How To Meet Men Without Dating Apps & Finally Fall In Love With Your Soulmate

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How To Meet Men, Find Your Soulmate & Fall In True Love (Without Using Dating Apps)

One of life's greatest mysteries is figuring out how to find your soulmate and fall in true love. But, despite having access to thousands of potential partners online, learning how to meet men who want relationships is not as easy as some people make it out to be.

You've tried all the dating apps like Bumble, Tinder and Hinge and yet, you're still single and not having any luck finding your soulmate. So maybe it’s time to consider some technology-free options.

Meeting men in real life might just be what you need in order to find that special someone who won't ghost you after one date.

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So if you're tired of using dating apps, here are 5 old-fashioned ways for how to meet men IRL that can help you learn how to find your soulmate and fall in true love.

1. Volunteer.

Volunteering is fantastic way to meet men for many reasons:

  • You are giving back, which gives you the immense satisfaction that comes with giving back to the community.
  • You enjoy the company of like-minded individuals.
  • Volunteering allows you to meet a potential partner in the noblest way.
  • You have the privilege to get to know a potential partner quickly and in the most natural state so there are no dating games.

Volunteering places you on the path of people who have the same values, spirit, and mindset as your own. When you connect with a potential partner through volunteering, you start out knowing the two of you have some values in common and a load of similar experiences to look back on.

In fact, in 2013, Voluntary Service Overseas (VSO) realized that a number of their volunteers had fallen in love while volunteering abroad.

So get out there and find something that you would love to do to give back to society. When you volunteer, you're not only doing a good deed but you may also possibly fall in true love with your soulmate.

2. Go to places of worship and attend weddings.

You may not even be that religious, but that’s beside the point. Places of worship and weddings are a great place to find your potential soulmate.

Why? Because the sense of familiarity that comes with the church and related ceremonies means that a lot of barriers are already broken. As such, even complete strangers can have a sense of familiarity when you meet them.

When you see a man that you're attracted to, you'll have the confidence to approach him. And furthermore, being in a familiar territory also encourages the guys to approach.

Try to sitting somewhere visible where there is some space for a single guy to sit next to. Also, make a rule to sit next to the first single guy you see. Who knows — that decision might just change your life!

3. Try new hobbies that allow you to interact with people.

Making time for your hobbies allows you to connect with like-minded people. Challenge yourself to invest in your social calendar.

Having shared interests is a great strength in any long-term relationship. So take up salsa dancing, attend vintage car rallies, or go to cheer your favorite team. You will be off to a good start if you meet a man doing something you love.

The best partner is one who shares your lifestyle and your preference in how you spend your time and money. Plus, your shared interest will give you a ready topic of conversation as you start getting to know each other.

4. Go to your friends' parties.

Meeting a guy through your friends can be a real bonus because you already have something in common — your mutual friend. And this means your friend can vouch for this guy's character.

According to research conducted by Mic in 2015, more 18–24 years old met their current partners through mutual friends rather than through formal dates or even online dating.

Having a friend’s stamp of approval of a partner is not only helpful in making the initial connection, it's important once the relationship gets going, too. Research also shows that people who meet through friends feel more supported in their relationships.

5. Sit at the bar.

You probably already spend a good bit of time out at bars and clubs socializing. But, if you visit the bar with the intention of meeting your soulmate, you can be extra productive.

But don't visit just any club. Choose a place that puts time, effort, and thought into the establishment. This is the kind of place where you are likely to meet thoughtful and hardworking guys who value themselves.

And make sure to sit at the bar if you can. The bar is the point of focus in the room and meant to be approached, making it a much more inviting spot for you to perch than being tucked away at a private table.

Even the most confident man will hesitate before approaching a woman seated at a table, but sitting at the bar will encourage a guy to approach you and start up a natural conversation.

Lastly, if you are a regular at a club, take time to befriend the bartender because the girls and guys behind the bar know everything. They would be a perfect source of intel on potential guys. Not only can they point you in the right direction, they can also steer you out of harm’s way.

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Doing these five things increases your chances of meeting a man and falling in true love, but, meeting him is only the first step.

You want to keep the connection going in order to take the next step in your relationship.

Here are additional steps you can take in order to build a solid foundation for a healthy, long-lasting relationship together:

  • Use the Law of Attraction to your advantage.

You use the Law of Attraction in your love life all the time, whether you are aware of it or not. Question is, what are you attracting? You can attract love, companionship and joy, or you can attract loneliness. Desperation, complaining and thinking things, like "I am single and lonely, and it seems there is no one out there for me", will frustrate all your good efforts to find a great relationship. How many desperate people have you seen in great relationships?

  • Focus on building a partnership, not romance.

It is exciting to meet a guy who sweeps you off your feet. However, finding a partner who likes to give and take, who seeks your opinion and considers it, is an even greater blessing. Instant sexual attraction often fades. Most good love is a slow burn.

  • Don't rush the relationship.

When you connect with a guy, allow that connection to grow. Do not play games, apply seduction techniques or manipulate the man into falling in love.

  • Watch out for the red flags.

Red flags indicate that the relationship will not grow into a healthy, long-lasting love. Pay close attention to the guy and trust your instincts. If you ever feel undervalued, insecure or ashamed, it is probably a good idea to re-evaluate the relationship.

If you're unsure about what red flags to look out for, ask yourself these questions:

  • Is he dependent on alcohol?
  • Is he having trouble honoring his commitments?
  • Is he excessively jealous about your other interests?
  • Is the relationship exclusively sexual?

Above all, remember to invest in yourself.

Even if you find a great guy, you will not have a great soulmate relationship if you believe there are some parts of you that are missing. You do not need to be with someone to feel content. You must be whole by yourself.

In a technology-driven world, you don't need to rely on dating apps to meet men.

Simply stepping out the door, interacting with guys, and opening yourself up to the possibility of a relationship will allow you to find your soulmate and fall in true love.

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Christopher D. Brown is a life and relationship educator. He helps women work through the relationship roadblocks that are keeping them single so they can learn how to find the right man — and keep him.

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.