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By the time he realizes what he's done, you'll be gone.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Jun 06, 2018
Do you feel like your healthy relationship is slowly turning into a toxic relationship? Are you noticing any signs you should break up? Though a horoscope can provide helpful insight to answer these questions, we can also look to astrology, because each zodiac sign has a way of slowly drifting away in their relationships.
Everyone has their own line that once crossed can never be undone. The things that we’re willing to go through in a relationship are different for everyone, and there are many factors that influence those things.
Some behaviors and actions are pretty universal and we all understand their significance.
If your partner is never available for you or only texts back at his convenience, it’s clear that his interest is waning and that is definitely one of the signs you should break up. He's becoming a toxic boyfriend, disengaging and having no guts to break up. So instead, he loses a little piece of you daily, spiraling your relationship into something bad.
You deserve more in a relationship than being someone’s afterthought. You deserve more than a toxic relationship. If you feel ignored, taken advantage of, and as if you’re the only one truly invested in the relationship, it's time to let go. But why is he acting this way?
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
He doesn't make any effort to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. He seems okay with the fact that you rarely do anything to break up the routine.
He doesn't act excited to see you and he never makes any plans to show you that he thinks about you and how special you are to him. He's gotten boring and your relationship no long stimulates you or energizes you.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
He's acting shady. You can't tell if he's lying to you or not telling the whole story. You once felt as if you could trust him with your life, but now you wouldn't even trust him to take the garbage out.
All you want is a straight answer, but he dances around the truth like it was a stripper pole. You thought he was the one, but you know you're going to have to kick him to the curb.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
He's constantly trying to change you. At first, his suggestions were just annoying, and now they're hurtful. You want acceptance, not a list of the way you don't measure up to his standards.
It's not as if he's good at taking any criticism you might have of him. You resent the fact that he's trying to turn you into someone you're not, especially since you suspect that someone was a previous girlfriend.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He doesn't listen when you try to express how you're feeling. It's obvious that he doesn't really care how your day was or how upset you are. When you pour out your heart to him, he stares at his phone. When you get his attention, he never apologizes for ignoring you.
You don't deserve to feel like you and your emotions aren't important. You need to find someone who isn't so caught up in his own selfishness and drama.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
He constantly checks out other girls when he's with you. When you call him on it, he says that he's just looking and that it has no effect on your relationship. But hell yeah, it does!
It makes you feel as if every other woman is competition and that somehow you don't measure up. You want someone who only has eyes for you, and lets you know how amazing you are, every day.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
He's being a major slob. Not only is his car and home a complete disaster, the way he dresses shows that he doesn't care about his appearance at all.
If it was just every now and then, you wouldn't care so much that his clothes are stained and wrinkled, but he looks that way when you go out as well. He's not putting any effort in the way he presents himself, and it embarrasses you.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
He's being way too confrontational and combative. Does everything have to escalate into a war? Can't he just let something go, especially when he sees how uncomfortable he's making you?
No matter how chill everything is, he always finds a way to create some conflict, even if it's just about having the waiter bring the food out faster. He never looks at anything from your perspective and acts as if he's always your adversary. Being with this guy is stressing you out, and he needs to be gone.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
He makes you feel as if you're not enough for him and that he has so many other options that it's inevitable he'll leave you. You don't need to be with someone who makes you feel like you're not enough. That's grounds for a toxic relationship that you don't deserve any part of.
You're not a place warmer until he finds the partner that he thinks is a better fit for him. You can do much better than someone who is only going through the motions.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
He's being too controlling. He questions your every decision, and when you want to get away, he insists on coming along. He's trying to tie you down and it feels like he doesn't trust what might happen if he isn't there.
You feel as if you're trapped and suffocated by his paranoia. You'll feel much better if you ditch him at the baggage claim and go solo for a while.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
He never shows you affection. It's not that you want extreme PDA, but hand holding and rubbing your back would be appreciated. He makes you feel as if you're not lovable enough.
You want him to show you how much he cares and how he can't keep his hands off you. No one wants to feel that their partner is ashamed to be associated with them. You need to let him go and find someone who showers you with affection.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
He wants you all to himself. When he hears that you're going out with friends, he'll want to tag along even though he doesn't get along with them. He thinks you shouldn't need to spend time with your friends or family when you've got him.
He feels like he should be your everything, and the less competition he has, the better. He's a little obsessive and you need to dump him before he gets any worse. You need your independence without it being a huge issue.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
He never lets down his walls and letting you in. You want him to feel as if he could express his feelings to you, but he keeps everything bottled up. The more time you spend together, the worse it gets, and the less you feel that you know of him.
You don't want to be in a relationship with a stranger. By not sharing himself with you, he makes the barrier between you stronger.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.