The RIGHT Way To Handle Your Stress Before You FREAK OUT On Your Man

Love, Self

Managing stress is one of the most difficult challenges in our lives. When you can't control it, though, your anger can be directed at anyone who gets into your line of fire — especially your partner.

According to WebMD, "More than half of Americans say they fight with friends and loved ones because of stress, and more than 70 percent say they experience real physical and emotional symptoms from it." 


One of the most common negative effects of stress is that it can cause uncontrollable anger and anxiety that prevents you from thinking logically. When you get into this mindset, it can be almost impossible to comprehend your partner's side of the argument. None of what your man says will get through to you, and the arguments will escalate until they begin to slowly chip away at your relationship.

But believe it or not, there ARE beneficial ways to control stress and to resolve the argument in a loving way.

Instead of taking your anger out on someone who doesn't deserve it, try these two methods to get you started:

1. Listen BEFORE you speak.  

Listen to his side of the argument before you offer yours so that you can logically comprehend what he has to say. Let him to do the same for you. Then, you both can think about it later on and return to a calmer discussion after you both have had some time to mull over each side of the argument.

2. Keep your arguments with your husband INSIDE your relationship.

It is a VERY bad habit for women to turn to their girlfriends for a venting session, as this can lead to animosity between your friend and your husband. Instead, do something else that you enjoy (on your own) so that you can be happy to talk the disagreement through with your husband in a loving way. 

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Dealing with stress is NEVER an easy task, and sometimes you need to rely on yourself first for happiness. Try looking within yourself before you take out your anger on your husband or loved ones for feeling unhappy.

In the video above, Melanie Gorman (YourTango Experts Senior VP) hosts as author John Gray, divorce and breakup coach Lindsey Ellison, and life coaches Suzanne Muller-Heinz and Renee Jain talk about how stress can cause your body (and your mind) to react negatively, and in turn, spark those seemingly-unsolvable arguments with your husband. 

Watch for plenty of helpful ways to manage the stress and your anxiety level — before it chips away at your relationship. 

If you want even more information or help on a specific issue, please contact John, Lindsey, Suzanne and Renee directly.