How To Attract A Fantastic Man

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 How To Attract The Perfect Match
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What each of us considers a "fantastic man" is subjective.

"Universe, I want to meet a fantastic man. Please deliver him to me."

Chances are, the Universe was listening and thanks in part to your meditation and mindfulness practices, she served up a fantastic man. You couldn’t stop expressing your gratitude.

That was until it became clearer that this fantastic man, one who many would consider a perfect match, didn’t quite vibrate at your speed.

And while he brought you flowers and candy, those weren’t quite the qualities you had in mind when thinking of your soul mate. And even though the Universe served up one heck of a guy, you now feel disappointed because you thought the Universe was reading your mind instead of just listening.

Be Specific To Attract The Perfect Match

What each of us considers a "fantastic man" is subjective. That is why, when we want to co-create our relationships with the Universe, we cannot assume that the Universe knows how we define fantastic.

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The more we know in certain terms the more clearly we can communicate to the Universe what we want and the qualities we are seeking in our perfect match.

But for most of us, being specific can be really challenging.

When I was dating again after being in a relationship for 16 years, most of what I could tell you with certainty, was what I didn't want. However, when it came to listing the attributes of my perfect partner, I was much hazier.

So I started to make lists of the qualities I was looking for. Then I listed the ones I didn’t want to be part of my life. The deal breaker list was much easier and soon grew much longer than the one of the desired qualities. This was disturbing.

Until I discovered that, by thinking of what the opposite might be for each item on my list of "never again", I was able to start building my list of desirable qualities.

If I put "aggressive" in the list of negatives, I entered "kind" on the other list. Eventually, as my positive list grew, a clearer vision of my perfect match emerged.

Tune Into The Frequency Of Your Perfect Match

Lists are good first steps since they help us to gain clarity.

The second step in the process of finding your perfect match is to really tune into the energetic frequency of the characteristics you are aiming to attract.

For this, you will need to spend a few minutes each day experiencing your desired outcome. This means you want to imagine the feeling of being loved in the ways you want to be loved.

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Close your eyes and feel it. Savor it. The more you can connect with this particular feeling, the faster you can attract it.

What’s fascinating about the process of co-creation is that the person who will show up in your life may not look how like you imagined him. However, you will know that he’s the right person by how you feel.

I had always dated men who were dark haired, dark eyed, and my age. When I met my current husband, he was gray-haired, blue-eyed and nine years my senior.

At first, I was taken aback by this. Yet, the more we spent time together, the more I felt that we were a perfect match. It was because when I was with him I felt exactly how I had felt during my meditations.

Deepen Your Experience With Guided Meditation

I have found that my clients have an easier time tuning into this energetic frequency when they listen to a guided meditation. This allows them to keep their eyes closed and stay focused for an extended period of time.

Our minds are so overloaded in this media-saturated world, that a calm voice walking you through the process takes the weight off you guiding yourself.

To help you take your meditation deeper, I’ve developed  a free, guided meditation for you to download and work with. Listen to it when you have a quiet moment. Most people do best with this by listening to it in the early morning or before they go to bed.

Consistency is key here. Try to listen to it daily, twice daily if you can, and watch what unfolds.

Selina Schuh is an educator, author, and speaker at Empowered Living Strategies. She teaches women who are feeling frustrated and underappreciated in their relationships step-by-step skills to create deeply connected relationships. Contact her for a complimentary 30-minute phone conversation.

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This article was originally published at Empowered Living Strategies. Reprinted with permission from the author.