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There are so many ways to show someone you love them.
By Shavella St.Preux — Written on Jun 18, 2018
You know that old saying "actions speak louder than words?" Well ... it's TRUE! Especially when it comes to your relationships.
In relationships, it's important to hear "I love you" — but it's also essential to show your partner you love them with your actions. Words of affirmation are only just the beginning when it comes to love. Whether you like to plan for your future together, talk more intimately, or spend all your free time together, showing your partner that you love them is what will keep the relationship going.
The thing is, we each have a unique way of going about showing someone we love them, and it can be traced back to your Myers Briggs personality type. The Myers-Briggs personality test was developed in the 1900s based on the work of Carl Jung. In total there are 16 personality types that help explain who you really are.
Figure out how your personality type says "I love you" without words.
1. ISTJ
This personality type is serious and committed when it comes to their relationships. Your way of showing your partner that you're in love is by showing respect and making them laugh. Your humor only comes out when you're around people you care about.
2. INFJ
INFJs are in tune with their emotions. Your way of saying "I love you" without words is being their very own personal counselor. That's right! You will be emotionally available to your partner's needs. You are naturally warm and caring so catering to someone's emotional needs isn't going to be a problem.
3. INTJ
If you are an INTJ, then you really don't know how to show someone you love them. INTJs have a complicated time processing anything that isn't based on logic and reasoning. Having a romantic relationship isn't your forte, but you always try your best.
4. ENFJ
ENFJs are ruled by the heart. Your way of showing your love is by spending all your time with your partner. This personality type cannot spend a lot of time alone so being with the person they love most is sure to bring an abundance of joy.
5. ISTP
ISTPs have are risk takers, so your way of saying "I love you" without words is by taking your partner on new adventures. You enjoy new experiences so having new moments with the one you love will be timeless. Whether they are going to London, Paris, or maybe even Tokyo, they'll be right beside you.
6. ESFJ
This personality type loves to be the center of attention. They are natural social butterflies, so your way of saying "I love you" without words is by showcasing the love of your life to the world. You aren't fond of sharing the attention but you will share it with the person you care for because being side by side in the spotlight means everything to you.
7. INFP
As an INFP your way of showing your love is by making time to always listen to your partner. No matter what you're doing, you'll always make time for them. INFPs are also creative writers, so you will shower the person you love beautiful poems that they will treasure forever.
8. ESFP
If you're an ESFP then your way of showing love is by spending time with your significant other. As an ESFP you love to make those around you happy. You'll always find new and exciting ways to show your love to your partner.
9. ENFP
Relationships mean so much to you if you're an ENFP. Your way of showing your partner you love them is showering them with your undivided attention. You will complement so much that there is no way they won't know how much you love them.
10. ESTP
You enjoy a good adventure. Your way of saying "I love you" without words is by surprising your partner with an exciting trip or maybe a romantic getaway. You want to see the world and what better way to do so than with your partner by your side?
11. ESTJ
As an ESTJ you love to be in charge. Your way of showing someone you love them is by letting them take the lead. You won't be afraid to let them show you their leadership skills.
12. ENTJ
When an ENTJ falls in love they focus on their actions. If this is your personality type you will have no problem adjusting to your partner's needs. If they don't like your attitude, you'll adjust. If they don't like your clothes, then you'll change your style. You're all about being a 'new you' for the one you love.
13. INTP
INTPs spend a lot of time in solitude. You are often confined in your own thoughts that sometimes you forget to pay attention to those around you. But when you love someone, and you want to express that without saying those three words, you share parts of yourself with your partner. You love coming up with new ideas when your alone so when you truly do care about someone you share all of who you are with them.
14. ISFJ
As an ISFJ you love to be compassionate towards other's feelings, especially when you're in love. You will show your partner you love them by doing the necessary work to maintain the relationship. You are selfless and kind-hearted, so you will make sure your lover is treated with the love an respect they deserve.
15. ENTP
You have a reputation for being a loner and appearing insensitive and condescending to other but that isn't in the way of your love life. You show a person you love them by talking about your future together. You'll talk about where you want to live together, how many kids you want, and what kind of pets you would like to have.
16. ISFP
ISFPs like to have a good time. Showing someone you love them is by living life to the fullest with them. If you want to go on a vacation together, walk across a bridge, try all types of new foods, or even go camping in the wilderness, you just want the person you love right beside you to enjoy all of life's greatest moments.
Shavella is an MFA student at Brooklyn College, studying creative writing. She enjoys blogging, reading, volunteering, and working on her novel.