How To Tell If He's Keeping His Options Open & Seeing Other Women, By His Zodiac Sign
It's not quite having an affair but it sure does come close!
Unsplash If there were things we could all agree that we would wish for in relationships, I bet one of those things would be for our guys to be more direct about their feelings for us.
Nothing is more frustrating than trying to decipher if his feelings for you are genuine, or if they are just honest for the time being… you know, until someone better comes along.
It’s just confusing to know if he’s serious about you or if he’s keeping his options open.
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Honestly, while it may hurt a little to know that he’s seeing other women besides you, it's a blessing.
Wouldn't it make you feel better to know upfront that things weren’t exclusive rather than find out later after thinking you were exclusive for so long?
Each zodiac sign handles hiding things and lying differently, just like they handle being in relationships differently.
Knowing what to do or say after finding out that he’s been seeing other people is one thing, but figuring out how you want to move on after this knowledge is another thing.
Do you continue to see him or do you break it off? Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what to do.
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Before you can decide if he’s worth the trouble, you need to know for sure if he’s seeing other women and not telling you about it.
For some zodiac signs (Pisces, Gemini, Scorpio, and maybe even Leo), not being honest about who they’re dating comes easily.
All they have to do is keep their romantic life and personal life separate, and there’s no problem (for the most part).
Other zodiac signs believe in love over everything else, so being anything less than honest with the person they’re dating is a no-go.
If you ask me, I would much rather know right away that the person I was interested in was dating other women besides me.
Talking from experience, nothing is more heartbreaking to think that a real relationship is forming with someone only to turn around and have them make their relationship with someone else official on Facebook the next day… and that has unfortunately happened to me, twice.
If I knew what signs to look out for, I might have been able to save myself the disappointment of finding out later, but that kind of experience is just part of growing up.
To save yourself from that kind of experience, though, take a moment to brush up on the most common signs he might exhibit when he’s seeing someone else.
Here’s how to tell if he’s seeing other women, based on his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries may be seeing other women if he always tells you that he has other plans when you ask if he’s free to hang out… plans that don’t involve you.
Aries is a busy, popular kind of guy who always has something going on, but he usually tells you what he’s got going on so that you can plan to hang out another time.
If he’s seeing someone else and doesn’t want you to know about it, he’s going to tell you when he’s busy.
(Like he usually does when you’re trying to get together.). But, he won’t tell you what he’s doing or who he’s hanging out with.
He doesn’t have to do these things, but if he used to and doesn’t now, something is going on.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus is usually straightforward with people and doesn’t see much value in skirting the truth or telling lies… why go to all the trouble to make up a story when it’s easier to just tell people what you mean?
That’s how he likes to think, but he’s human just like the rest of us and doesn’t always tell the truth, even when he wants to be the bigger person.
If he’s seeing other women behind your back, that “I’m better than everyone” air about him goes away pretty fast.
Instead, you’ll get a Taurus with a lot of excuses for where he’s been, what he’s been doing, and who he’s been doing it with.
If your Taurus suddenly acts weird and always makes excuses, you need to dig a little deeper.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini loves keeping everyone up to date on what’s happening in his life.
Whether he’s planning something for the weekend with all of his friends, or he’s tagging you in posts to give you some ideas for a date night, social media is his way of connecting with friends and family.
That said, Gemini may be seeing other women without you knowing if he’s quiet on social media.
For someone who is always glued to his phone and plugged into the online world to totally disappear.
Or, at least, seem like he’s limiting what he shares on Twitter and Instagram – there is more than likely something bigger going on.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
When you date Cancer, you’re pretty much part of his entire life.
It might take Cancer some time to commit fully to the relationship, but once he does, he’s ready to share every part of his life with you.
When Cancer shares his life with you, he tells the people he works with about you, takes you to meet his friends, and welcomes you into his family.
If Cancer is seeing other women besides you though, none of this exists.
He can’t run the risk of confusing you with everyone else he’s got in his life.
So rather than try to keep up appearances with everyone else he’s dating, he just shuts everyone out.
That means no home visits, no hanging out with his friends, and everything in between.
You know, just in case.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo may be seeing other women if everything is always last minute with him.
Leo is someone who always tries to keep his schedule as clear-cut and easy to understand as possible, for his sake as much as yours.
He always has something in his life going on.
He might be at a training course at work, or out having drinks with friends on the weekend.
It coule be a gym class at that new yoga studio downtown.
There’s no need for him to try to remember the plans he’s made with you when he can just add them to his calendar.
If everything he’s planning is last minute though, something else is up.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo dates to find someone he can call The One, or at least someone he can see himself dating for along time.
He has no problem keeping things casual and dating a few people at one time if things are still new with you, either.
When he does date other people though, he always tries to keep you in the loop.
If Virgo is dating other women and you don’t know about it, there’s something else going on.
You can tell this is the case if he never fully commits to you and your relationship… without giving you a good enough reason why.
It’s possible you’re neck-and-neck with someone else he cares a lot about, and he’s just not ready to commit to either of you yet. Harsh.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
You know how some people act differently, depending on who they’re hanging out with?
Like how someone may act all chill with one group of friends, but be someone completely different around another group of friends?
Yeah, that’s how Libra acts when he’s seeing other women.
With so many people in his life, it’s hard for him to keep his personalities straight!
Libra puts on airs whenever he’s seeing someone behind your back.
He’s someone who wants to make everyone happy, which usually means adopting new personalities to make the other person feel more comfortable.
Even if this isn’t the Libra you know, it could be the Libra someone else knows. He’s just having a hard time keeping his ever-changing self straight.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
It’s a myth that Scorpio is shy and reserved when he’s around people.
While that may be true if you don’t know him on a personal level yet, but if you’re dating him, then there’s a good chance you know that he’s not shy or reserved at all.
In fact, if you’re dating each other, he’s going to want you to know everything about him.
That's why, when he’s seeing other women, him being secretive and vague with you should be out of the ordinary.
He’s clearly trying to keep something from you. Rather than just be honest with you, he’s hoping that keeping the truth from you will be enough.
Obviously, it’s not. If his behavior feels off to you, there’s something he’s hiding.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
If Sagittarius is seeing other women without you knowing about it, you'll be able to tell when he keeps stressing how casual and little commitment there is to your relationship.
He might not be as honest with you as he is with other people. If he wants to spare your feelings, he’ll try to insinuate that things between you aren’t as serious as you think they are.
This is as much for his sake as it is for yours. He’s trying to let you down easy and make sure you don’t catch feelings for him when he’s not all in.
It’s a flaky and non-committal thing to do, but what else can you expect from Sagittarius?
The more he stresses things between you aren’t a big deal without you talking about it first, the more you should worry.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
When Capricorn dates, he’s one of those people who date to find The One.
He wants to be with someone for a long time; not be in the dating game for years and years.
If he can find someone who makes him happy he can settle down with, he’s going to get the ball rolling as fast as possible.
If Capricorn is seeing other women, you’ll know if he’s always canceling on you.
Even if it’s to grab a quick coffee on your lunch break, something is up.
If he’s using the time he could be spending getting to know you better hanging out with someone else.
He’s not afraid of commitment, so if he’s unable to commit to your relationship, there may be someone else in his life.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius is seeing other women if he disappears for hours at a time.
Sure, he’s a big advocate for quiet time and being alone, but he’s also pretty plugged into technology.
Even if he’s not responding to your texts right away, you can still see that he’s active on Instagram or has read your messages.
Aquarius may be seeing other women if he goes off the grid, only to return hours later without an excuse.
He doesn’t have to tell you what he’s been up to.
But, if he’s spending that time with another woman, he might not want to tell you what he’s been up to anyway.
In fact, the usually laid back, calm Aquarius might even get defensive if you ask.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Romance and affection are very important to Pisces when he’s in a relationship.
Even if things are still new between you two, he’s going to make an effort to let you know he likes you through touching.
PDA, and other emotional moves he has in his arsenal. If he’s seeing other women? Nada.
Pisces may be seeing other women besides you if there’s no intimacy between you two.
This is especially true if he doesn’t want to get close to you and isn’t upset or quiet – two telltale signs that he’s not having a good day.
If he seems fine but just doesn’t want to cozy up, someone else may be on his mind.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.