How To Turn Her Attraction Into Absolute Loving Devotion (Part One)

How To Turn Her Attraction Into Absolute Loving Devotion (Part One)

Here’s a good question. Ready?

Exactly WHY do you want a woman to be attracted to you, anyway?

Careful…you might want to give that one some thought before simply giving the first answer that comes to mind.

Is it so you can have sex with her and move on to the next one?

Is it because you enjoy having your masculinity ignited by feminine appreciation, even though you’d really rather not be “bothered” by having a woman in your life?

Both of those possible answers are actually valid ones for lots and lots of guys.

But what if the true answer for you is so that you can be free to evaluate whether or not she’s the greatest woman you’ve ever met and possibly decide to pursue a long, mutually-fulfilling relationship with her?

If I just hit the nail on the head in that last paragraph, then it’s just like I always say: You’re going to have to be READY for her when you meet her.

You just can’t be caught by surprise.

Now, if you’re familiar with some of my other writings, you’ll recall that I’ve talked about “charm throttling” before.

That’s what a “big four” man needs to do when he’s with a woman he ISN’T yet so sure about.

After all, when you don’t quite have whether you really want a second date with her or not figured out just yet, it’s a good idea NOT to do things that are likely to get her to develop powerful feelings for you early on.

But what about when “charm throttling” is out the window and you have a woman in your life that you’re sure you REALLY WANT to keep around?

Sure, you may already have her ATTRACTED TO YOU, but how can you do the OPPOSITE of “charm throttling”.

In other words, how do you turn simple interest (aka “attraction”) into absolute, loving devotion?

Well, obviously, the decision to pursue a long-term, committed relationship is NOT made overnight.

And “devotion” may actually be a bit of a heavy-duty term for the context at hand. That also takes time to cultivate, most definitely.

But make no mistake: You CAN cause a woman to feel intense “warm fuzzies” for you relatively quickly, and get her talking to her friends and family as if she’s met the most amazing man who’s ever lived.

That’s you.

Of course, the secret to what I’m about to share with you lies in how you represent to her what she CRAVES in a man.

And it’s about how much deeper you can look than just wanting to have sex with her.

And It’s about having the patience and maturity to know that getting the job at hand done the RIGHT way will lead to particularly explosive sexual fireworks, anyway.

Now before we get to the list, I have to make something PERFECTLY clear.

EVERYTHING you’re about to read below presupposes you’ve ALREADY CREATED STRONG ATTRACTION.

In other words, if you try ANY of what follows in an attempt to CREATE attraction, you’re little stunt will only BACKFIRE.

In fact, the difference between looking needy and overbearing versus coming off as a man with real depth is a devastating combination of HER ATTRACTION and YOUR “BIG FOUR” PRESENCE.

You must NEVER come off as conniving or begging. You must NEVER seem as if you are “trying too hard” to create attraction out of nothing.

So this means that every one of Cupid’s arrows that I’m about to share with you are best taken out of the quiver only after you’ve ALREADY KNOWN HER for at least a few dates…I hope.

Basically, it’s all meant to MAGNIFY the affection she’s ALREADY showing towards you. You’ll see what I mean as you read on.

And if you don’t, save your brainwashed e-mails telling me that showing any positive concern for women at all beyond nailing them is for wusses.

Good luck with that. Maybe someday you’ll get the difference sorted out, at which time the rest of this newsletter will be meaningful to you.

So here we go…five guaranteed ways to turn her attraction into absolute loving devotion:

1) Take Care Of Her When She’s Sick

I’m not talking about waiting on her hand and foot as she whines, complains and makes demands like a spoiled brat.

For starters, the greatest woman you’ve ever met WON’T behave like that.

More than likely, when you find out she’s not feeling well she’ll simply tell you she’s bummed out that she got a cold or whatever and hopes to get well soon so she can hang out with you again.

And THAT’S where you spring into action.

Now, granted, there are a couple of assumptions that must be made here.

First, you’ll want to make sure she doesn’t have some crazy tropical disease that’s highly contagious.

Second, she’s got to be at least comfortable with you dropping by to see her—regardless of what she said.

But with those two minor considerations covered, you can have a GOLDEN opportunity here.

Now, knowing how mortified some women can be to see a guy like you when they’re not at their best, it’s going to take an amazing woman to even AGREE to what I’m about to suggest.

But if you TELL HER on the phone that you want to cheer her up by bringing her some of that great chicken soup from the restaurant you had lunch at together, she just may agree to it.

When you get to her place, place the soup on her nightstand.

Say VERY LITTLE, but make it light. Perhaps even something humorous about either her room or her circumstances.

Then, tuck her covers around her, kiss her on the forehead, and whisper in her ear that she’s still pretty cute even when she’s not feeling well.


This is NOT about trying to crawl in bed with her (even if SHE suggests it).

You’ve already shown her that she has some sort of meaning to you beyond sexual conquest by showing up.

Now prove it by letting her get some rest.

This will blow her away.

And even if she flatly refuses to let you see her when she’s sick (which is probable) rest assured there will be a sparkle in her eye when you hang up the phone having brought it up.

She’ll know you’re different. And she’ll like it…a lot.


If you play guitar—even a little—you already know how powerful this can be.

There’s just something about music that melts a woman’s heart, especially if that music is FOR her, FROM you.

The level of intimacy it creates is nothing short of magic…seriously.

Pick a song to play that sums up what you’d like to say to her, and don’t even worry about the words being a bit too “mushy” or something.

In fact, here’s the crazy part. The same lyrics that would come off as too “over the top” if simply spoken are often STONE-COLD PERFECT when in the context of a song.

I’d venture to say that the more you tease her and/or come off like a pretty hard guy in normal conversation, the BETTER OFF you are finding a song with pretty emotional lyrics.

It’ll just give her a window into a deeper part of your soul. She’ll love you for this.

If you can WRITE a song, even better. If she happens to inspire potential song lyrics that just pop into your head one day, write them down on the spot and go for it.

And what if you can’t play guitar (or possibly piano)? Then don’t even think about dusting off the clarinet from middle school or the accordion your German grandmother made you get lessons on.

Cook for her instead. The end result will be the same:


That’s spelled “massage”, not “message”. You can’t text your way out of this one, cowboy.

When she comes over your house, surprise her by rubbing her shoulders after she sits down.

When she starts purring like a kitten, she’ll probably invite you rub her back.

She may even lie down flat as she extends the invitation.

At that point, don’t try to undo her bra or sneak in a grab at her “butt cleavage”.

Rest assured, you won’t have to. She’ll probably take care of those arrangements herself.

She may casually unhook her bra or roll down the beltline of her shorts for you

Think of it this way.

Women who are particularly attracted to you WANT you to touch them, and you’ve just given her reason and logic to back her emotional desires.

So sometime around when she indicates with such a signal such that you can pretty much touch her wherever you’d like, you should pause and get that special massage oil that smells amazing that you happened to have bought.

I’d recommend Bath And Body Works for such items, because it’s always incredibly fun to buy something from there.

This is probably because they typically only employ very cute women who automatically think you’re terrific and wish they were the one who you were buying all their great stuff for.

It rocks…try it.

Oh, and two other things.

First, be sure to give her a foot massage. This is incredibly sensual, and I agree 100% that a woman’s feet can be considered to be miniature versions of a woman’s form in general.

So what you heard in Pulp Fiction might just be true. A foot massage isn’t just a foot massage. It gets a woman to start thinking about your hands massaging her everywhere else also.

OK, I’ve got more to say about where the massage MIGHT lead next, but it looks like this article is better off being split into two parts.

Besides, it’s time for Emily’s foot massage.

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Next time I’ll deliver the goods on how to make the massage truly amazing, and we’ll also cover two more outstanding ways to turn a woman’s attraction into absolute loving devotion.