Exclusive! Jesse Metcalfe Shares His Happy Relationship Secrets

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This celeb cutie and his long-time girlfriend have cracked the relationship code.

Still best known as the randy gardener who romped with Gaby (Eva Longoria) on Desperate Housewives, Jesse Metcalfe stole our hearts with his boyish charm and washboard abs.

But unlike his character, this Hollywood hunk knows how to make a commitment and stick with it, having been with his girlfriend, Cara Santana, for 7 years. What's their secret to lasting love? The celebrity couple tell all —well, almost — to YourTango!

YourTango: Who's your date?
Jesse Metcalfe: "The same person who's always my date for the last five years: my girlfriend, Cara Santana."

YourTango: Was it love at first sight?
Jesse Metcalfe: "I wouldn't say it was love at first sight. It was more of a slow burn, which I think is a better start for a relationship. I think if it comes on fast and furious, it generally fizzles out just as fast. We were slow and steady."
Cara Santana: "We took the time to get to know each other. We've known each other for like 10 years."

YourTango: What's the best love advice you've received?
Jesse Metcalfe: "There's no perfect relationship. All relationships are work. If you put in the work, you'll reap the rewards."
Cara Santana: "'It's much better to understand than to be understood,' from my mom."

YourTango: What's the last little thing you did to show your love?
Jesse Metcalfe:
 "I bought her a leather jacket."
Cara Santana: "I massaged his back."

YourTango: Any marriage plans?
Jesse Metcalfe:
 "I think we're gonna sidestep that question!"