Love & Anger: How to Fight Right

Love & Anger: How to Fight Right
Love, Heartbreak

Add a good fight with your spouse to your list of ways to stay healthy.

In addition to green tea and pilates, you can now add a good fight with your spouse to your list of ways to stay healthy. Seriously. According to a new study from the University of Michigan which looked at 192 couples over 17 years, holding your tongue when you are pissed off—could prove fatal.

The study examined the couples’ dynamics and grouped them into the four categories: couples where both partners communicate their anger; couples where one of the partners expressed anger and the other suppressed it, and couples where both partners suppressed their bitterness.

And with this last group, we learned that brooding, and holding a grudge, becomes toxic to your body. According to the study, "When both spouses suppress their anger at the other when unfairly attacked, earlier death was twice as likely than in all other types."

"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict," says lead author and professor emeritus Ernest Harburg. "Usually nobody is trained to do this. If they have good parents, they can imitate, that's fine, but usually the couple is ignorant about the process of resolving conflict.”

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So if you haven't learned how to verbalize your issues with your hubby, get on it. Who knew that few harsh words here or there, could mean a couple more years together. Plus, there’s always the makeup sex. Poll: Does Fighting Lead To Better Sex?