How Gemini's New Moon Energy Can Make Your Relationship Even Stronger, Starting June 13th

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How the New Moon in Gemini Can Help You improve your relationship
Love, Zodiac

Gemini’s lunar love magic can deepen your connection.

Are you ready to welcome the lunar magic of Gemini's New Moon on June 13th into your love life and relationships?

Gemini's sociable, fun-loving cycle kicked into effect on May 20th and lasts until June 21st, laying the groundwork for all of your summer bbqs, beach parties, and weekend getaways with friends.

And the New Moon in Gemini on June 13th gives us an extra cosmic bump to set our intentions to bring those plans, ideas, and actions to fruition.

Are you ready to maximize that New Moon energy for yourself and possible with a partner? Here's what you need to know about embracing Gemini's lunar love magic.

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Gemini New Moon Qualities

What does Gemini energy feel like? 

Gemini is an Air sign, which is all about the mind and our powers of perception. It’s ruled by the planet Mercury (in Greek mythology, he was the messenger of the gods) and that really highlights its connection to communication of all kinds — speaking, writing, teaching, you name it. Some other Gemini traits are quick-witted, curious, versatile, and flighty.

When the Moon is in Gemini, you may feel compelled to express yourself about everything, the good, the bad, and ugly.

So while it may not be the sexiest of all the signs when it comes to romping in the bedroom with your lover (like last month’s sensual Taurus New Moon), it’s a powerful time to really communicate with each other about what’s most important in your relationship — what you love about each other, what you’d like more or less of, and what new commitments you want to make going forward.

If you’re single, it’s a great time to get very clear about the kind of person you want to attract, and I mean writing it down, speaking it out loud, letting your friends know.

The universe won’t know who to send you if you don’t make a clear request, and New Moons are the best time to declare your intentions and make your relationship wishes!

How To Create A Gemini Toolkit

The next step is to look at all the fun associations for Gemini energy. Here are some to get you started:

  • Elemental energy: Air
  • Colors: Yellow/Green
  • Gemstones: Agate/Emerald
  • Flowers: Lily of the valley/Lavender
  • Essential OilsRosemary and basil to stimulate the mind/Bergamot and peppermint to enhance communication.
  • Music: Flutes/Woodwinds (One of my favorites is Joanie Madden’s Song of the Irish Whistle.)  
  • Food/Drink: Fresh fruits and veggies/Sparkling cider or wine/"Brain food" like blueberries, avocados, or dark chocolate (love that one!)

When To Activate Gemini's New Moon Energy

I’ve already given you a bunch of ideas about where to practice your Gemini love magic and what to take with you, so now let’s look at some specific things to do.

But first, a caveat: if you really want to work with the intention-setting, "planting seeds" energy of the New Moon itself, it’s best to do it within three days of the actual date of the Gemini New Moon on June 13th.

And if either you or your partner are a Gemini by birth, or if your moon is in Gemini, you’ll get a nice double whammy of Gemini New Moon energy whatever you decide to do!

One other thing to keep in mind is that the Moon also spends three days in each sign of the zodiac every month, so you could check a lunar calendar to find out when it’s in your favorite sign and focus your magical moon activities around that time.

How To Use Gemini's New Moon Energy To Find True Love

If you’re single and not currently in a relationship but want to be, here’s a little ritual to send your relationship wishes out to the universe:

1. Set the stage with some of the colors, essential oils, food and music in your Gemini toolkit.

2. Pull out a journal (or just a piece of pretty paper) and write down all of the qualities you’re looking for in a partner.

Then articulate these three things:

  • What are your requirements or deal breakers? (Like honesty, shared values, and trust.)
  • What are your needs or the things you’d be willing to negotiate? (Do you want pets? Where do you want to live? Are you organized?)
  • What are your "wouldn't it be nice's"? (Maybe flowers every week or tons of money!)

Remember, what’s a requirement for one person might not be for someone else. For instance, I always knew that I wanted someone who was very touchy and affectionate. After 37+ years together, my husband and I still hold hands and sleep spooned.

Be honest with yourself and be clear about what’s right for you, not what you think you "should" want.

3. After you’ve written all this down, you can draw on that airy Gemini magic in a few ways to broadcast your request.

Try to:

  • Transfer all of those qualities on to some biodegradable confetti, go to a lake, beach, or river and let the wind carry them into the water. It’s like making a wish on a dandelion puffball!
  • Carve them on to a candle and burn it down. Another version of fire-y Aries love magic.
  • Write your requirements, needs, and wants on a beautiful piece of paper and post it somewhere that you can read every day.

And obviously, it’s pretty powerful to do all three. The idea is to create a clear vision of what you want — like a neon sign to the universe so it knows just who to send you!

Enhance Your Relationship With Gemini's New Moon Energy

Whenever I teach or speak about the power of ritual in our lives, I talk about the four basic elements that must be present to ensure that it’s truly transformative: 

  1. Declare a clear intention. That’s our theme: enhancing communication
  2. Activate all your senses. Those associations in your toolkit will help here
  3. Use meaningful symbols. You'll find these in your toolkit.
  4. Create sacred space and time. Be sure to find a private space where you won’t be interrupted and make sure you have all of your props and tools from your toolkit — music, food, flowers — before you start. Your sacred love-space could be anywhere, depending on what you plan to do there.

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While new Gemini energy may not feel very sexy since it’s all about the mind, but the truth is, if you want a deep, fulfilling relationship with your partner, you can’t live without it. 

To really tap into that airy, chatty Gemini energy, that could be just planning an intimate dinner together, sitting face to face with no distractions — that means no cell phones or TVs nearby!

You might even consider a theme-inspired trip to deepen your communication Gemini-style. Maybe it’s one of those powerful relationship building weekends offered by Imago Relationships International or John Gottman.

Or, to tap into the intellectual side of Gemini, you can research some of the wonderful "educational" trips offered by Roads Scholar and the Smithsonian on a topic that interests you both. And just because you’ll be stimulating your brains during the day doesn't mean you can’t stimulating each other in other ways in the evenings.

To help you better embrace Gemini New Moon energy in your relationship, plan a sensual Gemini date night. You might start with a Gemini-themed romantic dinner — and be sure to include "bubbly" of some kind, either champagne or sparkling cider, to further activate the air element!

Since this moon is all about communication, you can also opt for some throat chakra essential oils, maybe even giving each other a little neck and shoulder massage to get those vocal cords primed. And to get really literal about your music, check out Wordplay by Jason Mraz or Talk by Coldplay.

In the bedroom, try new forms of pillow talk to deepen your connection:

  1. Write love letters to each other, then read them out loud.
  2. Take turns sharing what relationship expert John Gottman calls the "Story of Us", a history of how you met and how you’ve gotten to where you are today.
  3. If you’re married, create your own mini vow renewal ceremony by writing or speaking your promises and commitments to each other from this day forward.
  4. If you’re not married but seriously coupled, talk about ways that you can deepen your connection and improve your communication. Acknowledge some of your triggers and patterns and commit to exploring new ways to express yourselves.

And if you really want to kick it all up a notch, consider experimenting with the Communication Map process, a powerful exercise that's helpful to use with any relationship, and you can start practicing with each other in your Gemini love nest for maximum effect.

There are so many directions to go when you’re playing with New Moon energy, and when you direct it to your love life, it’s even more fun and transformative. It takes some preparation, but it’s totally worth the effort.

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Deborah Roth is a certified Relationship Coach and Interfaith Minister who loves supporting couples in navigating the ebbs and flows of maintaining and nurturing successful, long-term relationships. To learn more about her work, you can visit Spirited Living or email her at Deborah@SpiritedLiving.com to schedule an introductory couples coaching session or to get a list of her favorite relationship books.

This article was originally published at The Spirited Musings blog . Reprinted with permission from the author.