After The Breakup: Tapping Into Loving Healthy Relationships

Love pain and grief — no matter what the cause — limit our potential for joy

"One word — Frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." — Sophocles

Dr. Callahan’s first book was on the subject of romantic love — It Can Happen to You, The Practical Guide to Romantic Love.

As a psychologist, he worked with many serious emotional problems over the years, but it became clear to him, early on in his career, that even after a person made significant progress with their emotional issues, further dramatic improvement was possible in their life, if they could find and develop a good love relationship.

As he focused on love relationships he became both intrigued and at the same time, baffled by the fact that there seemed to be so few people who had a really good long term romantic love relationship. He found that many people stick it out over the years, but that is not the same. He noted that there were much fewer who experienced an enduring romantic love relationship where the intensity of the love is still a powerful and relevant factor after many years...

We can and do bring many problems to our love relationships. In fact, it is common that when we are intensely passionately in love, problems seem to come out from under the rocks.

“...unrequited love does not die; it's only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” –Elle Newmark The Book of Unholy Mischief

One of the greatest and most rewarding achievements in life is to have an enduring romantic love relationship. Since this is so, why is it so rare? Roger believed it is due to the destructive, and prevalent, effects of what he termed love pain. He believed the effect of love pain to be important; not just for elimination of one’s current pain but for the long term effect of maintaining healthy, loving relationships. He coined the term “amouraphobia” in that first book, to describe the love pain and the crippling effect it can have on our ability to enjoy our relationships.

It is the healing, and elimination of these past hurts, that frees us to experience the joy of loving healthy relationships.

Love pain and grief can trigger many other psychological and emotional problems.

A good many murders and suicides, and revenge take place as a result of love pain. A number of severe psychological problems can be traced to the devastating loss of a loved one, whether by rejection or through a trauma such as a disaster or war. Healing trauma can break the cycle of violence.

Because of this, Roger spent many years developing effective tapping protocols that could quickly heal the loss of a loved one, whatever the cause, whether it be “amouraphobia” or an act of war.

TFT can free you from that crippling despair and loss, allowing you to move forward with hope and even joy.

We demonstrated this and shared the tapping sequences in a Audio-Class for Valentine’s Day. Because of the on-going interest from so many we are making it available online. It is a simple, inexpensive way to begin healing those past love losses. Click here to learn more.