Why He Isn't Ready For A Relationship, Per His Zodiac Sign

Why He Isn't Ready To Commit, Per Astrology
Zodiac, Heartbreak

Astrology is one way to discover why a man may shy away from defining your relationship

Men and women can wisely be careful to commit themselves to a relationship for so many reasons, I think those reasons are probably as vast as there are men and women. 

Thinking about those reasons can lead us to look to astrology for some answers. Let's explore some reasons a man may be hesitant to define a relationship in that way from an astrological perspective, just for fun of course. 

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In these modern times, the internet has opened up a world of possibility for connection. We now have more media platforms for dating and meeting people than I can keep track of, you may feel the same way about that. 

Men have been hit particularly hard.  World over, Men have now surpassed women for population totals, according to data.worldbank.com men are coming in at approximately 50.44%, while women have dropped to around 49.55%. 

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You might think the truth of there not being enough women to go around would make some difference but that fact hasn't stopped men though from being resistant to a defined relationship or spending extra time shopping around. 

Even women are waiting longer for marriage and starting family than we once were. These are indicators of the types of changes modern society is experiencing. Astrologically speaking we can see some good indications for reasons a man might run the other way when the words "I Promise" are mentioned during a conversation about commitment.

It's fair to ask you to remember that if you are feeling like you have to force something to develop then you probably should shake that feeling off because no matter how you may attempt to press your point, ultimately you can't force someone to like you, date you or make any promises at all. 

You will likely end up hurt and maybe they will too and its honestly not worth all that fuss and struggle, please believe me on that. With that vital information kept in mind, from an astrology standpoint, here are some indicators of the types of extra personality challenges a man may face based on his Sun zodiac sign.

You know, those built in reasons that he may be hesitant to follow through or just downright unwilling to settle into domestic bliss. Per astrology, here are the reasons why he's not ready to commit per, fire, air, or air zodiac sign horoscope. 

Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius


ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries a careful man regardless of his apparent excitement.

An Aries man may not want to commit if he is feeling pressured into it. You may not expect it but if an Aries feels like something isn't their idea then they will likely resist. He may come around when he's ready but not a moment before.

An Aries man will love with his whole excited heart when he's ready, these men are fun and energetic, but what they may not want you to know is that they are also a bit shy, you might not be able to tell because they are spirited and friendly. He needs time alone so he can process through the times he feels withdrawn.

He may have routines your not aware of, that he fears will change with a relationship. If he has close family bonds, you may need to be a part of those dynamics before he can see a more permanent future with you. 

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leo needs a partner he makes him feel inspired

A Leo man is fun loving, a gregarious man, talented in creative ways. He may take a long while before he feels comfortable with making a promise but when he does his whole entire heart, not holding back, will be involved.
He is passionate and thoughtful so if he's not feeling it yet, he may still be very kind to you, even flirty, which can be confusing. This is because he really wants everyone to feel good and be happy, but if the right feelings haven't struck him, he won't make promises. 

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius May just want the party life.  A Sagittarius man may just want to date around, committing to no one actually. He may still be in a space of experiencing all that his life has to offer. In other words, he may not be into promises at all.

Dating could be fulfilling his needs quite nicely and he may have no interest in changing his own personal status. This man wants to explore and just enjoy new atmospheres and new faces too much to see making a promise to mostly hang out with anyone person long term. He may be perfectly willing to tell you this if you ask boldly, he is a bold man though so be prepared for his truth. 

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Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn 



TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Taurus Likes what he already has set up for himself.  A Taurus man does offer strength is his relationships but he can also be a bit insecure. He will need a partner he feels is dedicated to the long term, and not just that but he needs someone who can be vulnerable about their feelings. 

If he's not certain a prospective partner can give that, then he may hold back. A Taurus man likes his life to have stability, if he feels he has this in his life, he may be reticent to change his situation is anyway such as the ways a new relationship may cause. 

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo struggles to express affection openly. For a Virgo man some reasons he may hold back could be, he feels like his way of expressing affection isn't appreciated. They can be shy too. Virgos are people dedicated to selfless service in many ways.

Their love expressions can be quite different than other signs. They may be showing it by performing tasks for the people they care for. Talking about their feelings though may be rather challenging. They are physical people and showing their feeling may come more naturally than verbalizing them. 

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn needs practical reasons for doing anything. A Capricorn man can have the most grounded nature of all the signs and quite simply if he doesn't feel that the relationship will work out long-term, he his mind is likely made and won't change with any platitude you attempt. A Capricorn man looks for practical reasons and solutions. He will want to see a solid and stable gain in all he pursues. Trust for him, certainly like all signs is fundamental.

A Capricorn man's trust will likely lie within the security of the practical and physical needs in life. He won't be a man to make sudden changes and impulsive actions either so don't expect rapid change unless a life-changing event has occurred that is forcing him to see a perspective shift. Depending on the change, who could say what the new perspective would be though. Frequent short-term shifts aren't as likely with a Capricorn. 

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Air Signs: Gemini, Libra and, Aquarius


GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini can't decide who he likes better and really doesn't want to have to pick. A Gemini man may seem like the sweetest, most interesting man you've ever meet initially, then you see fairly quickly that he has a whole separate side, a darker one. A Gemini man is known to struggle in commitment because he always worries that love is not really love, I mean, he worries that it isn't the pentacle and something better is just beyond over the horizon.

He can't pick between the choices he's presented. He fears entrapment on a deep level. He can then become rather insensitive and even rude, ever pulling people close, then firmly pushing them away for a long time in life. He may wait till he feels he's spent and his options are slim before he commits to a relationship. 

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra things aren't feeling balanced. A Libra man can be fickle, the air signs share this quality. He may not want to commit because thinking doesn't feel quite perfect yet, or at all. He will likely be seeing the way balance needs to be attained from his creative perspective.

He loves a beautiful display. If things have been awkward in any way he hasn't been able to balance then he will not proceed and may feel off about things to the point of ill ease. He would then need to step back and keep things light. He may even be blunt about it if you ask for a read on his feelings. 

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius feels to cynical and struggles to trust. With an Aquarius man, he may not open up about his feelings very willingly. You can't force this though as that will cause the alternate reaction to what you're seeking.

Of course, no one wants to be forced into something they aren't comfortable with, as the final Air sign, this man will understand and feel that deeply. If he isn't interested in pursuing anything serious with you, he will block and field anything that resembles that direction. He is likely to be closed off in this case. You may even feel he can be cold and withdrawn at times when faced with emotional conversations. 

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Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces


CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer needs to feel nurtured and safe before he will make a promise. Cancer men are sensitive, when he feels the love and care feelings for someone, he may be afraid of being hurt. This can create some cancer men who are reluctant to make long-term promises. He may need extra time to get to know you. Give this him time to get a comfort level he feels safe with. Being friends first maybe for a very long time would be a way to create a sense of familiarity with your energy. 

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio hasn't finished sizing you up yet or has and doesn't think you are the one. A Scorpio man may be reluctant to commit if he thinks you may like to play the field. A Scorpio man wants complete devotion, he will settle for nothing less than an adoring partner but that's because when he makes promises he keeps them and wants to same from his partner. Trust is key with a Scorpio man. He has a lot of intensity to offer and doesn't want that to be a waste.

He is one of the deepest men you've likely ever met, and those depths may be hard to fathom. He may have many reasons he doesn't want to move forward with you, and those reasons, in their fullest he may never share. He can be reasoned with and if you feel destiny at play between you and can offer him true fodder for thought, then it won't hurt trying, but don't be too disappointed if he can yet offer another rationale for it not working out. 

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces waiting for a fairy tale or content with himself. If a Pisces man holds back from making long-term promises he may really not have felt deeply enough yet. That may be hard to hear but that may indeed be what's going on. This man will wait for his feelings to be very deep before he proceeds all the way in a romantic relationship.

If he is still experiencing feelings that are unresolved from a past relationship, he may hold back on moving forward. He may still be processing the past. We mostly like to believe, as humans, that we can meet the person fated for us and it will make them forget all else, but that is a fallacy and pretty overconfident too, a Pisces is the least likely sign to fall to that type of thinking. They know the value of all the feelings they have had. 

Amanda Ilene Sawyer is a writer and Mississippi native who is interested in science, anthropology, and spiritualism. When she's not writing about astrology, numerology, and tarot, she enjoys running her business and designing macrame pieces for her Etsy shop.