How To Do Reverse Cowgirl Position & Ride A Man Right

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Saddle up for the reverse cowgirl position, one of the best sex positions for both men and women.

The regular cowgirl position is also done with the woman on top, but facing her lover instead. Switching it up by facing away from him comes with a few benefits — and a few challenges.

What is reverse cowgirl?

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The reverse cowgirl sex position describes intercourse with the woman on top, facing away from her male partner while riding him like a cowboy (or more accurately, like a cowgirl).

So here are our expert tips and advice on everything you need to know about riding a man in the reverse cowgirl position.

How to do the reverse cowgirl position

Turn your back toward your partner so that you're facing his feet while you're straddling his legs.

Focus on getting into a good rhythm with your lover. He's probably eager to thrust, so hold still and give him a turn. Then ask him to relax and let you ride.

Eventually, you'll find an easy harmony as you synchronize your movements with his and find a rhythm that works for both of you.

Reverse cowgirl also gives your lover a great view of your sexy back and butt. A lot of guys love this vision, but some women get shy about how they look during sex. Give it a try, and know that even with a few extra pounds, your curves look glorious and he'll love seeing your hips move.

Why reverse cowgirl is hot

Like all female-on-top sex positions, reverse cowgirl puts you in charge of penetration. When you are on top, you get to control the speed, angle, and depth of penetration according to what feels best for you. This is a huge game-changer in how pleasurable intercourse feels to you.

Another benefit is that you can easily touch your own clitoris while on top.

Remember, studies show that somewhere between 70 to 75 percent of women cannot have orgasms from vaginal penetration alone, and 37 percent of women say they require clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

We recommend you train your lover on how to give you orgasms before focusing on adding new sex positions. You'll find that if your lover takes care of you first before you move on to intercourse, you'll be more aroused and prepared for penetration.

To keep the orgasms coming, add clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The reverse cowgirl position is great for adding clitoral stimulation as you ride away.

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Reverse cowgirl challenges & how to overcome them

As hot as the reverse cowgirl position is, there are a few challenges with this sex position.

Penis curvature

The biggest challenge is that many men have a penis that is gently curved toward the belly button. In front-facing positions, this angle works to your advantage as the head is more likely to hit the sensitive front wall of the vagina. But when you turn around, the curvature points away from your G-spot.

Try it out and notice if it makes a big difference in your experience or not.

The best way to negotiate his curvature in the reverse cowgirl position is to lean back as you ride. Instead of leaning forward toward his feet, lean back toward his chest. Plant your hands on his chest or along each side of his body so your torso is at an angle, leaning back toward your lover's head. This will align your opening with the angle of his penis, making penetration a bit more comfortable for both of you.

It's hard work being on top

Both cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are true tests of your sexual fitness, whether you're on top in a deep squat, using your powerful thigh muscles to bounce up and down, or on your knees and moving up and down from there.

If you have a hard time keeping up momentum, try taking your lovemaking to the couch.

Have your lover sit on the couch, then sit on back while keeping your feet firmly planted on the floor. You'll find this is probably way more comfortable than squatting over your lover in bed. Plus, having sex in different places adds the essential element of novelty to your sex life.

Shyness

If you find yourself shy about being on top, try blindfolding your guy. By denying him his sense of sight, you'll heighten his other senses, which will make the feeling of you being on top even hotter for him.

But the real bonus?

You can stop worrying about how you look and get totally focused on the sensations and making the sex feel amazing. Without worrying about your performance, you'll hopefully feel free to let your hips move as you undulate and thrust in all the ways that feel best to you.

Remember, great sex isn't about wild sex positions — it's about sharing exquisite pleasure with your partner.

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The Pleasure Mechanics are a two-woman team of sex educators and touch experts (named Charlotte and Chris) dedicated to providing men, women and couples around the world with the tools and strategies they need to experience maximum sexual pleasure. Their books and videos offer time-tested strategies based on human anatomy, psychology and an understanding of the social nature of human sexuality.