The Way Women NEED To Be Touched In Order To Have Orgasms (According To Science)

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Science Confirms Women Need Clitoral Stimulation In Order To Have Orgasms

By Anka Radakovich

If women are still wondering why they’re not having more orgasms during penetrative sex, or if men are wondering why they’re not giving women orgasms this way, it all comes down to one thing... the clitoris — A.K.A the “happy button,” the “little girl in the pink boat,” or “the pearl in the oyster.”

It just wants to be rubbed.

And now science has confirmed what women have been telling men for decades. Orgasms are not going to magically happen through thrusting sexual penetration alone.

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A new study from The Kinsey Institute not only reveals that women need more clitoral stimulation, but also how they way women really liked to be touched in order to induce their orgasms.

The study, led by Kinsey’s spectacular sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick and her team and sponsored by OMGYes, is titled "Women's Experiences with Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results from a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94" (Yay 94! It’s never too late, ladies!) and was recently published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

Using online surveys and video chats, the researchers asked 1,055 women exactly how they liked being touched.

Among the results, 63 percent of women say they like it when their partner uses “up and down” motions, 51 percent say they prefer a “circular” touch, and 30 percent like it when their partner goes “side-to side.”

Unsurprisingly, only 18.4 percent of the women surveyed reported their orgasms can be induced from intercourse alone.  

This statistic should induce women to tell their lovers to get some finger and tongue action going.  

One particularly thought-provoking question the women were asked was, “For you, what do you think helps some orgasms feel better than others?”

This is such an important thing to consider, and yet something most people never ask the person they are trying to give an orgasm to.

Most women responded that they prefer a “light or medium” touch on the clitoris, with only 10 percent preferring to receive “firm pressure.”

The 4 most popular moves specifically related to clitoral stimulation were these:

  • Rhythmic motion 
  • Motion that circles around the clitoris
  • Switching between different motions
  • Switching between more and less intense touch

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In findings related to women's preferred means of "indirect clitoral stimulation":

  • 69 percent of women report that they like being touched “through the skin above the hood”
  • 28 percent enjoy having their labia pushed together around the clitoris (like a sandwich)
  • 20 percent prefer being stimulated “through the skin on the right side of your clitoris”
  • 9 percent prefer the same above but through the left side

The researchers concluded that: 

“Findings may inform sexuality education as related to pressure in terms of individual differences in genital stimulation, developing a trajectory of sexual pleasure among women.”

Their hope is that this study may also “foster greater sexual pleasure as well as expand couple communication," as they conclude with advice that women and couples, "Go explore and see what you like."

So, it’s time to get busy on the “little lady” of pleasure!

Anka Radakovich is a legendary sex columnist, certified sexologist, sex educator, screenwriter, and author. She is currently a columnist for British GQ and has written for Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Men's Journal, Seventeen, Glamour, Maxim and more.

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