How To Ride A Man Correctly In The Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

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Ready to discover one of the best sex positions for people of all genders? Then saddle up for Reverse Cowgirl.

What is Reverse Cowgirl?

Reverse Cowgirl is the slang name for the sex position where a woman is on top but facing away from her male partner while riding him like a cowboy (or more accurately, like a cowgirl).

The "regular" Cowgirl position is also done with the woman on top, but facing her lover instead.

Switching it up by facing away from him comes with a few benefits — and a few challenges.

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Why Reverse Cowgirl is Such a Hot Sex Position

Like all female-on-top sex positions, Reverse Cowgirl puts you in charge of penetration.

When you are on top, you get to control the speed, angle and depth of penetration according to what feels best for you. This is a huge game changer in how pleasurable intercourse feels to you.

Another benefit is that you can easily touch your own clitoris while on top.

Remember, studies show that somewhere between 70 to 75% of women cannot have orgasms from vaginal penetration alone, and 37% of women say they require clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

Side note: We recommend you educate your lover on how to give you orgasms before focusing on adding new sex positions. You'll find that if your lover takes care of you first before you move on to intercourse, you'll be more aroused and prepared for penetration.

Reverse cowgirl also gives your lover a great view of your sexy back and butt. A lot of guys love this vision, but some women get shy about how they look during sex.

Give it a try, and know that even with a few extra pounds, your curves look glorious and he'll love seeing your hips move.

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How to Do the Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

Turn your back toward your partner so that you're facing his feet while you're straddling his legs.

Focus on getting into a good rhythm with your lover. He's probably eager to thrust, so hold still and give him a turn, then ask him to relax and let you ride.

Eventually, you'll find an easy harmony as you synchronize your movements with his and find a rhythm that works for both of you.

To keep the orgasms coming, add clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The Reverse Cowgirl position is great for adding clitoral stimulation as you ride away.

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Reverse Cowgirl Challenges and Tips on How to Overcome Them

As hot as the reverse cowgirl position is, there are a few challenges with this sex position.

1. A curved penis may hit the wrong spot.

The biggest challenge is that many men have a penis that is gently curved toward the belly button.

In front-facing positions, this angle works to your advantage, as the head is more likely to hit the sensitive front wall of your vagina. But when you turn around, the curvature points away from your G-spot.

What to do about it:

Give the position a try and see if it makes a big difference in your experience or not. If so, the best way to negotiate his curvature in the Reverse Cowgirl position is to lean back as you ride.

Instead of leaning forward toward his feet, lean back toward his chest. Plant your hands on his chest or along each side of his body so your torso is at an angle, leaning back toward your lover's head. This will align you with the angle of his penis, making penetration more comfortable for both of you.

2. Being on top during sex can be hard work.

Both cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are true tests of your sexual fitness, whether you're on top in a deep squat while using your powerful thigh muscles to bounce up and down, or on your knees and moving up and down from there.

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What to do about it:

If you have a hard time keeping up momentum, try taking your lovemaking to the couch. Have your lover sit on the couch, then sit on back while keeping your feet firmly planted on the floor.

You'll find this is probably way more comfortable than squatting over your lover in bed. Plus, having sex in different places adds an essential element of novelty to your sex life.

3. Shyness may hold you back.

If you feel shy about your body during sex, being in a position in which you can't see your partners facial expressions may leave you feeling even more vulnerable.

What to do about it:

If you find yourself shy about being on top, try blindfolding your guy. By denying him his sense of sight, you'll heighten his other senses, which will make the feeling of you being on top even hotter for him.

But the real bonus? You can stop worrying about how you look and get totally focused on the sensations and making the sex feel amazing.

Without worrying about your performance, you'll hopefully feel free to let your hips move as you undulate and thrust in all the ways that feel best to you.

Remember, great sex isn't about wild sex positions — it's about sharing exquisite pleasure with your partner.

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The Pleasure Mechanics are a team of sex educators and touch experts dedicated to providing people around the world with the tools and strategies they need to experience maximum sexual pleasure. Their books and videos offer time-tested strategies based on human anatomy, psychology and an understanding of the social nature of human sexuality.