5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer (As Written By One)

The good, the bad, the Cancer.

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As far as astrology goes, Cancer is one of the zodiac signs most likely to get a rep for being sensitive and emotional, yet trustworthy beyond words. But there's so much more to the Crab of the Zodiac than that, especially when you add love into the mix.

Yes, Cancer's shyness (or extroverted introversion) can make their dating game seem rusty, but here's the deal: When it comes to love, Cancer women, in particular, are either the sweetest people you'll ever meet, or the craziest.


Cancer women are known to be tough but soft. They are like a mama bear: nurturing and caring. But when someone messes with their cubs, it's game over for them.

A Cancer woman is loyal and they make great leaders; however, they do tend to overreact at times. Cancer's feelings can be intense, but they often have a hard exterior to get through before they show their emotions to you.

Not only are Cancers good caregivers, they make great girlfriends. The Cancer woman personality is diplomatic and these complex women have many layers to unpack and discover.

Cancer women tend to be artistic, romantic, sensitive, and eccentric. Due to their ruling planet, the Moon, Cancer thinks more with their heart than their head.


Dating a Cancer Woman

What's it like dating a Cancer woman? They are selfless and intuitive with their emotions, so expect to do everything you should while dating.

Don't criticize her or anyone she's close to. She might rant about her family, but that doesn't give you the right to do the same. She has a strong memory so she remembers every damning remark you make.

However, one thing to avoid when dating a Cancer woman is to not try to give advice. If she's having difficulty making a decision, instead of telling her what you think she should do, get her to talk through her options. You can steer her in one direction but make her feel like she's driving herself there.

Be careful with your words as well. Cancer is likely to dissect and analyze everything you say to her. Don't give her any doubt about how you feel towards her.


There's bonus points if you remember little things, like the kind of cookies she likes and a few months down the road you make them for her. This will show her that you pay attention to what she says and how she feels.

All in all, while dating a Cancer woman, make her feel comfortable, safe, and secure within the relationship.

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How to Love a Cancer Woman

Cancer women hold their family at a great value, so make connections with them. Hang out with her father and talk with her mother. Treat her siblings with respect. Exercise extreme patience with Cancers, as these crabs can be stubborn and slow to move when it comes to their heart.


You need to be honest when loving a Cancer woman. They have a hard exterior you must break through to see their true personality, and the only way to do that is to be open and honest about your intentions. Sincerity can’t be faked with Cancer and they crave emotional connection.

Lastly, be affectionate. Cancers are passionate behind closed doors, so be sensual and compassionate with them. Becuase there's nothing better than a Cancer woman in love.

How to Seduce a Cancer Woman

Despite being so compassionate, understanding and intuitive of the needs of others, Cancers also like to be in control. A Cancer woman is attracted to a partner who doesn't necessarily take on the dominant role; rather, they want someone who needs them.

If you really want to turn Cancer on long-term, be a partner who can empathize with them. It's as simple as acknowledging their feelings and offering an empathetic support system.


Good communication is the first step. If you aim to become their best friend, you will be 90 percent of the way there. From that point on, continuously demonstrate that you care, both with words and actions. If this comes naturally to you, it will seem effortless!

The best matches for a Cancer woman are zodiac signs Taurus, Virgo, and Pisces.

Cancer is a loyal and affectionate partner who will intuitively understand Taurus's needs and genuinely enjoy providing for them. Cancer is a partner who will support Taurus emotionally while providing an emotional depth to the relationship that Taurus will find fascinating, sexy, and flattering.

Cancer and Virgo create a harmonious match, where each will bring out the best in the other. Cancer and Virgo have a lot in common and will intuitively understand each other. They also provide the support and stability both signs enjoy. Unlike some signs, this is a sign who will consistently build Cancer's self-confidence.


But the sign a Cancer woman should marry is fellow Water sign, Pisces. Pisces will absorb Cancer's moods, ensuring both are always on the same page. More than anything else, Pisces will always understand Cancer.

This is a fantastically caring and affectionate match. Both are deeply romantic and sentimental, and intuitively understand each other, providing the sensitivity, tenderness, compassion, and stability both need.

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5 Things to Know Before Dating a Cancer Woman

There are five truths to know about dating and loving a Cancer, the proverbial Crab among the zodiac signs.

1. Cancer overanalyzes everything.

You can imagine what it's like to finally score a hot date with that guy you've been eyeing for a while now, only to spend the entire time psychoanalyzing everything that comes out of his mouth (sometimes without really hearing a word he's saying).


Cancer is really attentive when they want to be. Also, flirting with a Cancer via text can either be really sexy or the absolute worst. It's not their fault that your abuse of emojis sends them into detective mode. What the heck does the penguin emoji mean, anyway?!

2. This zodiac sign can be ridiculously moody.

Cancer will be the first to admit they can't stand being seen as emotional, even though there's definitely some truth to it. In fact, they tend to use the silent treatment a little too often.

When a Cancer feels hurt or upset, you'll feel it too — they'll either retreat into their shell or come out swinging. But don't take this to heart; it's just a knee-jerk reaction to protect themselves from getting hurt.

3. Cancer is as stubborn as it gets.

Make Cancer mad and they are a force to be reckoned with. Seriously, when it comes to arguments, you will always lose.


It doesn't matter if you're right or wrong; how you approach Cancer is the deciding factor for whether you'll be sleeping on the couch tonight.

4. They love their family something fierce.

Which has both pros and cons, of course. Cancers know family will always come first, so dating them means basically getting adopted into their family. This means you better be prepared to love their family too or you won't stand a chance.

If their closest friends or family members have serious reservations about someone, it's hard for Cancer to bounce back from that.

5. Above all else, Cancer will do anything to make others happy.

When Cancers fall in love, they feel it in their skin and bones. They give their relationships everything they have, no questions asked.


Even though wearing their heart on their sleeve will sometimes bite them in the end, they don't regret those moments because they helped lead them to a match. So when a Cancer falls in love with you, it's because you're more than worth it.

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Cassandra Rose is a writer with a focus on entertainment and trending topics. When she isn't researching the latest viral news, lifestyle, and relationship studies, binge-watching YouTube videos (for science!), or creating vision boards, she's nerding out over her comic books and all things 'Sherlock Holmes.'