Online dating may be the new craze and lead to a successful marriage, but is it too good to be true?
A recent study suggests that couples who meet online through various dating sites are more happy with their subsequent marriages than those who meet the traditional ways (at work, in a church or synagogue, in college, at a club or bar, or a blind date).
In an article appearing in the Los Angeles Times in June 2013, reporter Melissa Healy, reports on a study of nearly 20,000 people conducted by well-known psychologist, John Cacioppo. One of his co-authors was his wife, Stephanie Cacioppo. They concluded in their study that people meeting online report a higher level of satisfaction with their marriages than those who did not.
Irrespective of the relative merits of this research, we do know that meeting on-line comes with numerous risks of which you should be aware. Before you "jump-in" to online dating be aware of the risks that follow.
The online scams are numerous and recurring. Most of them cost you money...and worse!
Just today, someone co-opted a friend of ours by using a fake email address similar to his and sending it to a zillion people asking them to wire him money. According to the fake message he, "had lost his bag with his money, his credit cards and his passport" in England. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Here’s the truth—he did NOT lose his bag. He was not traveling in England, and the message was a clear attempt to extort money from his friends under false pretenses.
And while we acknowledge that some one-in-five new relationships in the USA currently begin on the Internet through on-line dating services, we also note that there are risks associated with utilizing these services, similar to the scam perpetrated on our friend.
As love and marriage experts, our research over the years has suggested to us that there are at least seven major risks associated with online dating. Here they are in a nutshell:
1. Be mindful of the stalkers. Let’s face it; there are bad people out there who would like to stalk you! They aren’t interested in love, companionship, or togetherness. What they want is a vulnerable person who is desperately in need of love and companionship, who would bare their soul to garner both—behaviors that make them easy to stalk by bad people. We are reminded of a story that came to light during a recent interview that we conducted with a young woman. When she got to the location of the "first date" she had arranged from an online dating service, she discovered that the man walking up to her did not look like the man in the photo, did not drive the car he said he had, and did not look at all like the "man of means" he described in their various email exchanges. Her instincts told her to run! She did. We can only wonder what might have happened to her if she had followed through on this date. Keep Reading...
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