5 Things You Should NEVER Do On A First Date (And 4 You MUST)

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5 Things You Should NEVER Do On A First Date (And 4 You MUST)

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When you’re dating, you have to put yourself out there until you find Mr. Right. Sometimes it takes a while, but in the end, it’s always worth it. Here are the dating rules to live by so that you don’t make these common mistakes ever again.

The Do’s: These are the things you should be doing.

1. Ask him questions.

The best way to get to know a man is to ask him a ton of questions. Don’t make the date feel like an interview, but get to know him. Believe me, everyone loves to talk about themselves.

2. Get dressed up.

Putting yourself together is important all the time. I’m a huge fan of leggings and t-shirts. If you ever run into me during the day, I’ll most likely be in spandex and some kind of comfy top.

But that’s not what I wear on dates. I save my comfy clothes for when I hang out with my girlfriends. You should too. When you’re going on a date, play dress-up with yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel like a million dollars.

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3. Be confident.

Confidence, confidence, confidence. Say it over and over again and remember how important it is. Men want to date a woman who’s sure of herself. They don’t want to date an insecure girl who’s always in doubt.

4. Be honest about your feelings.

Life is too short to keep your feelings a secret. If you like someone, make him aware of it.

5. Be informed.

Men are attracted to smart, sophisticated women. They like dating women who can bring something to the table. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist, but you should be aware of what’s going on in the world.

The Don’ts: The don’ts of dating are the things you should never do. They’re easy to remember.

1. Don’t be a wimp.

No one likes wimps. At least I know I don’t. Most people say you should hide your feelings when you’re casually dating. That rule is so passé. When you’re dating someone, stand up for what you want. If you don’t, no one else will.

2. Don’t jump into bed too quickly.

Everyone likes sex, but that doesn’t mean you should go around having sex with 40 different guys. You should wait to sleep with someone until you’re exclusively dating. Men like a chase. They don’t want to date a girl who’s easy.

3. Be game free.

Regardless of what your friends tell you, games aren’t cool. They’re for people who are afraid to be vulnerable and show their true colors. Do you want to be that girl? I didn’t think so. So don’t play games.

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4. Don't be needy.

Men want a woman who’s attentive, but there’s a difference between being attentive and being needy. When you’re attentive, you give a guy the right amount of attention without smothering him, but when you’re needy he’ll want to run in the opposite direction as soon as possible. So whatever you do, don’t be needy!

Now that you know a few of these simple dating rules to live by, follow them!

Still not sure how to act on the first date? Check out the video below for additional advice:


Carly Spindel is a Matchmaker and relationship expert who has introduced 110 couples. She is passionate about spreading love throughout the country.

This article was originally published at Confessions Of A Matchmaker. Reprinted with permission from the author.