People With These 14 'Biblical' Personality Traits Have The Happiest, Healthiest Relationships

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People Who Hone These Personality Traits Based On Bible Characters In Scripture Know How To Improve Relationships
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No matter how many BIble verses you've read or how deeply you study religious scripture, in the busy age we live in, it is very easy to forego or ignore the value of fundamental positive personality traits for sake of pragmatic success and selfish desires.

Yet, wisdom exhorts us to stop and take a deep evaluative self-assessment of our individual character strengths and weaknesses.

As we focus on refining and sharpening our positive character traits and applying them, along with possibly further improving our weaknesses, we should see fruitful results in our relationships — our individual spiritual relationship with God and our relationships with fellow men and women.

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But whose delineation of positive character strengths should we attune ourselves to?

It is a good question and somewhat of a cultural values question. From their research and analysis, the non-profit organization, the VIA Institute of Character, has tried to bypass cultural influences and has, therefore, proposed six universally accepted virtues and 24 positive character strengths.

The VIA Institute has well-contributed to the contemporary field of Positive Psychology for holistic human health, harmony, and happiness and draws our attention back to fundamental human issues of positive character versus negative character.

Whether character traits and resulting behaviors are positive or negative, consequences in our relationships are the result.

VIA Institute’s two-tier construct is intriguing and very practical for applying to your daily relationships. However, there is another worthy resource for teaching positive character strengths, one that has been available for millennia: the Bible.

In the Bible, there are numerous Bible verses and texts that can be carefully studied to yield a list of positive character traits.

For sake of this article, we focus only on three concise lists of character strengths written in the New Testament, by three different Scripture writers: the Apostles Paul, Peter, and James. The three texts in question are Galatians 5:22-23; 1 Peter 3:8; and James 3:17.

When these three texts are combined, we find a list of 14 character strengths or traits that will benefit our personal relationships.

Here is a list of 14 positive personality traits of Bible characters in scripture that, when emulated, can improve and strengthen our relationships.

1. Loving

People become confused about love due to the numerous and diverse definitions the world offers. Love, as a practice, is described in detail in 1 Corinthians 13.

A Biblical definition of love can be concisely summarized like this. Doing good to others as much as you do good to yourself. Aside from self-control, love is the most far-reaching and influential character strength in this list.

2. Joyful

It is difficult to appreciate joy as a positive character trait because it seems to be extremely dependent on emotions. However, Biblically, joy is not equal to happiness.

Happiness is circumstantial; joy is internal.

Biblically, joy is ease of thought and lightheartedness of spirit and attitude, possible in any situation or set of circumstances. Joy is under one’s self-control.

3. Peaceful

Biblically, peace is a character trait that carries much meaning, like love.

Peace is synonymous with harmony, the deliberate practice of calmly and coolly getting along with other people, regardless of who they are and what their feelings are.

4. Patient

One might confuse peace with patience, but they are separate character issues. True love will breed patience.

Patience in relationships is essential to emotional growth and resolving conflicts in a mature fashion. Patience allows the other person to be themselves, despite personality type differences between the two people.

5. Kind

This character trait is also called kindheartedness and is synonymous with mercifulness. Kindness is a practical application of Biblical love, where one person does caring or merciful deeds for other people.

True deeds of kindness or mercy are done for free. They are not purchased or bargained.

6. Good

Biblically, goodness refers to doing words and actions of good quality. Thus, goodness is the opposite of sloppy, uncaring, poor quality, unthinking, dishonorable.

People naturally like their relationships and possessions to be of good quality. The character trait of goodness evidences itself in good quality work and relationships.

7. Faithful

This character trait is synonymous with loyalty, not being full of faith. Faithfulness or loyalty means fidelity in various kinds of relationships and commitments in one’s life.

Faithfulness alone does not assure a good quality relationship or situation, but faithfulness can be combined with goodness.

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8. Gentle

Common synonyms for gentleness are "meekness" and "tenderness". Gentleness should not be confused with weakness.

Gentleness is whereby one’s inherent strength is kept under guided control in order to tenderly talk or deal with another person as they emotionally need.

9. Self-controlled

We often refer to this trait as self-discipline or self-regulation. It means applying purposeful logic and reason before acting or speaking and accomplishing in action or word what one has decided to do.

Self-control is the primary character strength in this entire list. Self-control is the necessary foundation. By self-discipline, all other character strengths are possible in our lives and relationships.

10. Sympathetic

Also known as being compassionate, being sympathetic means being able to discern others’ emotions and react to them appropriately given the situation and intensity of circumstances and feelings involved.

Being sympathetic is sharing the feelings of the other person but doing so guided by one’s reason and gentleness.

11. Humble

Biblically, true humility is not something that a person claims to possess. It is simply something quietly lived out in word and action toward others.

A Biblical summary definition of honest and sincere humility is: "In word or in deed, valuing or honoring others better than one’s own self."

But beware! Fake humility does exist and people can discern it.

12. Pure

The best way to comprehend purity as a character trait is to visualize and understand what purity is not.

Purity is an ideal — it is not dishonest, immoral, unclean, perverted, irreverent, detestable, gross, or evil. These traits are the opposite of purity because, Biblically, a degree of purity is necessary for making any genuine spiritual relationship with God, who is pure and will not change.

13. Reasonable

This character trait can be understood by also using the modern term "mindfulness." To be reasonable or mindful is to discipline one’s actions, words, and attitudes through logical thought analysis and discernment.

Being reasonable is controlling one’s self through one’s thought processes rather than allowing emotions or instincts be one’s guide. Consequently, reasonableness includes allowing others to have their viewpoints and opinions different from your own.

14. Without hypocrisy

We should not here equate being without hypocrisy with integrity, for integrity is a much broader principle.

Biblically, hypocrisy is defined as not practicing what one promotes or teaches, doing good things for public show and vainglory, and requiring others to do activities that one’s own self would refuse to do.

From the Biblical perspective, a person who develops and demonstrates these character strengths will have healthier and better quality relationships with fellow men and women and with God.

The Bible writers of long ago were keenly aware of the importance of solid positive human character building.

The modern research, evaluation, and application of positive character strengths is vitally important for us as human beings trying to manage our daily lives, families, work settings, and other relationships and situations.

The recent study and promotion of character strengths through positive psychology is a good-will device we should all heed. If we develop and evidence positive character strengths, such as this list of 14 personality traits, we shall see the good fruit of it in all our relationships.

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Tovari E. Eliyah, MDiv., is a Rabbi-pastor, church planter, teacher, counselor, coach, paralegal, small business owner, and author of the website, Divine Glory Life. Tovari implements positive psychology, energy psychology, Biblical counseling, and character study in his construct called Shalom Psychology, which teaches individuals the meaning of personal completeness and how to develop it in daily life.

This article was originally published at Divine Glory Life Ministries. Reprinted with permission from the author.