Who do u love more, Him or yourself


-If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
-If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
-Don't make excuses for a man's behavior.
-Allow your intuition/spirit/gut to save you from heartache
-Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that doesn't work, and is not meant to be.
-Never live your life for a man before you find what truly makes YOU happy.
-If a relationship ends because a man was not treating you as you deserve, the HELL NO, you can't be friends. A true friend would not mistreat you.
-Don't settle.
-If you feel like he is stringing you alone, he probably is.
-Don't stay because you keep thinking "it will get better"
-You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
-The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
-Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them, what makes you think he will treat you any different?
-Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
-Always have your own bank account even if you have 1 joined account.
-Always have a backup plan
-Never depend primarily on him, he may take advantage of the fact that you need him, and use that to get away with things you would not approve of.
-Never allow a man to believe you will never leave him, if he thinks you wont leave him, he may do things you may not approve of.
-Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something is bothering you, speak on it.
-You cannot change a man's behavior, change comes from within.
-NEVER EVER make him feel more important than you are, even if he is more educated, has a better job, or comes from a "higher social class" than you.
-Don't make him into quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.
-Never let a man or a relationship define who you are.
-Never borrow someone else's man, if he cheated with you, he may cheat on you.
A- man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
-All men are NOT Dogs.
-You should not be the one doing all the bending; Compromise is a two-way street.
-You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing attractive about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
-You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A good relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. ---Look for someone who is complimentary, not supplementary.
-Dating is fun, even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
-Just because you love him or you love each other does not mean your meant to be together forever. Some relationships are only meant to be for certain periods of time. Learn from them.
-Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and your readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
-Never move into his parent's house.
-Never Co-sign for a man.
-Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
-Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
-"Fear of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful" ~Dr. Phil
-You should know that you are the best thing that could happen to anyone. If a man mistreats you, he will miss out on the best thing that could have happened to him.
-If he was attracted to you in the first place, there are other's who will be attracted to you.
-Treat him like he is the man you dream of, people tend to try to live up to your opinion of them, with out even knowing it. (if you want your man to clean up after himself, make sure he knows you appreciate that he does it...even if he doesn't do it as much as you like...he will try to live up to that...get it? **Wink )
-You have lots of choices when it comes to the fish in the sea. make the right choice.
-**Above all take care of yourself first, before a man. And love yourself before expecting a man to love you the way you want to be loved.

Anyone want to share some tips or lessons they have learned?