How Each Zodiac Sign Reacts To Being Rejected, According To Astrology

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How Each Zodiac Sign Reacts To Being Rejected, According To Astrology
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Rejection can bring out the worst in us.

Rejection is the WORST. Have you ever been into someone so much that it takes you a minute to realize that they’ve just rejected you?

When you’re blinded by love (or blinded by “really like”) it can be hard to imagine that another person would dump you so fast. And yet…Ouch.

Whenever I think about not seeing rejection coming, I think about that episode of Parks and Recreation where Rob Lowe’s character dumps Rashida Jones’ and she doesn’t realize he’s told her that it’s over until later because he did it so sweetly.

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And even after being rejected by him, she’s still hoping there’s a chance that things could change because it doesn’t really feel real.

There are other times when you kind of know that rejection is coming — whether there’s just no spark or you’ve been trying to make the relationship work and it’s just stagnating — and it can still take you by surprise.

No one likes being told no. And rejection is very much the same as being told no, you can’t have something. No, you can’t make this work because I’m not into you.

But just because these times are much harsher and probably a lot easier to wrap your head around than having nice Chris from Parks and Rec dumping you with a glowing smile, it all still hurts the same.

And we all react to rejection the same way, too.

I mean, we react to rejection differently based on our horoscopes, but there is that initial sting that we all share right after being rejected.

But once we’ve had a little time to process what just happened, that’s when our reactions and how we deal with rejection starts to differ.

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Some zodiac signs are like, “Okay, whatever, now I can get with someone who actually wants to spend time with me,” while others would rather drown themselves in Ben and Jerry’s newest ice cream flavor “I Can’t Stop Crying Right Now.”

Some zodiac signs get so broken up even after being rejected by their crush or a stranger, instead of someone they know pretty well and may have been flirty or friends with before trying to take it further.

There’s no right way and wrong way to deal with rejection, just take it from me: when someone wants you around, they’ll make it known.

If they’re playing with your emotions or leading you on right before they yank the rug out from underneath you and reject you, they’re not worth the tears… Maybe 10% of the tears, but definitely not all of them.

And even when it’s super painful and you’d rather have a serious talk with your bed about making a long-term commitment after being rejected, sometimes rejection is a GOOD thing.

And it can even make you stronger, more focused, and even help you better articulate what you want in a relationship.

So, rejection? Sucks in general. But in the long run, it ain’t such a bad thing.

You know how you always hear stories about how celebs like Oprah got fired when she was younger, but it ended up making her the Oprah everyone loves today?

Think of rejection in your relationships setting you up to becoming the Oprah of love, where you can use these heartbreaks to help put you on the right path to finding that one soulmate or person that’s meant for you and only you.

Until then, here’s how your zodiac sign reacts to rejection, based on astrology.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries, you fear rejection, whether that is secretly or admittedly. When you face rejection in your relationship or would-be relationship, you have a hard time controlling your emotions.

You might feel like there is nothing to worry about when it comes to your relationship because you already know what you’re doing.

But if rejection takes you by surprise, it can throw your whole demeanor off.

You might be good at handling a lot of things, but rejection is not one of them. There’s a good chance you start out acting immature after being rejected, simply because you didn’t see it coming.

You might even try to negotiate with the other person, promising to always be a good partner and even changing yourself to make them happy, before accepting that rejection isn’t going to change their mind.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Taurus, rejection freaks you out because it’s usually attached to comfort and reliability. Not only doesn’t being rejected by someone you were into make you uncomfortable, but it also puts you in a headspace you’re not ready to confront yet.

When you’re faced with rejection, it means things have to change: your feelings for someone, your future now that that person is no longer in it, and your comfort level.

You’re not so great with change and the unknown, and rejection only makes that worse. Ultimately, you feel sad more than anything, but you can also feel a little lost.

Because you’re so used to that one person being in your life, you might try to spark that romance and feeling for each other again or you’ll just give up — it all depends on how you’re feeling when the rejection happens.

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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini, you can agree just as much as anyone else can that rejection sucks. But for you, rejection isn’t something that needs to be drawn out and dramatic – especially if you were never really into it in the first place.

You’ll try not to feel too down for too long after the initial shock of being rejected, but chances are high that you’re already looking for someone new because you were never really that emotionally invested.

For you, life is about living and having fun, and you don’t really see the point in trying to hang onto people who clearly don’t want anything to do with you.

Unless you were convinced that this person who just rejected you was your soulmate and no one else will be as wonderful as this person (I mean, besides yourself), rejection doesn’t mean much to you in the grand scheme of things.

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer, I hate to say it but it’s not that hard to disagree with: you’re kind of a child when it comes to rejection. You know how a baby will cry if you literally take their candy away from them? That’s you, except you’re not as forthcoming with your emotions.

When dealing with rejection, you can revert to a passive-aggression when you want to convince the other person that you don’t care when you clearly do.

This dramatic side of you, coupled with the fact that you won’t actually confront the person about how you really feel after they reject you, can be really frustrating.

But just because you’re a little bit grudging doesn’t mean you’re going to become bitter about love after rejection.

You’re not the type to give up on love just because you’ve been rejected; you still have a lot of love in your heart to give.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leo, despite how stuck-up it might sound on the surface, you’ve never really gotten used to rejection because you probably grew up getting everything you wanted – or at least made it a habit to be treated the best in your past relationships.

And hey, I’m not saying this is a bad thing at all – you know your worth and you want to make sure others know it, too — but it can sometimes be a good thing to face rejection.

When you are inevitably faced with rejection (because no one is immune), it feels like the other person is telling you that you’re not good enough; and not just for them, for everyone, which is just not true.

You may try to somehow prove that you’re the best partner for that person, but just know that this very rarely works.

You’re better off finding that person who will always treat you like royalty — without making you work for it.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo, rejection is a hard pill for you to swallow because you feel like you’ve always put your everything into your relationships. And to have someone tell you that it isn’t enough? Impossible!

When handling rejection, you will first try to validate the rejection; you think that by acknowledging that you’ve been rejected, you can somehow make yourself feel better before your overthinking catches up with you.

When you validate how you’re feeling and acknowledge the fact that everyone deals with rejection (it’s not just you), it can help you keep feeling like you’re in control.

That said, rejection is HARD, there’s no denying that, and you’ll often hide how you’re really feeling and opt for a tougher outer shell after rejection, even if you’re totally crushed inside.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra, rejection for you is both hard and not that big a deal. If you’re being rejected by your crush or by a total stranger, you don’t often hold these feelings for too long afterward. If someone you love is rejecting you, it can take longer for you to get back on your feet, but you always bounce back.

You might want to compromise with the other person first (so you don’t lose a big love), but in the end, you accept it.

You know that life is full of ups and downs and that you can’t get back to your ups without pushing through the downs. If you let yourself stay upset over rejection, you’ll never find your happiness again.

You’re most likely to be honest and vocal about your feelings, rather than tuck them away and hope the other person can read your mind; being honest in love will make you a stronger person.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio, you absolutely hate rejection (no duh). More than that, though, you have a very hard time handling it like an adult. You’re not someone who is going to stomp your feet and pout, but you will unleash your inner dragon.

Right after being rejected, you will probably be mad and stubborn – making sure your partner knows you’re not going down without a fight.

There’s also a good chance you’ll say something like, “I knew it,” as if you always expected that this person you put all of your time and love into would turn around and betray you one day. And as for forgiveness?

If you forgive your (now) ex-partner at all, it won’t be for a very long time. Rejection is something you never want to deal with, but will still convince yourself it’s going to happen anyway.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius, you can go one of two ways when dealing with rejection, depending on who’s rejecting you.

If you’re not really emotionally tied to someone and they end up rejecting you, you’re most likely going to act nonchalant and unbothered.

If it’s someone you really care about, you might be unaccepting of this sudden change of emotions at first and denying that this is happening.

Either way, rejection sits with you. You don’t have to be rejected by someone you’ve loved and known for a decade for it to resonate with you. It might not always make you sad, but you will remember it.

You’re the type of person who wants what you want out of life, but you don’t hold onto the past when sh*t happens. You will most definitely grow from rejection.

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn, you put a lot of effort into your relationships NOT to get rejected. Rejection for you is like cooking a big meal for someone you really want to impress and having them tell you it tastes awful — or like cooking for Gordon Ramsey and expecting a glowing review.

My point is, love is an investment to you and to have someone snatch it away almost instantly is devastating.

When dealing with rejection, you will most likely go through what led to the rejection. Was it something you did? Were you too intense?

There’s a good chance that you’ll be upset with how much you’ve lost, even if you don’t share that with your partner right away.

You know that you will need to say something to them, but you’ll want to be sad first.

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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius, you might not want to admit it, but you’re not very “adult-like” when it comes to rejection. You try to tell yourself and everyone around you that you’re chill and that rejection isn’t a big deal, but it is.

When facing rejection, you’re going to get angry, there’s no doubt about that. But you probably won’t want to talk about it with your partner… maybe ever if you can swing it.

And unfortunately, you most likely won’t be able to act like an adult about it until you’re completely over the person.

You might cry, badmouth them to your friends, or just unfollow them from all social media outlets, but even thinking about forgiving your partner is off the table until you pout.

Being distant and cold works for you, so you’ll end up acting salty about it every chance you get.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces, when someone you love and care about rejects you, you immediately blame yourself for it. In your mind, the only reason why someone would break off a relationship with you is if you did something to drive them away.

And if your partner tries to explain why this isn’t working out, there’s a good chance you won’t believe them. Ultimately, you’re sad and disappointed after rejection.

It might take some time to heal – maybe even longer than most people need after rejection — but you will get back out there and try again. Unless your partner tells you why you’re being rejected, you’re not the type of person to push it.

You will, however, start becoming more aware of what other people think of you and become more self-conscious, thinking you can stop rejection before it happens again by being someone you’re not.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.