5 Essential Pieces Of Long Distance Relationship Advice (From A Woman Who's Right There With You)

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5 Essential Tips And Long Distance Relationship Advice

Don't tell anyone, but they can actually be the best relationships of all!

If you’re like me and currently are (or have been) in the agonizing position of being in a long distance relationship, the only things that could possibly be considered worse are:

  • Getting less than 11 likes on your Instagram pic
  • Chipped nail polish
  • Wearing regular underwear with yoga pants


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All jokes aside, though, making long distance relationships work is tough, and it definitely takes true commitment and a special bond to make one last.

If you're looking for long distance relationship advice to help with your own love life, here are 5 helpful tips for strengthening and maintaining your bond!

1. Gifts! Gifts! Gifts!

The highlight of my freshman year at college was checking my mailbox for surprise gifts from my wonderful man. Whether it was a "month-i-versary" gift or Valentine’s Day roses, my heart soared knowing that he was thinking about me. You can do the same for your partner.

It doesn’t have to be a gift, even a heartfelt letter can make the difference between you or your boyfriend having a good day versus a great day!

It shows that you care deeply about his happiness and that you can still surprise him and show him love no matter how far apart you are. It’s always the little things that count, and I guarantee a present in the mail leads to a reward, which is the perfect segway into...


2. Phone sex.

Now, you don’t need to be in a long distance relationship to engage in this raunchy act, but it sure is better when it’s the only pleasure you’re getting. It’s sexy to think about your loved one, and at the same time hear him getting turned on by your voice and the very thought of you. It’s also hot because you can do, be, and/or ay anything you want.

The better your imagination, the better the call!

I generally like it when my boyfriend takes the lead, because hearing his intentions gets me more excited than listening to Justin Bieber, but how you choose to do phone sex is completely up to the two you. The intimacy and pleasure you both give and receive is sure to help your relationship thrive.

Plus, you get a chance to explore a more verbal side of your sexuality, which can really help when you’re finally…


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3. Reunited at last!

This is what makes it all worth it, those moments when you finally see him again. There’s nothing like it Your heart starts beating faster in anticipation. You start to smile really wide. You may even cry a little, depending on how long it’s been. It is always worth the wait, and it leads to some great “I’ve missed you” sex!

The best feeling for me is definitely when he first holds me in his arms again. In a world full of scum bags, knowing that there’s this one genuine guy out there who loves you so much he's willing to go through this whole distance thing with you brings the ultimate sense of happiness.

And now that you’re together, make the most out of your time and have fun! 

Whether that means staying in bed together all day or going out and trying something new, or maybe a little bit of both. The important thing is to cherish every moment you have together until you depart or he leaves and you’re back to...


4. Virtual dating.

Of course, there’s nothing better than seeing your man in real time, but the next best thing is video chatting whenever you can. Our technological age provides us with Skype, FaceTime, Facebook Messenger video calling, and so many other ways we can easily keep in touch.

The upside to this is that not only can you talk to each other, but you can see each other too, which can definitely spice things up!

Surprise your boo in a cute little outfit (or maybe nothing at all) to make him even more excited to see you than he already was. And if you're not feeling that, it’s always nice to spend a lazy night together in your pjs while talking to him and simply enjoying each other’s company. After all, he loves you no matter what you’re wearing.

It’s also fun to have cute actual dates over the camera. Dress up and eat with each other just like local couples can do too. You can even watch a movie together on Netflix by syncing up to the same running time and chatting via text or FaceTime as you watch.

Whenever you feel lonely, just open up the laptop and be grateful you can see his face on the screen! For me, falling asleep while I can see the love of my life right next to me on a screen can be a huge tease, but hearing his cute snore is the best noise I could ask for.

And no matter what...


5. Don’t give up!

As time goes on and you only want to be together more, the distance is likely to get harder and harder, so it’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into.

If he’s that important to you, all of these tips will hopefully make it a bit easier to keep the flame burning bright.

And in those moments when you feel like you can’t do it anymore, remember that he’s making an effort just like you are.

These relationships can't work without love and trust in each other. Put up pictures of him in places you’ll see every day, hang up the letters he’s sent you, treasure the gifts he gives you, and think about the next time you’re going to see him.

The time will come when you do get to spend every day together, and the special love you've built will more than make up for what right now sometimes feels like way too much lost time.


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This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.