4 Reasons I'm Donating To Prince Harry & Meghan Markle's Wedding Charities In Support Of The Royal Couple

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Ok, I get why I wasn't invited to the big event. Harry and Meghan don’t know me and guessed correctly that I have nothing appropriate to wear to their wedding.

Despite the unintentional snub, I still plan to donate to one of their favorite charities in honor of their recent nuptials.

Here are 4 reasons I'll be donating to Prince Harry & Meghan Markle's wedding charities in support of the royal couple:

1. It supports acceptance.

Harry dated and fell in love with Meghan Markle, a divorced woman of a different religion with a mixed racial background. In Netflix’s The Crown, one of the storylines makes sure that the viewer knows that marrying a divorced individual is a royal no-no. While that’s not exactly true, it made for great television, and highlighted some issues that England's royal family has in breaking with tradition.

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After some challenging roadblocks, Princess Margaret was actually given the go-ahead to marry the previously-divorced Peter Townsend, but turned down the opportunity for lesser known personal reasons. By pursuing this wedding, Prince Harry demonstrates an open and accepting attitude in a world that doesn't often tolerate differences and suggests that the royal family is attempting to embrace new traditions — a huge first step.

2. It supports great causes.

Over the years, both Harry and Meghan have enthusiastically supported a variety of worthwhile charities. The charities they highlighted in honor of their wedding focus on a wonderful assortment of concerns, including "social change, women's empowerment, conservation, the environment, homelessness, HIV, and the Armed Forces."

What a lovely gesture to invite fans of their union to send funds where they are needed most!

3. It supports healthy relationships.

Harry and Meghan appear to be starting their relationship on the right foot. Meghan was not only warmly welcomed into the family by the queen, but her soon-to-be father-in-law, Prince Charles, walked her down the aisle. These new relationships can be extremely difficult to manage. Drum roll… cue the mother-in-law jokes.

It can sometimes be difficult to blend two families together, and things can get ugly with families and relationships when things don’t go so smoothly. So I’m cheering this couple on. They have lots of support and love, which is so important.

4. It supports good relationship foundations.

I’m sure that Harry and Meghan are getting a lot of advice, so permit me to add a few words of guidance to help them build a healthy relationship that can weather emotional storms:

Appreciate each other every day.

Don’t take your partner for granted as time goes on. That means thanking them when they do anything nice for you. Even if it is a simple act such as setting the table or moving the wet laundry to the dryer. If you would thank a friend, thank your loved one.

Fight fair. 

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When disagreements happen, and they will, follow these guidelines:

  • Make an appointment to discuss the issue when you are both calm and have time to focus on the problem.
  • Don’t bring up the past. Not even if it's a fight that's similar to the one you had last week. 
  • Avoid saying things like, “You always…” or “You never…” Try "I" statements instead. "I feel like when this happens..." or "It's important to me that you..."
  • Be respectful. Don’t use insults or call each other names.
  • Share how you feel without blaming or accusing. For example, say: “I feel nervous when you come home really late.” Instead of, “You have to stop coming home late!”
  • If things get heated, take a break. When we become emotional we enter “hot brain” and our bodies release a cocktail of reactive hormones that set us off. We can’t empathize well, see the other person’s point of view, or even hear what they say. When this happens, agree to take a break. Breathe. Move to separate areas and set a time to visit the discussion again

Don’t assume.

Some couples' relationships get terribly off track because each assumes the other feels a certain way about different issues. They act on these assumptions and take steps that drive them apart. Always ask your partner’s opinions and preferences before you make decisions that involve them.

Build trust.

According to therapist John Gottman, “Trust is built when we are reminded that our partner is there for us. They reach out for us or grab our hand when we reach out for them. We realize our needs matter to our partner.” A wonderful reminder to turn toward the one you love, instead of away.

So, join me in supporting a very joyous couple who hopes to use their celebrity status to make the world a better place. Make a donation to one of their charities or to an organization that you hold dear. Congratulations to all!

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Janis Roszler is a therapist who specializes in diabetes-related sexual and relationship issues. Her blog articles and books can help transform your romantic relationships. Read Janis’ book, Sex and Diabetes. Or check out her website and follow her on Twitter

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