3 Sneaky Ways To Become MORE Than Just Friends With Him

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How To Become MORE Than Just Friends

Escape the dreaded FRIEND ZONE.

One of the hardest social tasks of them all is taking an already established friend and turning that friend into your lover. We’ve all seen the movies and TV shows where this is a running theme and we’ve all fantasized about it being the case. I mean, what’s better than falling in love with your best friend?

When it works out, you get some of the best love stories ever told. Of course, it is not always worth the risk, if you work well together as friends and don’t want the same things out of life, then it’s generally best to keep your relationship merely friendly.

But, sometimes, everything seems to line up and you become ready to take the risk to take your friendship and try to turn it into a romantic relationship.

Here are some tips on how best to do it and get out of the friendzone:

1. Be rational, BUT not too rational. 

Love isn’t ever completely rational. So, in this instance, you shouldn’t be either. You need to rationally evaluate what has changed the dynamic of the relationship.

Why didn’t you get romantic in the first place? Was it a fleeting moment of passion/romance or a genuine feeling of love? Is it worth risking the friendship? 

However, you need to not be so rational that you take any romance out of it (this is also a mistake).

For example, if you became interested because you feel like your friend would be a good life partner (in regard to location, career, and a mutual desire to have children), but you don’t really think of them in a sexual way, you might be in trouble. If the sexual chemistry isn’t there, it isn’t there. You can’t force it.

2. Drop a hint.

Consider mentioning in passing that you wonder what it would be like if the two of you dated before professing your new found interest. This way, they’ll let you know if they don’t see it right away before you put yourself out there.

If they respond with a shy giggle or an indicator of interest, then you can start testing the waters for how they really feel. You may even decide to give it a trial date to test your feelings for each other.

3. Keep a good pace.

Just because you've known them a long time, it doesn’t mean your relationship is ready for a sexual component.

Treat the relationship like it’s a new one, even if you’ve known each other for years. You have to be sure that you aren’t merely getting too comfortable and thus desiring sex.

You have to ensure that all of the components are there before jumping into bed. You need to make sure it wasn’t just a temporary lustful moment that gave you the idea but a real interest in a romantic relationship.

Occasionally, it works out when close friends give into lustful moments and then end up dating, but should the sex not be what you were expecting and you end up disappointed and desiring to just be friends it could put a strain on your relationship.

That being said, it is best to get more physical right away once interest has been established. By this, I don’t mean sex or making out, but romantic gestures. Like holding hands, cuddling during a movie, sitting closer during dinner, little kisses, and all that.

You need to be sure you're testing the romantic waters to ensure that the new feeling of romance is genuine. Don’t let the awkwardness define the situation or the relationship. Push through and make sure you're giving the relationship its best chance for success.

Turning a friendship into a romantic relationship is a very stressful situation. But it doesn’t have to be. A lot of times, the simple fact that you were already friends and know a lot about each other makes it easier (less awkward "getting to know each other" conversations).

The key is open conversations and not letting it get weird. Not all relationship trials have to end horribly. We’re all adults and can accept it if someone doesn’t want a romantic component to a relationship.

It’s important to give it a try if you think you could be falling in love with your buddy. You never know, they might feel the same way and you two will live happily ever after.