50 Sexy, Seductive Things Women Do That Make Men Want Them Bad

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If you're serious about improving your love life, then you have to learn how to turn a guy on.

The problem with figuring how to be sexy to a particular man is that different guys get turned on by different things. Some guys love being the dominant partner in bed, while others like being totally submissive.

Most, however, prefer a mixture of the two: sometimes being the dominant partner, sometimes being the more submissive partner.

There are hundreds of different ideas for things to try in bed related to a wide variety of kinky sex ideas and fetishes your man might get incredibly turned on by.

He might love to see you dress up in super sexy, skimpy clothing. He might like when you dress up as his favorite video game character. Or maybe he likes nothing more than when you lick his toes.

Seriously! There really are hundreds of different fetishes and no end to kinky sex ideas you can explore together.

How To Turn A Guy On With A Dirty Mouth

There are a ton of different ways to talk dirty to your man, depending on what you're most comfortable with.

You can take the wild route by being really explicit and descriptive when talking dirty to your man — basically, saying the nastiest, trashiest, most kinky things you can think of. But you can take the complete opposite route when talking dirty too. If you want, you can be really polite and not explicit at all.

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1. "When I get you back to your room, I'm going to give you something you've only ever dreamed of."

2. "I get so turned on just thinking about the last time we made love."

3. "I feel so weak and turned on at the same time when I'm in your arms."

4.  "Just hearing you breath in my ear sends shivers down my spine."

5. "I want you to slowly kiss me from my lips, down my neck, onto my breasts, and all the way down my body." (feel free to reword this to something even dirtier if you're comfortable.)

6. "I can't wait until we're both alone so that I can blow your mind."

7. "I bet that no matter how hard you try, you can't guess what color bra I'm wearing."

8. "You know I wore this skirt/these jeans just for you."

9. "If I didn't have to go to work today, I'd totally spend the whole day in bed with you."

10. "You're making me so turned on."

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Turn A Guy On By Honing Your Oral Sex Skills

This pretty much goes without saying, but guys absolutely adore getting oral sex. A huge amount of guys even prefer getting a blowjob to having regular sex.

So, if you are truly serious about turning him on, then you should start learning these great oral sex techniques to improve your sex life. 

11. Start off with foreplay by kissing him and touching him all over his body, going down as you get closer be slow and sensual. 

12. Start from the base of his penis to the tip and either lick or suck it up and down, focusing on the tip because that really turns him on. 

13. Use the tongue and swirl method where you keep him in your mouth and swirl your tongue around the rip and use your hand to massage him. 

14. Massage his penis and testicles slowly and then increase speed and see how he likes it. 

15. Use both hands at the same time that you're giving him head. Massage his balls as you stroke his penis up and down with your other hand and your mouth to stimulate his shaft and tip.

16. Use a cock ring to help with more stimulation especially at the base of his penis. 

17. While you're giving him head use your hands to either grab his butt or play with his nipples and squeeze his thigh. 

18. Tease them while you are giving head by stopping and starting and make them beg for it. 

19. Stand behind your partner while stroking his penis. You can add stimulation to this by licking their ear lobes or kissing their shoulder and back while moving your other hand up and down his body, and this will feel good for him because that's the same angle they masturbate.

20. Focus on the frenulum, which is the piece of flesh that joins the shaft on the underside of his penis. This is the best place to touch a man to turn him on. You can lightly run your finger or tongue over it for incredible stimulation. 

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How To Get A Guy In The Mood By Telling Him What Sex Position & Techniques You Like

Telling your man what you like and enjoy him doing in bed serves two purposes. It lets him know what techniques and positions get you off most easily, while also massaging your man's ego in a subtle way.

If you like him making love to you in a certain position, using a certain technique, or kissing you in a certain way, then let him know. Describe what it is about it that turns you on, and try to use as much detail as possible.

Try out these different sex positions and kissing techniques to turn him on. 

21. Cowgirl

Men love a woman on top, and either the cowgirl or the reverse cowgirl position will turn them on. In this position, you can take advantage of being in control and he has the free range for his hands to roam all over your body. 

22. Missionary

This will always be the best sex position because it's so intimate, you both have control, and you can have a lot of kissing action at the same time. 

23. Doggy Style

It's the perfect position for deep penetration and a possible g-spot orgasm to occur. This also will turn your man on because he has a lot of control in this position. 

24. Spooning

This is the ultimate sex position and probably superior because it feels amazing for the both of you and it doesn't make the two of you as tired and you can make out while he has free range to touch your breasts, butt, and rub your clit. 

25. Passion Pretzel

Try the pretzel position for increased stimulation and excitement. Lay on your side with one leg laid out on the bed and the other one bent and raised wrapping around your partner while he's on his knees thrusting into you like missionary except your body is to the side instead of lying flat. 

26. Kissing Triangle

When making out with him, kiss him from his lips to his cheek then down his neck, and then back up the other way. 

27. Nibble his lip

This one might be a no-brainer but biting his lip while kissing and teasing him while kissing will definitely turn him on he'll grab you and pull you closer. 

28. Suck his lip

Sucking on your partner's lips gently is another great way to turn them on and suck and pull away to let his lip slide out of your mouth. 

29. Get handsy

Use your hands to your advantage when kissing up and down his chest, neck, and wherever you want to turn him on, even more, when kissing.

30. Try touching different erogenous zones

This might sound weird if you haven't tried before but kissing your partner's ears and biting them a little can turn them on a lot because ears are one of the most sensitive parts of the body. 

Turn A Guy On By Taking Initiative

Your man might find it really hot when you take a little bit of control and initiate things. If your man is usually the one who starts things in the bedroom, without mentioning it to him in advance, change things up and be the one who initiates things on occasion.

Taking initiative and switching it up during foreplay is very important in turning your man on. Try out a few of these ideas if you need some help. 

31. Wear some sexy lingerie.

He might be surprised and turned on to see you in something different and he won't be able to wait to take it off of you. Key tip: wear red. 

32. Play a little striptease in or outside of the bedroom.

Anywhere you take your clothes off and tease your man, he'll be turned on by you. Try to get steamy in the kitchen, the bath, the shower, or wherever else your heart desires.

33. Read literotica to him.

Reading erotica to your partner while looking at them and either sitting on top of them or next to them is a very easy way to turn them on and what's best is if you are sitting on top, you can actually feel and see him get excited.

34. Practice breath work together.

Feel each other's breaths in motion while you are touching each other and cuddling. It's a very sensual and meditative way to engage in foreplay.

35. Sext him.

Try sexting each other to engage in a bit of foreplay. You can do this while you're apart or while in each other's company. It's an easy way to turn him on and when you see him he'll want you so bad. 

36. Use remote-controlled sex toys. 

This is a great toy to help the two of you in some foreplay. You can control each other's sex toy like a panty vibrator or a cock ring and try different speeds and vibrations to turn each other on. 

37. Role play.

Sometimes it's fun to be a different person for a day or for the night and you can do this by engaging in some sexy roleplay with your partner. There are many options you can choose from, so be as creative as you want. 

38. Shower together.

Sometimes the best foreplay starts from showering together and getting each other's body primed and ready for some killer sex. 

39. Give him a massage.

This can destress your partner but also relax them and turn them on at the same time. If you want you can use ice cubes on his erogenous zones and sensitive parts for more stimulation. You could also mix sex and food (like whipped cream, for example) in the bedroom.

40. Try mutual masturbation.

This can also really turn a guy on because seeing you touch yourself while he's looking at you makes him very turned on. This is also an easy way to turn a guy on without trying because you're just pleasuring yourself, and you also might be turned on by looking at him touch himself while looking at you. 

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How To Turn A Guy On By Finding Out His Kinks And Fetishes

If you truly want to turn your man on in a way that no other woman can, then you need to find out his kinks and fetishes.

Just like they are for women, for guys, these are often deeply personal and private. Guys are usually very nervous and shy about revealing them to anyone, so if you surprise him and directly ask him what really turns him on and what his kinks are, then he might try to dodge the question.

My advice is to avoid asking him about them directly. Instead, I suggest you be indirect in your questioning. Wait until you're both in bed. Right before sex is a perfect time.

Start by telling your man about some of your tamer kinks and turn on's. It could be him being very aggressive in bed or going down on you. Then, if he seems to like hearing about them, tell him about your deeper fantasies and turn on's. After talking about your kinks for a while, it's time to find out about his.

Rather than asking him really directly about what his turn on's are, be indirect so you can get him to secretly admit his kinks and fetishes to you. 

41. "I bet you love it when I'm dominant and in control in the bedroom."

42. "Do you prefer me going down on you or using my hands?"

44. "I have a sneaking suspicion that you'd like to see me with another girl."

45. "I bet that you'd get really turned on by doing it in public."

46. “What do you think I’m into?”

47. “I really like X—do you think that’s weird…?”

48. “Some guys have a thing for necks and feet and things, right?”

49. “What do you like about my body?”

50. “The first time you meet a girl, where are your eyes drawn to?”

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and founder of the Bad Girl's Bible website, where you can learn advanced techniques to improve your sex life. If you enjoyed learning about what turns guys on and want to learn more techniques, tactics, and tips for pleasing him, then you may be interested in watching this detailed video tutorial on giving your man great oral sex.