How To Materialize A Husband Out Of Thin Air

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When I was fifteen, I announced to my mom that I was going to get married at age eighteen.

“Sure,” she smiled, brushing aside my prediction.

Back in Russia, where I grew up, getting married young was a normal occurrence. Besides, I loved playing house, setting a small table with tiny plastic plates, wrapping my doll Lena in Mom’s old shawl while singing her lullabies at night.

Taking good care of my toy family was always my thing.

After my big announcement, it seemed to me that what happened next was totally unconscious.

And yet, in today’s world of self-help gurus, gratitude, and the Law of Attraction, what my certainty set in motion is often described as a deliberate process of creation — ending in the result you want to achieve.

So here is what unfolded: Every night before falling asleep, I’d descend into this magical world of imagination where, with all senses engaged, I’d be a bride on my wedding day.

I’d see myself twirling in my white, Cinderella dress, smiling back at the joyful faces of my family and friends, feeling butterflies of happiness flutter in my belly, and melting into the profound sweetness of being in love.

I didn’t see my future husband’s face, but felt his energy, his presence next to me.

It was a pleasant fantasy.

Being young and naïve, I didn’t have any negative preconceptions about marriage, so when I turned eighteen, it happened!

And it felt like the most natural and logical conclusion to my fairy tale dream.

Now, years later, reflecting on this once-upon-a-time experience, I can recognize and appreciate the most significant component that made all the difference:

There was no mental contradiction within me creating any obstructions on my path, or blocking the end result from appearing.

What I mean is that, often, when we want something, like getting married, getting pregnant, or having a hefty sum of money in our bank account, we have a ‘but’ attached to our desire.

And what we tell ourselves after this ‘but’ creates a conflict — an inner tug of war that keeps us stuck.

Our thinking goes something like this:

I want to get married, but something’s wrong with me and I don’t know what to do.

I want to get married, but it’s hard and guys are so different these days.

I want to get married, but I’m too old and nobody will want me.

We all have our unique set of ‘buts’ pulling us backward, and after years of repeating them, they line up like a row of obstacles in front of the train of our desires, preventing us from moving forward.

What can we do about these mental roadblocks?

Even though the solution is simple, it’s not always easy. Because the way we’ve been thinking about the subject of relationships has become well-entrenched and habitual — even though it’s outdated and non-productive.

So it’s normal to expect that it will take some time to get these mental hurdles out of our way!

The best way I’ve found is by paying attention to my self-talk, both internal and out loud.

Once I do that, I can gradually replace the ‘buts’ (barricades to my desires) with ‘ands’ (doorways to multiple possibilities).

So the conversation now goes like this:

“It would be great to find a lifelong partner, and I know it’s possible for me.”

“I want to get married, and I deserve to be happy.”

“I’m not a little kid anymore, bossed around by grownups. Now I’m the grown-up, and what I say and want matters because I matter.”

“I realize now that it’s my life, my rules, and one of my rules is that I am happily married.”

“Life supports me, and I am deeply loved. I know this is true because I can feel it in my gut, so I trust it.

Mental attitudes like these will free your path and enable you to move forward.

And the more you repeat and practice this self-talk, the faster your train arrives at its desired destination.

Perhaps this sounds as if the process of inviting your soul mate into your life is all mechanical and logical, and that there are no mystical forces at play. But the way I see it is that the mystical can’t get through to us because of our mental barricades, so we need to meet this force halfway by keeping our minds positive and open.

I know you’ve heard this before, but what I’ve come to realize is that if I don’t put all my self-help knowledge into practice, nothing will ever change.

So try this, just for a moment:

Close your eyes and take a few soothing breaths.

And now, just play this game with me where you see the path of your future unfolding before you. It’s open, spacious and wide, and you’re standing on it tall and strong, confident and sure, witnessing his blurry silhouette emerging from the haze of the unknown.

You see him coming steadily for you, taking your hand and kissing it softly. And you’re ready — it’s the right thing to do; you feel accepted and belong in his arms.

Then, together, you continue moving forward as a couple, along your blessed path toward your happy, joyful, adventurous, forever future.

And since life is a never-ending adventure, here’s a 5-step process to close the gap between where you are right now and your next goal:

1. DESIRE with supercharged emotion and intensity.


3. BELIEVE. Never doubt the outcome.


5. FEEL YOUR DESIRE AS ALREADY DONE. Feel strongly in your visualizations that things have to happen, results must come!

K. Agranovich, Ph.D., is a Medical Hypnotherapist and Holistic Consultant. She is the author of Tales of My Large, Loud, Spiritual Family. Call her for an office or phone consultation to attain mental-emotional alignment and close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Visit www.achievehealthcenter.com.