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By Armand Diaz — Written on Feb 20, 2020
Knowing how to get over heartache is never easy. Relationship breakups are hard. For many of us, it's a trauma that’s right up there with the loss of a loved one.
Breaking up is often worse than losing your job or any of life’s other greater and lesser tragedies.
What does your zodiac sign need to do to get over a breakup, according to astrology?
There’s a lot of advice out there about how to survive a breakup, and in truth, I think a lot of it is very good.
The thing is, good advice on anything doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all package. What works well for one person might be the wrong approach for someone else.
As an astrologer who has written and worked a great deal with clients in the midst of difficult breakups, I realize that astrology offers some useful strategies for each astrological sign.
In the section that follows, I give some basic ideas on how to get over a breakup that will be applicable to your Sun sign (or simply, your “sign”), although they will be even more helpful to soothe your Moon sign (easily found on the many internet astrology sites — just enter your birth data).
I also point out a few pitfalls that might be avoided when you are trying to get over a breakup for each zodiac sign. The astrology of breakups can be quite complex, but doing what you can to survive and move on is pretty straightforward.
Keep in mind that it’s never a good idea to short-circuit the grieving process involved with heartbreak. I advise some signs to get moving faster than others, but that doesn’t mean that they should deny their emotions, only that they will feel better when on the move.
On the other hand, some zodiac signs will need more time to retreat and process their feelings, but encouraging a slower approach doesn’t mean that they should get bogged down in licking their wounds.
Everyone needs to maintain a balance between grieving the past and seeking the future.
Here's how each zodiac sign can get over a breakup, using astrology.
How to get over a breakup — Aries zodiac sign
Rams don’t like to sit on the sidelines. While getting into a rebound relationship probably isn’t a good idea for anyone, Aries will want to know that there’s a romantic future out there for them.
Casual dating or going out with friends will help to reassure them that the end of one partnership isn’t the end of the road.
How to get over a breakup — Taurus zodiac sign
This sign likes stability, and breakups can be difficult primarily because they represent a change – especially if the bull didn’t initiate the separation.
Creature comforts like good food (and wine), a comfy sofa, and a few sensual indulgences can really help. Overspending, or binging on food or luxury items are to be avoided: they don’t really help as much as expected.
How to get over a breakup — Gemini zodiac sign
Twins like to be sociable, and a good strategy for Gemini is to get out and connect with others. Join with a group of friends, reach out on social media, and perhaps invest a little more in work.
Journaling is another good strategy for Gemini. But as much as it’s a good idea to keep busy, don’t avoid feeling and processing the pain of the breakup.
How to get over a breakup — Cancer zodiac sign
This is another sign that likes security, but it’s even more basic and primal than Taurus. Crabs need to know that they have a safe place, whether that’s their home, family, a group of friends, or even their work.
They need a place that they can safely retreat to when needed, although they may also need to be reminded to venture out again after the storm has passed.
How to get over a breakup — Leo zodiac sign
Lions do have their pride, and sometimes a breakup comes as a wound to their proud nature. But Leo is also the sign of the heart, and the pain of a breakup can go much deeper than egotism and pride.
Leos need to feel a genuine connection with someone or something — maybe even a pet — so that they know love is still part of life.
How to get over a breakup — Virgo zodiac sign
This is a very self-contained sign that doesn’t always express itself directly. Sometimes, it can even seem like Virgos themselves don’t know what they are feeling, so doing a deep dive into the emotions can be both threatening and healing — if they have the support.
Virgo thrives on order and making sense of things, investigating what went wrong and planning for the future. A task of some sort, and being of service to others, can be very nurturing during a breakup.
How to get over a breakup — Libra zodiac sign
In many ways, Libra is the sign of a relationship, and the loss of a partner can feel like the loss of yourself to those born under the sign of the scales.
As much as it can feel good to talk about “my other half” when you’re together, after a breakup Libra may feel like only part of them remains. Libra can benefit from thinking things out and realistically assessing the situation while remaining socially active.
How to get over a breakup — Scorpio zodiac sign
Poor Scorpio is often misunderstood when it comes to breakups. It may be hard for others to see their grief, even though the sign feels things deeply.
Scorpions often need to ‘shout it out’ or work off the energy in the gym, as they can process emotions by doing rather than stewing. Water heals, and long baths or a walk on the beach can work wonders.
How to get over a breakup — Sagittarius zodiac sign
Next! It’s a little bit of an unfair stereotype, but Sadge often moves on quickly. The arrow is always seeking new experiences, and — assuming that adequate time to grieve and process emotions have been given — being active socially or even romantically isn’t a bad idea.
Sadgies can also be philosophical about their loss, and that’s a good strategy for them.
How to get over a breakup — Capricorn zodiac sign
This sign feels things deeply but is another that can have a hard time showing its emotions, even to itself.
While some downtime is probably called for, mountain goats like to keep busy, and throwing yourself into a work project isn’t a bad idea. Build something – renovate your home as a symbol for renovating your life.
How to get over a breakup — Aquarius zodiac sign
Big-picture Aquarians don’t usually like to dwell on their losses, although it might be a good idea to stop and focus on their emotions during a breakup.
A pitfall for Aquarius is to be stoic to a fault, explaining why the pain isn’t so bad rather than feeling how bad it is.
Still, the nature of the sign is to take in the entire landscape rather than focusing on a single experience, and so moving on to other activities they can be passionate about – maybe a social cause or political group – is a reasonable strategy.
How to get over a breakup — Pisces zodiac sign
The fish swim in two directions, and Pisces can go a couple of different ways in a breakup, succumbing to the depths of grief or letting the pain go quickly as they move on.
Pisces need to feel it all, then move on. Water is very helpful for this sign, and access to the ocean can be very healing, although so can a warm bath. Self-care, however you define it, is key to sensitive Pisces making the best of a difficult time.