5 Ways To Have Better Sex With Erotic Hypnosis (& How To Do It At Home)

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It's even easier than you thought!

When Miranda, from the show Sex and the City, decides to go on a sex strike because she’s tired of too many bad dates, she immediately begins a heated affair with a chocolate cake. After devouring it all, she dives into her trash can, licking the leftover crumbs off the carton tray.

No, she didn't undergo erotic hypnosis in the show, but there’s a rational explanation for her irrational behavior. The pleasure receptors in her brain were demanding, well… pleasure. And if not from passionate sex and sexual intimacy, then from another opium-producing source: chocolate.

As humans, everything we do — eat, shop, travel, date, having great sex — has a powerful, inner agenda that’s the driving force behind our behavior: We’re aiming for an emotional essence derived from these experiences. And as a hypnotherapist, I’ve learned that the most common emotional needs being satisfied while getting erotic are sexual intimacy, safety, excitement, passion, aliveness, and a sense of belonging.


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These feelings make us happy, and happiness is the ultimate state that we crave. That's why being sexually active is good for our emotional, and consequently (according to the science of mind/body connection), physical well-being.

So, if you’d like to turn up the heat and have a better sex life, then yes, you can! And erotic hypnosis can help you get there.

Here’s how you can have better sex in your relationship through erotic hypnosis:

1. Identify what you want.

Be specific. Can you write it down for me? That may be tricky, because stress, worry and fatigue can cause our minds to veer in the direction of what we don’t want.

To focus on what you do want may take some practice, but with a little intent, you’ll start to see it. Now that you’ve done that, let’s distill the emotional essence of what you just wrote down. (Remember, this is what you’re really reaching for.) Here are some examples:

Now, you try it. It’s easier than you think.

2. Pay attention.

Immediately after you write down what you want, you will enter the gap between where you are right now and where you want to be. That’s normal, but it can be unsettling. Because what’s in the gap are all the beliefs, opinions, and judgments that have been preventing you from achieving your goals up till now. Here are a handful of common mental blockages that we either created by ourselves when we were younger or picked up from our parents:

  • I am not good enough; something is wrong with me
  • I am not in control
  • I am unlovable; nobody wants me
  • Life is hard; I cannot enjoy life
  • I am too guilty to have pleasure

Great! Now what?

3. Reframe your mindset.

Even though it can be painful to see your negative and disempowering mindset (it’s like bullying yourself), yet, at the same time, it’s liberating. Because now you can reframe it, setting yourself free to move forward and close the gap between your desires and beliefs, thus assuring yourself that you will achieve your goals.

This is easily done by realizing that these negative judgments were created long ago, in childhood, unconsciously and by default, while you were observing your environment. However, they no longer represent who you are today: a mature grown-up; and they no longer belong in your mind, in your heart, and certainly not in your life.

Take a moment and close your eyes, seeing these old statements written on a blackboard in your mind. Now, let the adult you, the confident and sexy you (the one on the other side of your ‘gap’) come up to this board with a huge, wet sponge and just erase them — all of them, for good!

Can you give this ‘sexy gal’ or ‘hot stud’ — the passionate and victorious you — a nickname? And now, have this sexy you write down the way you truly feel inside.


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For example:

  • I am confident
  • I am joyful
  • I am happy
  • I am fulfilled
  • I am connected to all the brightness and goodness of this world
  • Life is pure pleasure and joy
  • I am lovable and desired

Write this in your own words that make sense to you and echo in your heart. Don’t worry about doing it right. Your mind will be helping you, because your mind is on your side, and it wants you to achieve your goals.

4. Practice every day.

Now, the next step is fun, because you’re consciously rewiring your brain via a natural phenomenon called self-hypnosis, which can be identified as an alpha brain wave activity. Every time you fall asleep and wake up in the morning, your brain undergoes a hypnotic state, as it shifts from consciousness to unconsciousness and vice versa.

This trance-like (or hypnagogic) state of mind is very powerful since the critical mind is still drowsy. It allows you to install your new statements (the ones the sexy you wrote on the blackboard) deep in your subconscious software, unobstructed. And I’d suggest doing just that: Install that empowering mentality in your mind right before you go to sleep.

Read your statements, mentally rehearse them; then, after they’ve been circulating through your mind all night long, say them first thing when you wake up in the morning, reinforcing your updated mentality. See? I told you this would be easy!

5. Be consistent.

Call yourself by your sexy nickname often, and either write down your statements or repeat them, reinforcing them in your mind every morning and night. Try this for two weeks, or until you fully internalize your updated mentality and become it—that person who’s confident, competent, powerful, successful and deeply satisfied, not just in bed, but in life.

I wish there was a magic wand to instantly hypnotize you into a permanent transformation, but, fortunately, there isn’t. Because only you have the power to bring forth a change — any change — first in your mind, then in your bed and in your life. Besides, there would be no fun in that!

Wouldn’t you rather do it yourself than have somebody else to do it for you? I’m not talking about sex here. I mean, wouldn’t you like to learn how to work together with your mind, making it your trusted, lifelong partner and a powerful tool in initiating any lasting shift in your performance — all on your own? In my eyes, that’s not only powerful but super-erotic!


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Katherine Agranovich, Ph.D., is a Medical Hypnotherapist and Holistic Consultant. She is the author of Tales of My Large, Loud, Spiritual Family. Call her for an office or phone consultation to attain mental-emotional alignment, and close the gap between where you are and where you want to by visiting AchieveHealthCenter.com