5 Foolproof Ways To Never, EVER Let Jealousy Ruin Your Relationship

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Don't let the green-eyed monster ruin your relationship.

We've all experienced jealousy at one point or another, whether it's in our romantic relationships, friendships, or even with our family members. But for couples especially, jealousy can end a relationship before it even begins.

Here are 5 tips all couples should abide by to vanquish the green-eyed monster... Or at least making friends with him.

1. Date someone whose jealousy meter is about equivalent to yours.

Let's say you're the type who thinks that exes belong in the past and that being friends with them — or even just being connected to them on Facebook — is a slap in the face to a current romantic partner. If you then start dating someone who wants to invite their former booty call to your wedding, well... you see how this goes. And vice versa.

It's not an impossible situation (hey, there's always couples' therapy!), but the more compatible you are in this department, the less of an issue this will be.

2. Jealousy is totally normal but that doesn't mean you have to give into it.

In other words, don't beat yourself up about feeling jealous. It's completely natural, and it doesn't mean anything about the relationship, or whether or not your partner is cheating on you. But just because it's natural doesn't give you the right to throw plates across the room when your partner gets a text from someone other than their relatives.

It's much better if you're feeling jealous to calmly tell your partner, "I'm having an insecure moment and need reassurance about where we stand."

3. What makes you jealous isn't necessarily what will make your partner jealous.

Maybe your blood boils when their head is turned by a scantily clad hottie at the beach. But maybe their blood boils when you mention how funny your ex was. Just because you think something isn't a big deal, doesn’t mean your partner will agree.

4. Conjure a memory that you know would drive your partner crazy if you shared it, but DON'T share it.

Try this exercise: If you're ever feeling uncontrollably jealous, and you know it's irrational, think of a time that would drive your partner nuts if you said anything about it. But don't share it with him or her. Just recall the memory and realize how little it impacts your current relationship, even though knowing about it would make your partner's eyes burn green.

5. Jealousy reminds you how much you mean to each other.

In other words, don't always feel like you have to stifle the green-eyed monster; sometimes your partner might actually get a little thrill from hearing that you're jealous. Did we mention this is in moderation only?

This article was originally published at Em & Lo. Reprinted with permission from the author.