4 Love Lessons From Gandhi

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The iconic Indian's messages about non-violence and forgiveness serve as good love advice.

In honor of the 140th anniversary of Mahatma Gandhi's birth, we've culled together 4 ways to practice, in your love life, what he preached. As Indians take a national holiday to celebrate the anniversary of the politician and spiritual leader's birth, we examine several quotes for which he's best known. Turns out, they serve as good relationship advice, too.

1. "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." Maybe infidelity ruined your last relationship. Rather than seeking to avenge this wound, make a goal to never cause that pain to someone else.  Or perhaps someone you were dating never called back after date three. Your inclination might be to take that same careless "fade out" move into your next relationship. Rather than replicating the negative, think about how you'd best like to be treated in a relationship, and then practice that with your current partner/love interest. How To Recover From Infidelity

2. "Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes." The best relationships are those that "free" us to be the best we can be. But even the best make mistakes, and Gandhi's quote about freedom reminds us to forgive these imperfections. For singles, this applies not only to the men you're dating (just because he forgot your dog's name doesn't mean he's wrong for you), but to yourself. OK, so you didn't trust your gut in your last two relationships and paid the price. That's OK—it's in the past. Forgive yourself and move on to the happy relationship you seek and deserve.

3. "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Enough said. 5 Ways to Forgive

4. "The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." This is a classic karmic principle. If you want something, help someone else get it first. Say you and your friend both spot the same hot guy in a bar. If you box her out and end up getting his number, do you really feel that great? How much better would you feel if you gave her a chance to be happy first? Plus, who knows, he might have an even cuter brother to set you up with after he and your friend couple up...

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Likewise, if you're feeling less than thrilled with your relationship, one natural reaction is to blame your partner for failing to be this or do that. Instead, try identifying the ways you could make your partner feel happier or more appreciated, and chances are, you'll benefit from these little acts of kindness, too. 101 Ways To Improve Your Relationship Right Now