3 Qualities Men Desire MOST In Women

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Let’s start with the good news: we are all desirable. Regardless of a person’s race, creed, appearance, or nationality, every single person has characteristics that the opposite sex will be attracted to.

That being said, some of us were naturally gifted with more of these favorable traits while others have to nurture their attractability.

While we all know that there are hundreds of traits men seek in women — with appearance being at the top of the list — below are 3 traits that trump all else. This what men like in their women:

1. She has confidence.

Confidence is defined as, "the quality of being certain of your abilities." A woman who is confident knows she is capable in many areas of her life, and this clearly shows in the way she presents herself.

Some ways women can show confidence are through communication, body language, and physical appearance. A confident woman will communicate her ideas in an effective way by being intentional in what she says. Confident women speak positively of themselves and can receive compliments easily with no hesitation.

Think about a confident woman that you know. Think about how she stands while talking with someone. Are her shoulders back and down or is she slouching?

Now visualize what she is wearing. Most confident women take time and effort to get ready, putting energy into their outer appearance. That doesn’t necessarily mean she’s wearing a ton of make-up, but you can somehow sense that she’s taken the time to look her best. Many studies have also shown that dressing well boosts confidence in a big way.

Professor Karen Pine from the University of Hertfordshire says that well-thought out clothing can make people more confident in all sorts of situations. When you dress well, it influences the way you feel and creates a snowball effect in how you carry yourself throughout your day in the interactions you have with those you come into contact with.

2. She has a passion.

Being passionate about something other than the person you’re dating is a highly desirable characteristic in a potential partner. Feeling excited about a fun hobby or activity can make a person’s eyes sparkle when they talk about it. Having other activities or interests that you’re not willing to give up can give you an advantage in the dating game.

For example, let’s say that you're passionate about dancing and every Tuesday, you go to a salsa class. Maybe the guy you’re dating has Tuesday off and asks you out to dinner and a movie. Feeling empowered to say, "No, I’m sorry I’ve got Salsa that day" will go a long way in a confident man’s eyes.

Many of us may think this will have the opposite effect, that he may lose interest or give up. Instead, something different happens. A confident man will try to find another day that you’re free. Men find women who have other interests and hobbies extremely desirable and this will go a long way later on in the relationship.

3. She's positive.

Having a positive attitude is vital when trying to attract a confident man. When you’re positive, you see life through a different lens. Positive people look for the good in every experience. This helps them to feel more happy and content with life.

One way to tell if you’re a positive person is by tuning in and listening to your thoughts when you’re in a difficult situation.

For example, maybe you’re waiting in a long line at the grocery store and you’re late for a meeting with a friend. Listen to your thoughts in this moment. Are they saying: "This is so annoying I have to wait in this line. What a waste of time. Can they hurry up!?"

Or do your thoughts say, "It’s okay, my friend will understand why I’m late, it’s not my fault. I’m just going to enjoy listening to my music since worrying won’t help the situation."

Our thoughts are a great way to understand if we have a positive or negative outlook on a day-to-day basis. Most confident men love women who are positive because they feel like they’ll be able to get through anything when times get tough.

In any relationship, there are always ups and downs, and during the downs, it’s especially important to have a positive outlook to help you stay calm and peaceful. Studies have also shown that people with more negative thoughts and mind chatter feel more negative emotions, so this is another reason most confident men like being around positive women.

Now that you know what men find most desirable in women, you may be reflecting and wondering if you have been blessed with these preferable qualities.

Know that with awareness and reflection, these qualities can be cultivated in all of us.

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It’s also essential to keep in mind that if you’re someone who’s looking to be with a man who you define as being a great catch, it’s important for you to reflect back the traits you are seeking in someone else in order to attract and keep the balanced and harmonious relationship you’ve been searching for.

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