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One of the most frustrating feelings is not being heard in your relationship.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Sep 07, 2019
There are many times when I’ve tried to share something important – and sometimes not even important at all – with my boyfriend, only to look over and see that he's on his phone not listening to me.
Being ignored in your relationship is more than having someone not hear you when you want to tell them something.
According to astrology, an inability to communicate can also mean a couple's Mercury signs are not in sync with one another in an ideal way.
For example, when you want your S.O. to see your point, you obviously want to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. You say what's on your heart, but he takes it in the wrong way.
Your relationship isn't broken, but something is off about the way you communicate. Just because you’re a good couple doesn’t mean there aren’t still times when you’re not seeing eye-to-eye.
There are a lot of reasons why he may not be able to see your point, some of which aren’t necessarily his fault.
Now, don’t blame yourself if you have trouble staying on point – just know that there are a lot of factors that can be at play when trying to figure out what he doesn’t understand.
One thing that is important to note is that if you decide that it’s not important for him to see where you’re coming from, and you try to shrug things off, it’s going to create a lot more problems down the road for you.
Even if it means being in disagreement or starting a more complicated conversation with each other, it’s always a good idea to stick up for yourself and be honest with him (and everyone else) in your life.
When it comes to getting your point across, astrology can help you to see what is wrong.
Knowing what his and your own communication style is, for example, can make it easier for you both to be clear about what you’re looking for from each other.
Your Mercury sign can be very valuable during this self-discovery.
Not only can you use your zodiac sign to figure out where you might be falling short when getting your point across, but you can use his zodiac sign to make it easier on him, too.
Keep reading to find out why he doesn’t see your point, based on your Mercury zodiac sign, and how to fix it.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, he doesn’t see your point because you’re not giving him a chance to. You tend to talk over people who you have something to say, but you forget that you’re not the only one who has something to say (hint: so does he).
Interrupt less and listen more. If, after you've given him more than enough chances to see where you’re coming from, he still doesn’t get it, that’s another problem. But at least you can say that you’ve given him a fair shot, right? Right.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus, he doesn’t see your point because you don’t know how to let things go. How is he supposed to understand what he did wrong this time if you keep bringing up last time things went south?
No matter what it is you’re trying to get him to understand, none of that matters if you can’t let go of something you said was squashed.
Stop talking in circles and try to focus on the matter at hand. If something from the past really is still bothering you, by all means, tackle it together.
But don’t let whatever point you’re trying to make now get muddied up by things that aren’t as important.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini, he doesn’t see your point because you lack the patience for a real conversation and don’t listen when he talks. I know, you weren’t ready to hear that bombshell, but am I wrong?
You like your information, in short, easy-to-read bullet points that you can glance at while multitasking, but bullet points a real relationship does not make. Take the time to really engage in the conversation, tell him what’s on your mind, and listen to what he has to say. Consider it a practice in “The Evolved Gemini 101.”
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer, he doesn’t see your point because you bottle up the root of the problem and keep it to yourself. As weird as this is to say about an emotionally available and intuitive zodiac sign, it’s often hard for you to open up to others, including your S.O.
You find it a lot easier to listen to other people’s problems and handle those than it is to tackle what’s bothering you. If you want him to see your point, you need to get comfortable with the uncomfortable and let yourself be vulnerable. It’s the only way, Cancer.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, he doesn’t see your point because you make it all about you. I know, I know. If it’s “your point” then it’s obviously going to be about you, but if you’re involving him in something you think is important, you can’t get selfish and only let him tell you what you want to hear. How is that fair?
Try talking in “we” statements when showing him your point, rather than exclusively “I” statements. It’ll prove to him that you’re in this together, instead of him being a pair of ears to listen to you complain or vent. It’ll also make him feel a lot more emotionally invested in the conversation.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo, he doesn’t see your point because only you understand what’s going on in your mind. As a very analytical zodiac sign, you’re constantly working through problems in your head. Before you even come to him to make him see your point, you’ve got things half-figured out by now.
He feels like he’s been dropped right in the middle of an argument or conversation that is totally confusing and foreign to him. Rather than get frustrated when he seems unable to understand, try being more vocal about what you want and work through it together. Put yourself in his shoes – what would you want?
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra, he doesn’t see your point because you don’t know how to stand up for yourself. You hate conflict so much that even a whiff of a serious conversation can throw you off your game. You’d much rather change your mind to make him happy than stand up for the point you really want him to see and possibly start an argument.
It’s important to lean into the fear that sticking to your guns can lead to for you, as well as making sure you stick to your true self in the process. Don’t change your mind just to please him, but make sure you’re both on the same page so he clearly sees your point.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio, he doesn’t see your point because you’re super sensitive when it comes to honest conversation. You have no problem confronting him if you have something stuck on your mind, but it doesn’t change the fact that your emotions can get in the way of you making any sense when it comes to making your point.
While it’s important to say exactly how you feel when you’re making your point, don’t let your feelings overwhelm you. If you need to take some time alone to gather your thoughts and revisit the conversation, do it because it will probably help him see your point more clearly.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius, he doesn’t see your point because you can be tactless and offensive at times, especially when it comes to serious conversations. You want to be taken seriously by him, but when it comes to listening to his side of things, you sometimes put your foot in your mouth.
Remember to think of the big picture here. It’s clearly important for him to see your point, so give him a chance to have a candid conversation with you instead of completely blocking his opinion out. You never know – it may be helpful.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn, he doesn’t see your point because when you talk down to him, he shuts you out. You know better than anyone that no one likes being talked down to, so why is that your go-to when you’re feeling attacked or unheard.
The reason you put on your “CEO voice” with him is because you treat your wants and needs like business propositions. There’s nothing wrong with letting your guard down and talking to him like a human being. This may be hard for you, but it’s not impossible.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius, he doesn’t see your point because you prefer to compromise than live with the discomfort of disagreeing with someone. You’re certainly very opinionated with a lot to say, but you’re also a people pleaser at heart.
Don’t isolate your feelings when you try to get him to see your point. Let yourself be vulnerable and, if it helps, let him know that this isn't a fight – it’s just you being honest and open with him.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces, he doesn’t see your point because you tend to totally meander from the point and confuse him (and yourself) in the process. You get absorbed in your thoughts often enough that they can cloud your reality and what you’re really trying to say.
To really get him to understand you, bring it to a realistic level that he can really understand. Mind you, you’re not dumbing it down for him, you’re showing him your point rather than just telling him.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes.