some of your “deal breakers” are likely to change over the years, some of the less mature ones may have slid down the list or even disappeared entirely. So you’re going to have to come to terms with the you that you know now—not the you that was dating when you were ten or even twenty years younger!

Finding a lasting relationship has some consistent, common causes, so if you’ve found yourself frustrated with the after 40 dating scene, you’re probably going to have to take a step back and realize that what you’re looking for (and not finding) might not be out there so much as inside yourself.

According to Sherri, there are a couple of questions that you might want to ask yourself before you go back and dive headlong into the dating world, which she covers in the video, but here are a few of the most important points: 

1. Are you carrying excess emotional baggage?

You might be “stuck” in old ways of thinking and you’re accidentally limiting yourself when it comes to finding love.

2. Is your heart open?

Are you afraid of being rejected? If so, you might be shoving people away without realizing it. If you’re subconsciously pushing people away, anyone that you do attract is going to be drawn in by that negative energy and the results could make you both unhappy.

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Being nervous is totally normal! You’re a different person than you were the last time you dating someone, so don’t worry if you’re still a little rusty and don’t want to jump right back in yet. Things might be awkward at first, but once you come to terms with your internal needs as well as the needs that you’ll require from a future partner, you’ll be back in the swing of things in no time. 

Want to learn more? Check out the video above!

Sherri Nickols is an award-winning author, motivational speaker and relationship/women's empowerment coach.If you would like more tips and success strategies feel free to contact Sherri via her website SexyAndSparkling.com —  you'll find a gift waiting for you.