If The Woman You Love Has These 5 Personality Traits, Never Let Her Go

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How To Get The Girl Of Your Dreams By Looking For Women With These 5 Dominant Personality Traits

The girl of your dreams is out there ... if know what to look for.

When you're dating and want to know how to get the girl of your dreams, you might have a list of personality traits and physical characteristics you "expect" to find in a woman before you'll allow yourself to commit to a romantic relationship.

You may think women who are physically attractive, smart, funny, and adventurous are the only types you can see as your future girlfriend or wife, and all of those qualities are great ...

But are they really the most important traits to look for in someone with whom you can fall in love, have babies, and spend the rest of your life living happily ever after?

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I would argue that it's a "no" on that one.

There are 5 personality traits that, if you find them in a woman, you should never let her go.

1. Honest

Honesty is crucial in order to establish healthy, lasting relationships. Without honesty, there is no trust, and without trust a relationship can never be healthy.

If you want to know if a woman is being honest, just pay attention.

Ask yourself questions like these as you move forward in your relationship:

  • Does she answer your questions directly, or does she evade them?
  • Is she truthful with her friends and family?
  • Would she return a wallet that she found on the sidewalk?
  • Is she honest with you about her comings and goings?

If you see honesty in her behaviors, you have every reason to believe that you can trust her. Trusting her is the goal.

2. Easy-going

Some women have a tendency to take things too personally.

For example, a client of mine is married to a man who promised her he would look at windows for their home renovation over the weekend. But then he didn't. Work got in the way and then he just forgot.

In her mind, the fact that he didn’t do what he'd promised to meant he must not love her, and her overly-sensitive take on genuine mistake on his part led to unnecessary hurt and drama for both of them.

People who take everything personally the actions of others as a reflection of their own worth. They believe people's actions arise from specific judgments that have been made about them, which means they have a hard time seeing past themselves and believing that anyone's motivations can be pure.

This kind of thinking gets exhausting in relationships. For their partner, it feels like they have to spend all of their time navigating through land mines, waiting for the next one to explode and having no idea when it’s coming, except that it definitely is.

So, if you find a woman who doesn’t take things personally all the time, hold onto her.

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3. Communicative

I know. You are rolling your eyes thinking, "Do I really need a woman who talks even more than most do?”

Sorry, but yes.

Communication is important in relationships. Being able to talk about your emotions is very important, and while it may be painful at times, it must be done to keep a healthy relationship moving forward.

It's important to communicate about expectations in a relationship. It's important to communicate about who is going to pick up the dog from the kennel. It's important to know who is going to pay the bills. It's important to know when one of you is feeling tired or angry or sad. It's important that both of you are able to communicate your needs so that you can each understand how the other is feeling, and then act on that understanding.

Of course, not all communication involves talking.

Another client wanted to let her boyfriend of two months know that she was ready to take their relationship to the next level, and that she wanted them to start going out with each other's friends and family rather than always staying home in her apartment. She tried to have this conversation with him, but she found herself unable to explain herself whenever she attempted to bring it up.

I suggested that instead of telling him what she wanted, she could demonstrate it by inviting him to her friend’s BBQ on a Sunday afternoon.

She did — and he enthusiastically said yes. They went to the BBQ, had a great time, and their relationship has naturally continue moving forward ever since.

Appreciate communication, even if it seems exhausting. Wouldn’t you rather be communicated with then have to guess what your girl wants all the time?

4. Independent

When relationships begin, it's typical to want to spend as much time with the person you're falling for as possible. It’s all so exciting and new, and there are things to learn and sex to be had.

As time goes on, it’s important that your woman have a life of her own.

Too many of us women allow ourselves to be consumed by relationships to the extent that we lose ourselves in them. Over time, we become dependent on the relationship and the guy in our life for our happiness. When that happens, relationships suffer.

So, if you meet a woman who works hard at a job she loves or prioritizes weekly girl’s nights out or loves throwing her kayak on top of her car and getting away by herself for an afternoon, embrace her.

A woman like that, one who values herself and her time, is someone you will anxiously await coming home.

5. Affectionate

Yes, I know. Sex is important in relationships. Very important. But there is more to affection then sex.

Affection is holding hands, rubbing shoulders, giving hugs, exchanging kisses, and bumping hips in passing. Affection is a way of communicating affection without talking.

For many women, affection comes somewhat easily, but for many others it can be quite difficult to share.

Trauma from past experiences or relationships may have made them hesitant to be overly physical. Insecurity may lead them to believe their affection won’t be appreciated. Embarrassment may hinder them from making the first move.

A life without a regular exchange of hugs and kisses would be a tough life for most of us. So, if your woman is affectionate, hold on to her. She will most likely want to hold on to you, too!

Looking for your perfect mate can be difficult, but it's not impossible. All it takes is the right approach.

Next time you are reviewing your list of the traits you're seeking in the kind of girl you want, consider adding these five to your list.

They might not be as readily apparent as brown hair, nice eyes and a sarcastic sense of humor, but they are the qualities that will be more important over the years as you build a healthy relationship based on trust, communication and affection.

Good luck in your search! You can do it!

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Mitzi Bockmann is an NYC-based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate whose writing has been published in The Huffington Post, Prevention Magazine, and The Good Men Project, among others, and who works exclusively with women to help them to be all they want to be in this crazy world in which we live. Let her help you life the life of your dreams by contacting her now via email to get started!