Do Good Guys Really Finish Last?

The answer is, NEVER! Good guys just need to weed through a horrible pile of freeloaders, gold-diggers, self-centered bitches and women who think the world owes them everything. There truly are nice women out there that are looking for the same. The reason it is so hard to find these women is that they have been through the exact same thing you have. When a woman has been burned several times, this shell begins to form around her, protecting her from repeated hurts, being treated badly and just flat-out wasting her time.

Are you a good guy who is lonely?

All of the good guys will sit back and let the good women out there in the lovely land of dating get picked up by guys that are so wrong for them. These women will be treated like shit, cheated on and more or less just get hurt. The good guys in Dating Land have to be more aggressive and not let these good girls endure all that bullshit. This is just something that needs to change, otherwise no one is going to win. If you are trying to figure out why you are lonely and not sure why finding a date is so hard, it is time to analyze what you are doing wrong. One of the biggest problems with dating is finding a good girl.

Improving self-confidence

Good guys can find themselves in a dating slump. Some men will just give up and not make any attempt to date, once failure has been a constant in their life. You should never give up! Good guys need to realize that there is light at the end of the tunnel. A true way to find a good girl is to become friends first. When you are surrounded by women that are friends, it is the perfect way for other women to get to know you and realize just how wonderful you truly are. Finding a good girl that appreciates you for your kindness will get much easier. You also will be able to start to figure out which of these friends would not be the ideal mate for you. It will not only save you time, but it will help you gain confidence. Also, being lonely won't be an issue anymore, because you will have female friends you can talk to and listen to their problems.

Simple quick fixes you might not even know about

Being a nice guy is a great way to live your life, but finding that good girl might be a challenge. When you are analyzing everything about how you roll, super simple things might be all you are missing. Take a look at your haircut–are you well groomed?  Making the first impression is huge when you are trying to find a nice girl. A super shaggy look might not be the most appealing. You always want to look super groomed and clean. Make sure you have a nice haircut, you smell good and you are dressed nicely. You don't want to be wearing a holey tee-shirt, have shaggy hair and smell like a huge armpit and try to talk to a nice girl. That is the worst impression ever!  So many nice girls have been turned off instantly by someone with “turd breath.”  No matter what, always check yourself before you leave your house, because you never know what lovely lady you might run into.

The wonderful world of dating is always going to be a mystery to some. Getting it right can take time, but the main thing you should always think about is never settling for just anyone. Make sure when you are dating, the person you are dating has all of the values, morals and characteristics you are seeking. Once you find that person, you should get to know her well. Finding your partner in crime when you are a good guy is the ultimate reward. It makes all those other horrible experiences seem like a thing of the past. After you find the perfect girl for you, make sure you never lose her. Keep your sex life amazing, the lines of communication always open to lend an ear and the most important thing of all: Respect your woman to the fullest. Treat her the way you would like to be treated. You will have nothing but success if you keep this in mind.

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This article was originally published at How To Get The Woman of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.