Ten Ways to Be a Better Online Dater

Follow these simple ten golden rules to find love online.

As everyone knows, today’s favourite method of mating and dating for singletons the world over is to join an online dating site. But what most people don’t realize is that only around 10% of dating site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen site and a whopping 70% don’t even receive one message from another member. If you follow the 10 simple steps outlined below, you too can join the 1 in 5 relationships that start online. 

1. Choose the right site. The acceptance of online dating has provided a smorgasbord of choice for love seekers but you should take a few moments to decide on the type of partner you’re looking for, not to mention the town or city where you would prefer him/her to be located. There are niche sites which cater to all sectors (single parents, rockers, gay people etc) and general sites which welcome all comers just as there are city or country specific sites and sites with a global perspective. Choosing the right site that fits your personality is probably the most important decision you’ll make when looking for a partner on line.


2. Choose a unique username. First impressions always last and the on line identity which you give yourself is the first thing that other members will see before they check-out your profile. ‘Funny’ works, ‘cryptic’ works and you won’t go far wrong even if you decide to use your own Christian name. However, if you go down the trashy or sexually suggestive route (which a lot of guys seem to do), think of what personalities you will be attracting. Remember, it is human nature to judge a book by it’s cover!

3. Upload a photo. This is crucial as a significant percentage of people only search for members who have bothered to include a picture, including me. I am certain that you want to see what other members look like so it stands to reason that other people will feel the same way about you. If the only photo you have isn’t particularly flattering, you can always mention that in your profile – it’s still better than no photo at all.


4. Complete your profile. There’s nothing more off-putting than a profile which screams “I am not taking this seriously”. If you don’t have time to complete all the categories when you are signing-up, then make the time to do so at the earliest opportunity.

5. Be upbeat and positive. If you’re feeling a little down or lacking in confidence, now isn’t the time to say so when you’re writing a description of yourself. If you come across as confident, happy and full of fun, you’ll get much more attention than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps. And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great aphrodisiac.


6. Widen your search criteria. If you generally go for people who have blonde hair, blue eyes and are between 5’4″ and 5’6″ and you narrow your search down to just these specifics, then you may be missing out on a great many other members who you’ll also find just as attractive. To start with, just search by gender, age and location and that way you’ll be giving yourself and other a fair opportunity.

7. Don’t automatically dismiss people. If you receive a message from someone who’s profile you like but who hasn’t bothered to include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to attach a photo in their dating site email or give you access to their private photos. You’ll find that many people are more willing to do this than post a picture for all and sundry to look at. However, stay safe and don’t give up personal contact details until you are ready.


8. Use all the features of the site. Many sites provide a great deal more than just an internal emailing system. Some sites might include flirts, winks, match suggestions, etc. Take advantage of everything that’s available to you to increase the chance that you have of making contact with someone special.

9. Be proactive. Once you’ve registered and completed your profile, don’t wait for others to make contact with you. When you spot someone who you think might be a good fit with yourself, write to them and introduce yourself. And don’t just say ‘Hi, I like your profile’, tell them why you’ve written to them and point out the things that you believe you have in common. A long opening message will create a much better impression than a short, perfunctory one.


10. Check back with the site. Most dating sites have new people joining all the time so remember to log-in at least once every day to view the most recent members and you can then contact anyone you like the look of before others get the chance to do so. Also, you should remember that on most sites, the members who log-in the most appear higher up the search listings than those who don’t so your profile will be easier to spot by people with whom you might be compatible.

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