Why You Have A Hard Time Holding On To Love, Based On Your Love Language

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What Are The 5 Love Languages Common Relationship Mistakes

There's a reason why your relationships tend to crash and burn.

Relationships require hard work to be successful, but sometimes even all the effort we put into our romances just isn't enough and they eventually fizzle out. 

Of course, it's only natural to wonder why you keep striking out when it comes to finding a lasting love. Romantic relationships are a two-way street and it's up to both people to make it a prosperous one. However, we can only control our own part in a relationship. And it helps to know who we are as individuals and what we each need and want from a relationship. It can be hard for us to admit that sometimes we're the reason for the disintegration of a relationship. 

Luckily, the 5 love languages are here to help us out. Knowing your specific love language can be a huge lifesaver for you when it comes to relationships. They tell us a lot about ourselves and especially about how we react in our romantic lives. 

So why not let your love language tell you what the reason is for why you haven't found your soulmate yet? This is exactly why you have a hard time holding on to love, based on your love language.

Quality Time

Uninterrupted one-on-one time with your partner is very important to you. It's so important that you get this time with only your partner that you can sometimes come off as demanding. This is especially true if it's been awhile since you've spent quality time together. This can get tiring for partners of this language and your demand for their personal time can start to be seen as controlling and is most often the cause of driving your romantic interests away. 

You also can't stand distractions, so even something small like your partner checking a text during your one-on-one time can set you off. This can get tedious and frustrating for those who don't share your love language. 

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Physical Touch

Truth time: this love language can be super clingy. You must have physical touch like hugs and kisses in order to feel loved. This can be a huge turn-off for a boo who isn't as into PDA as you are. 

Also, this language has a very hard time verbally communicating their love. This is usually the downfall of most of your relationships because, without communication, a relationship just can't last.

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Acts of Service

So you want to help us with the laundry that's piled up? That's great! You want to make us a special dinner all by yourself? Very romantic. But when you start wanting to do every little thing for us, it can get frustrating and makes it seem like you think we can't handle our own lives. 

We love that you want to help us out, but only to a certain point. This language tends to take lending a helping hand to the extreme. 

Doing sweet little things from time to time to help out your bae is super attractive, but meddling and micromanaging their lives is a huge no-no that will spell serious trouble for your relationship.

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Material items can only go so far in a relationship. Thoughtful gifts are lovely, but a relationship needs much more than that if it's going to last. 

You often have a hard time contributing to other areas of the partnership that you should be spending more time on to make it healthy and strong. This leaves your partner feeling like their pulling all the weight, making it an unequal union. 

You tend to avoid important conversations and chances to communicate with your S.O. because you feel more comfortable expressing your love through giving gifts. This language also takes the act of gift-giving very seriously and gets upset when their partners don't share that same enthusiasm — especially when their boo is the one on the receiving end.

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Words of Affirmation

You're great with words but can have a problem following through on them. Words speak louder than actions for you, meaning that you often get so caught up in them that you forget to actually go through with what you were talking about. This makes you seem flaky and unreliability is not a good look for potential romantic partners.

You can definitely talk the talk, but walking the walk is something you struggle with - so don't be surprised if your boo is already walking away.

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