Is Technology Killing Dating?

It’s ironic that nowadays, something as easy as dating has become a challenge and obsession. 

Technology has made interpersonal communication and hooking up so easy and disposable that real dating is as difficult now as it was before the Internet or social media enabled our efforts. Before the Internet, guys put themselves on the line when meeting a lady. We’d hit the bar or the gym and organically strike up a conversation that might lead to another conversation that might lead to a drink or a date. Concurrently, women hoped that the right guy would approach them at the bars or the gym. Now everyone’s time is compartmentalized and women are not waiting around. We use technology to engage or keep people away. When the headphones are on, don’t talk to me—on the street, in a store, or in the gym. The bar is for your friends or watching the game. If you want to meet someone you go online—dating sites, FB, Twitter, Instagram, Tinder.  Plink, plink, plink and you’re meeting for coffee. Does anyone know how to talk to somebody new without a handheld device?

There has never been a better time to be a guy.

Women are smart, sexy, fit, and financially secure, and many are looking for good guys to hang with and many don’t want a long-term relationship, just a hookup. Meaning, as long as you don't send photos of your private parts and keep the cargo pants in the closet until Saturday, you can score at will. However, this means a lot of guys take sex for granted and unfortunately don't put in the effort to emotionally connect with women. They're too busy watching sports or checking their fantasy football team stats to know when their perfect match is sitting right across the room with her girlfriends. Older guys know how to approach a woman, even in a group. They’ve had loads of practice getting shot down. It’s like a sales job. You grow a thick skin and eventually smooth out your pitch.

There’s never been a more interesting time to be a woman.

Face it. You don’t need guys for all that much. They’re not that evolved emotionally and you have more opportunities in the work place so you don’t need their money. That leaves sex and companionship and you can get lots of companionship and stimulating conversation from your BFF’s without having to deal with grunting frat boys. That leaves sex. Yes, it is an interesting time for women, not necessarily the best time. Guys need to catch up. I hope you’ll help them. If not, enjoy the sex.

What's the solution?

I'm a Guy's Guy, and I want men to be men. Get yourself out there and introduce yourself to at least three new women per week, the old fashioned way. “Hi, I’m Mike," etc. Ask her an open-ended question. Maybe if you’re confident and know how to smile the woman will slip off her ear buds and reply. Just sayin’.

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