If He Does These 10 Things, He's A 'Ludus Lover'

Photo: unsplash / nathan jefferis
10 Signs He's Not Ready For A Serious Relationship

Hint: it's not a good thing!

Ludus is one of the Greek words for love but it doesn’t actually mean love. To be a ludus lover is to not take love too seriously. To love without a sense of commitment. In other words, a serious relationship isn't in their near future.

RELATED: If He Has These 6 Traits, He's Definitely Not Ready For A Relationship With You

1. They act like they’re committed to things

But they barely go through with it and that also goes for your relationship. They’re not the kind of person to commit, but they do warn you. 

2. They’re playful with their love

As in they’ll have pillow fights with you or even horse around. It’s not because they’re immature per say, but because they have a child’s heart and love to have fun.

3. They’ve warned you that they’re not into serious relationships

Because it’s just not their thing. They want to enjoy life for what it is, so settling down is not on their minds.

4. You started out in an almost relationship

Until you both finally came to the conclusion that this was an actual relationship, even if it’s not all that serious.

RELATED: 7 Uncomfortable Signs You're In An 'Almost' Relationship That Won't Work Out

5. They don’t do the whole good morning/night text thing

Because it’s the same as being clingy. They’re not the kind of people who express love through the little things.

6. They’ve proposed having an open relationship...

And you wrestled whether or not you’re comfortable with that. You’d rather be with them but you also don’t want to be uptight.

7. ...And threesomes

Which you were happy saying no to.

8. They’re sometimes emotionally detached

Because only part of their heart is in this relationship so they sometimes come off as cold.

9. But they do make the effort to show they care about you

Because they do care even if it doesn’t show. They just don’t see you in their future.

10. It takes a while for them to say “I love you.” 

You’ve accepted the fact that they may never say it. But at the same time, you hope to hear it because you have love for them.

RELATED: 3 Ways To Know EXACTLY When It's Time To Say "I Love You"

Marie is an old soul and nerdy Brooklyn native who loves a good book on a rainy day. Find her on Facebook.

This article was originally published at PuckerMob. Reprinted with permission from the author.